Do any of you have any expirences with people in your life whom you cant help but describe as evil?

I know Ive mentioned my mother in here before, and if it were financially feasable I WOULD move out.


I just have trouble convincing myself that I am the weird one, and Im am sure that is because of the whole hyperfocus ADD thing, so Im just going to vent.



My mom has a horrible habbit of talking while chewing her food. It repulsees me hearing her food mush around while she talks, it bother me so much in fact I cant even concentrate on what shes saying because of the disgusting mush mouth.
I have asked her repeatedly to please not talk with her mouth full.
She says its such a little insigniicant thing and that my ADD makes me hyperfocused on trivial things like how she is forced to talk with her mouth open in order to tell me something before I go "boppin away"
After several very polite requests for her to please not talk with a full mouth I finally said "DONT talk with food in your mouth"
This is me being beligerant.

Sometimes I go into a doorway and cut the corner to short and bump into something or brush into some papers...this is because of my ADD.

We turn down the heat at night to save on the heating costs. Sometime when I get up around 6am to pee I nudge the heat up a little bit. Not all the way.
When we are both up she says she couldnt figure out why she was sweating so much in bed and she though she was getting sick and it turns out I made a unilateral decision to turn up the heat.
Later in the week, roles reverse, I mention to her how I was hot that morning from her turing up the heat. She chucles and asks me "arent your blankets removeable"

This year we are nto putting up a christmas tree becasue I cant funtion perfectlly day to day. If I cant handle every day things with ease then I certainly shouldnt tackel more stuff.
This was the reason she ws so ****ed off that I have a part time job. I have the audacity to work outside the home when my home life isnt fixed yet.

I know a lot of people like that actually! They just happen to be my inlaws too! Seriously....I used to get so annoyed and angry over things like that. If I asked them to stop, I swear they consciously did it more. I have learned that you can't change people like that no matter how nice you ask or how right you are. The only thing you can change is the way you react to them. Next time she tries to talk to you with food in her mouth don't let it get to you. Tell her you're not listening because you have asked her not to do that, if she would like to tell you after she is done eating you will listen and just get up and walk away. With the heater situation I would have said "Mystery Solved. I bet you were relieved to find out that it was the heater and not you getting sick". As far as your job I would say "I appreciate your concerns mom. We will just have to agree to disagree about this". Then let it go. Don't stay angry. Once she see's that you are no longer allowing her to get to get to you in those ways, she will stop. Most of my comments to my mother in law are "wow, I never thought about it like that before" "thanks for the suggestions, you've given me a lot to think about". She can't argue with me when I respond like that and she can't say I said anything disrespectful either.

my mother is codependent so she has this way of triggering me in order to have a crisis to respond to and I notice it now and feel that she is just plain evil. The sad part is that she is in denial (she raised her alcoholic mother) and even with the undertone of resentments of me not being her "lifesaver" being her first child and all I secretly hate her in a lot of ways because I feel she made me sicker than I could've been... so yes I get the evil thing

how does everyone hera deal with passive aggressive peope, I mean I know a characteristic of ADD is to be slightly P/A so How do you deal with an extreremly P/A person?

brain deal with more eveil peps i can say.....passive an aggeassies i use them sels agaist them slefs eays just try there thingking back at them you see....

good luck brain dorm

I avoid them at all costs.

But, that's just me :)

Yeah, one of my sisters tried to take over mom and her assets after Dad died, and it took the rest of us a month and a half to get her out of there and safe, and Mom was so timid and shattered afterward... asking permission to breathe, almost, it was heartbreaking; since then, this sister hasn't contacted Mom for four years, which is okay with all of us but of course rips Mom up, because Mom has always Always ALWAYS made excuses for this Evil One.

But on a day-to-day basis? Darling, do whatever you can to get out, if it drives you this crazy, whether she's evil or not. You're not happy where you are. Find someplace that will make you happy. Think BIG! Leave the state, leave the country. FLY!!!! Don't let a little pesky thing like "can't afford it" ruin your life. Explore your options, make a plan, or don't plan, and just go.

I know, it's easy advice to give someone else. But for myself, I have found a lot of freedom and power comes from doing things that scare me. Maybe you can find a counselor to offer guidance, someone who can look at where you are and help you get where you want to be. There's ways out, hon, but you have to go and take it for yourself!

A little thing compared to some of the big advice others have offered, but for the record.... The talking with her mouth full doesn't bother you just because you have ADD. My husband doesn't have ADD at all but he has a serious peeve about people's teeth touching their fork when they eat. He can sense it from I swear three miles away. I try to be sympathetic but it's something I don't even notice (maybe there's ADD at play on this side of it-- seems like I have more to try and concentrate on than if my teeth brush my fork slightly). I don't bite my fork compulsively, it just sometimes happens. I try to help him because it makes him nuts.

But, in short, my husband is not evil or ADD and he has a minor thing that bothers him. Don't let anyone blame it on your ADD. I don't know whether your mother is actually evil, but she shouldn't be blaming random disagreements on ADD just to win the argument-- that's manipulative and wrong.

I'm not passive aggressive just plain impulsive (which can be aggressive at times) I refer to my mom as the "Founding mother of the Adderall Mom Stereotype" quite frequently because I have resentment issues about the fact that she is