I know a lot of you may allready know this, but I wanted to share this anyway.

I was laying down, trying to get some sleep when I realized…

What it means to be a strong person.

I have often asked myself what that means, to be a “strong” person. If it was their ability to validate themselves, the amount of respect they demanded, or how dedicated they were to a cause….

But, its all three. . Because they can validate themselves, even if no one else agrees. Because they only consider ones who respect them to be friends. Because they are dedicated to the cause of themselves, of how they live.

They draw their strength from knowing who they are, and that is all they need to know. It is the voice of many that will move the masses, but it is the voice of one, that will send a clear message.

At the end of the day, all that matters is that we have a peace with ourselves. That you can hear your own message, loud and clear, from yourself. That will give you the strength of direction , and that voice…will give you the inspiration to follow it.

What it means to be a strong person.

I have often asked myself what that means, to be a “strong” person. If it was their ability to validate themselves, the amount of respect they demanded, or how dedicated they were to a cause….

I think you are a strong person. . . already. I once read “Achievement should not be measured in how far one travels but in the obstacles one has over come”. . . over coming obstacles also makes one strong. . .




But, its all three. . Because they can validate themselves, even if no one else agrees. Because they only consider ones who respect them to be friends. Because they are dedicated to the cause of themselves, of how they live.

I haven’t a clue if I am a strong person but I am secure in who I am. I have accepted myself as being me a while back. I quit trying to be what others thought I should be. . . I have some areas that need work but who doesn’t.

I have yet to met or become the flawless human being. . .



They draw their strength from knowing who they are, and that is all they need to know. It is the voice of many that will move the masses, but it is the voice of one, that will send a clear message.

Knowing who I am and accepting me as being me has allowed me to be able to extend this to others. I can be accepting of who they are without feeling the need to change them or change may self. . they can be free to be who that are and I can be free to be me. . .




At the end of the day, all that matters is that we have a peace with ourselves. That you can hear your own message, loud and clear, from yourself. That will give you the strength of direction , and that voice…will give you the inspiration to follow it.

Well said Vhan!

I just love those "aha" moments!!

I'd like to share this poem that I came across a few months back, it's beautiful and I believe it is a similar message, hope you like it......

Our Deepest Fear

By Marianne Williamson





Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?”

Actually, who are you not to be?

You are a child of God.

Your playing small doesn’t serve the world.

There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking

So that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We are born to make manifest

the Glory of God that is within us.

It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.

And as we let our light shine, we unconsciously

give other people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear,

our presence automatically liberates others.

Very well said Vhan. I consider myself to be a strong person on the outside, but not on the inside. Confusing? Let me try and explain. Most people only see the outside of a person. They see their qualities, work ethic, values, etc. I am a very stong person on the outside. I work long hours when needed, I take great interest in the lives of the individuals I serve, I am smart and know how to get things done. But on the inside, I am a mess. I worry all the time, low self esteem, think about my mom and how much I miss her, basically don't have many positive thoughts. NO ONE, well, except you guys now, really knows that. I mentioned to my psychiatrist yesterday that I have a tendance to be pessimistic. He said he was suprised by that and he didn't know that about me (we have worked together through mental health crisis for over a year now). I hide it well. I am pessimistic about myself and my life.

I don't think I will ever truly know my true self. I am always changing, growing older, learning new lessons. Maybe when it is time for me to leave this earth, will it all come into focus.

I am very happy for you in discovering this sense of self. You sound much better today!

Vhan, wow. Way to go.

I know its not very "insightfull" but I figured it was worth shareing :p

I know its not very "insightfull" but I figured it was worth shareing :pIt was definitely worth sharing!! Thanks!!