so, i am really attracted to my psychiatrist :eek:...i actually have a separate therapist for therapy, this dr just prescribes my meds. i don't think it's transferrence, b/c i've only had 2 sessions w/him so far (an evaluation & a follow up).

i know it's his job to make people feel comfortable, it's just that we click extremely well. he's not that much older than me, so it's hard for me to see him as a dr i think. when we talk, it doesn't even feel like a dr/patient relationship, it feels like i'm just talking to a friend. if i stopped going to him, would it be possible for us to be friends or more since we've only had a couple of sessions? i know it's probably a stupid question, but i feel like there's a vibe there, & i can't stop thinking about him (although the "vibe" may be my wishful thinking). please help, i need advice!!!

I don't see any problems with that!!! If he is no longer your attending physicain, why not??? :)

Best of luck! :)

I know there is major ethical issues in dating ANY patient. From what I remember there has to be a 2 year time period between when you are no longer being treated by him/her and the time you start dating.

yeah, i figured there would probably be the ethical issue to deal with. i guess i just hoped that since we've only met a couple of times, maybe the possibility would be there. i hate it, b/c we get along so well :(. but, that could just be b/c he's that good at his job i guess.

It's quite possible that the two of you could be a good match for each other. However under the circumstances, it is hard to tell if you were attracted to his abilites as a clinician or as a "regular" joe. Also, the doctor-patient relationship is not a good one to judge compatibility as partners because one person is giving their all to the other all the time. As a dr. it is his responsibilty to attend to you. That's not really how it is in real life.

Just remind yourself that you got to see his best parts, and not necessarily all of his "annoying" habbits ;)

poe, I can appreciate what you're feeling. I click with my therapist really well too. We just have a lot in common. Like similiar family problems, know many of the same people, and share the same strange sense of humor. My appt. is usually half spent catching up on each others lives like 2 friends who haven't seen each other in awhile. I know just as much about him as he does me. I use to have a major crush on him. He's totally not my type in the looks department either but he can make me laugh till my belly hurts. I got past it by just accepting that he was off limits and I began to appreciate the relationship for what it is. If it were to end I'd miss it but I could leave knowing my life is better because he was a part of it. Use the connection to your advantage. It takes some people a long time to find the right psych let alone the time spent learning to trust and open up. You are lucky and found the right person and clicked right away. It's a great, solid foundation for a successful theraputic relationship.

i know you guys are right, & thank you for the advice. a lot of it probably is that he is close to my age, attractive, intelligent, & we also seem to share the same warped sense of humor :D. he does have a lot of the qualities i really like, but being that it's his job to listen to me, i'm sure that has a lot to do w/my crush :o.

it's so hard for me to think of dr's as humans so i cant even comprehend what you're saying! ;)

in other words, i always figured they were sort of in a separate league all their own. maybe thats my own issue though (inferioriry)?

I still believe it would be ok to start dating him if you stop being his patient as soon as possible! However, it certainly would be unethical if... the "doctor–patient relationship involved psychotherapy, or long-term counseling and support; the patient suffered a disorder likely to impair judgment or hinder decision-making; the doctor knew that the patient had been sexually abused in the past; [or] the patient was under the age of 20 when the doctor–patient relationship ended".He has only been involved with your medication management, correct? Therefore, as long as any of the above issues in the quote above do not apply in your situation, I doubt there would be anything unethical to be concerned about.

But you must stop seeing him as a patient ASAP.

Therefore, I think you should probably find out if he feels the same as you and then take the appropriate steps needed if you both feel the same.

Sometimes the heart just won't be denied!

Right or wrong that's my opinion! :)

Best of luck!

i love you ~seek~, i love that advice, right or wrong :D....yeah, he's not my therapist, i'm not under 20, & he is only my dr for medication management only. but, alas, i have a suspicious feeling that my interpretation of us getting along so well, may just be b/c he is really that good at his job. i've only seen him twice though, so we barely even have a dr-patient relationship (heehee). so, who knows? i don't know if i'd have the courage to actually say anything though, I may just have to stick to my fantasies ;)....i don't know, maybe...