Just wondering if it is just me in general or if it is the ADHD. My father has a new girlfriend. She is a very wonderful person whom I really like. There is one problem: When she talks, she doesn't shut up! And she goes on and on and on about the same subject. Long after I am ready to drop it. All you can do is sit there and look at her.

Does anyone else encounter this with someone they know? Could that be the ADHD. I mean, I know all about trailing off in conversation, not paying attention, blah blah. But with her I listen to what she has to say but you just can't say anything in return. She never stops talking. And she is very laid back and easy going. Sometimes I just want to scream "shut up" at the top of my lungs!

But she's such a nice person (she breeds Rottweilers too! I have two myself).

Does anyone else encounter this with someone they know?

Yea my un-medicated ADHD partner. . . I didn't know I could be a quiet person until I met him.


Could that be the ADHD

My question is : To whose ADD do you refer ?

Yours or hers?

One symptom of ADD/ADHD is the urge to finish another person's sentence, or to shout at them: "Get to the damn point!"

On the other hand, some people need shoutin', if they happen to be self-absorbed windbags that like the sound of their own voice. Your dad's girlfriend may be a super person, but she may also have issues of her own that make her rattle on like an auctioneer.

Or, she may simpley be a windbag.

Yes, people like that drive us ADDers nuts, but they also drive 'normies' crazy, too.

Does your dad have hearing aids?

Boy - do I really know someone like that! I have the sweetest neighbor, and he's an EXTREMELY educated man (this I learned from his wife, friends, and he has mentioned things that happened when he was a student at this school or that school). He also is in the counseling and teaching field!!!????!!! :eek:

It's funny because he is one of the most lovable men I have ever met, and I often drift into an extended "Hello. How are you today?" with him without even thinking. But then - after 5 minutes? (or however long, feels like 35 minutes) I REMEMBER - oh ya, I remember this . . . THIS is something I don't like.

It must be much more bothersome for you being that it's your FATHER'S girlfriend. You, unfortunately, will HAVE to see her from time to time. I would suggest that the next time you find yourself being driven crazy by her incessant talking - I would just excuse yourself and say that you need a little "alone time" because you are feeling that one of your "headaches" may be coming on - and the BEST way to avoid them is to not be around too much noise or TALKING! (Yes. I tell "little white lies." But I know that some people don't believe that is a good thing to do - so, just my suggestion.)

I have found that those people get so wrapped up in their talking that they won't even pick up on it if you are worried that you might sound RUDE or insulting or hurt their feelings. With that fella I described, I finally would just have to say - WHILE HE WAS STILL TALKING - "Ooo, I really gotta go now!" wave, and walk away. Sometimes he'd still be talking while I was half-way in my front door! :eyebrow:

Sue

P.S. I believe I have been one of those "talkers" myself. :o I will sense that the other person is getting bored or frustrated and TRY to switch gears and ask THEM questions so that THEY can talk . . . but I often just end up talking on some more. When it's people I know I'll have to repeatedly be around, I sometimes tell them to please politely tell me to "shush up" if they notice me getting too jibber-jabbery.