I have had a series of short high intensity relationships with the wrong sort of men. I finally found a man who is my equal intellectually, and who is interesting enough to keep my attention. Unfortunately, last year, we broke up due to my "ADD problems." I was not diagnosed at the time. Now that I am diagnosed and I can pinpoint my problems, I am working my way toward solving them. I have been talking with my ex in hopes of working out our problems (because I believe he is truly worth it). We disagree, however, on how I should go about fixing my life. I appreciate his suggestions but I do not follow any of them because I don't agree with them. He interprets my disagreement to mean I am not listening to him. I like input, but I seem to have what I call a backwards way of thinking, which means what works for other people doesn't always work for me. I need to find creative, outside the box solutions to my problems. Does anyone else have these problems? Is there any way I can get him to "see" me? I don't think my diagnosis is bad, I just have to play the game differently. But how can I do this when everybody wants me to fill the mold of "who they think I should be"? People find me frustrating and exasperating and I am becoming frustrated with always being the annoying person. If people would just be patient and take time with me, I can be great. Why is nobody willing to do that?

This is much like accepting or even, heaven forbid, ASKING for advice about your own infants from your parrents (and others)

Many new parents find they must assert the "I'm the parent of this child" card to shut donw the powerful flow of wrong headed suggestions.

I'm afraid you are listening, and the answers are great answers, to the wrong problems, so yo are rejecting them.

i think you have to be who you are, and they have to accept it. Period. no "future change required."

If someoen is STUPID, is there anything you do to change them? Immature? Bigoted?

keep looking for someone who ACCEPTS you. (You haven't found that person yet!) so quit looking in your discard pile.

Another thing to think about is that ADDers solve problems differently than non-Adders... Here's a parenting example:
Say two children are arguing: An Adder will walk between the two and split them up while an non-adder will use a more vocal action.

I'm on the bandwagon, wizephoenix... if he really wants you, he will put up with the fact that you are solving your problems your way instead of his.

If he doesn't really want you... why do you want him?

wanting is fine,

fighting to have what doesn't fit is an error.

Okay, everybody is right.
In my defense, however, it is sometimes difficult to choose who we want to be with, even if they are not the best match for us.
I also need to add that this issue is not too pressing. We talk occasionally, just not everyday.
Sometimes I wonder if there is any guy who could handle me.
Is this ADD a loner sentance?