So yesterday my husband called me on his way home from work. He was telling me a bunch of stuff about his co-workers, who is going on vacation when and how it effects his schedule. Well I kept getting lost, I guess I was getting distracted by something, but not sure what. He ended up getting a little upset with me that I wasn't following him and then I got mad at him.

After I got off the phone with him I realized that it wasn't just him I was mad at, I was mad at myself also. I was mad in general because it was such a stupid ADD moment. I was mad at him for gettng upset with me because he just doesn't get the whole ADD thing yet. So then I got mad at myself for not saying anything. I didn't say anything because I am kind of getting tired of trying to explain it and I still feel like he's going to think it's just a cop out. And I guess on some level I feel like I shouldn't have to explain myself to him!!

Do any of you adults still experience this kind of stuff with your SO's or loved ones.

All the time but my husband is pretty patient with me on things like that. He doesn't know me any other way. Besides how can he get mad at me for just being me? However, I am guilty of getting mad at him when I feel the slightest bit criticized by him over little things. That's just my own insecurities getting the best of me though. Sometimes he does it on purpose just to see me get all worked up. He's really good at that.

Oh yes !

I do this weird thing were I start to tell my husband a story and I realize he doesn't know what I'm talking about. In my mind I tell myself to stop and start from the top but I don't :rolleyes: why I have no idea :)

He stops me " wait,wait,wait who are you taking about" I get snippy even though I know it's me. :rolleyes:

I have lots more ;)

Yeah I was guilty of this behavior too, I would start a conversation, and then in the middle of him answering me, or replying to the conversation, I would then change the topic because I would be on to some other thought. LOL I have to laugh now.:)

But it is something I feel like I need to work on.

For some strange reason I get really annoyed when someone, especially my husband doesn't understand what I'm saying or didn't hear me and I have to repeat myself. You would think I would be more understanding because I'm the worst at things like that. When my husband doesn't hear me he's actually hesitant to ask me to repeat it. He actually says " Now don't get mad but I didn't hear you. Can you please say it again" After a few times of hearing his response it has really opned up my eyes to my bad attitude and I've been working really hard to be more patient. It just takes so much for me to find the write words and get them all to come out and still make sense that when someone wants me to repeat myself I get frustrated and sometimes say "just forget it".

Constantly. He had a traumatic brain injury as a child and his behavior is very ADDish because of it (Dr Amen likes to call that "Temporal Lobe ADD"). I have my own inherited brand of ADHD that includes impulsivity, and so does my daughter. He has "no time" to see a doctor about his problems because of his schedule as a trucker, and my child is an adolescent who now knows everything :rolleyes: while I know nothing. To both of them, my ADHD is inexcusable but for them its a very good reason for all types of lapses. I feel as though I am expected to be the household NT while clearly I am not :mad:.

Can I kick them both around the block?? :cool:

I think we're related.





LMBO

I think we're related too...lmao:p and yes I'm guilty as charged with this kind of behvavior as well

I am FAMOUS for being on the phone and not listening because I'm easily distracted. I'm also very talented in having a deep conversation and suddenly cutting the person off with "Hold on, I gotta ask you something...have you tried those new shakes at Sonic?" Or something else completely random. I'm pretty sure it's frustrating to have a conversation with me...haha. My boyfriend is pretty understand in fact he thinks it's cute.

It just takes so much for me to find the write words and get them all to come out and still make sense that when someone wants me to repeat myself I get frustrated and sometimes say "just forget it".
I can really relate to this. I can't even repeat what I said the first time, it's always a little different. I don't think I'll ever get my wife to understand that it will never be exactly what I said the first time. She gets angry because she feels that I should easily be able to do that.:(

AndreaPurple if you and roly_poly mixed that would be me. I am sooooooooo easily distracted and my wife sees it as not being interested or caring when that's just not the case. I'm always having to repeat myself in arguments and it always comes out different or different pieces of the big puzzle comes out and she thinks I'm jsut covering up something. I have just quit trying to explain that it's me ADD that's causing it because even though she says she undersands or wants to understand she doesn't understand and refuses to learn about it. Instead calling it a cop out or just another excuse. It's so hard because I try to explain and when trying to gather my thoughts enough to present them so that she can understand I get ditracted and when the answer doesn't come out fast enough she starts talking again causing me to lose what I was trying to put together or she acts impatient that I'm not able to spit things out as fast as she can.
I always get mad because she's not understanding and I'm unable to efficiently get her to understand. I am always wishing for a way to just dump what's in my head to hers and let her go through it and try to get the answer she's looking for. Maybe then she'll understand...

After the one my wife and I just had, I'd have to say yes. While we were both at fault it got blown out of proportion, and I should have known better; would have known better on meds.

Time to start taking them on weekends too me thinks.

I think we're related too...lmao:p and yes I'm guilty as charged with this kind of behvavior as well
:D
Odd, isn't all of it???
We ARE a peculiar bunch!

My wife likes to get distracted easily too.
I keep saying (as I've said here) she has ADD.
Maybe not.
We were at the car show today, just looking around.
She kept looking at the cars, and bumping into me.
There is almost a 100 pound difference between us.
So when she bumps into me, I'm almost knocks me out of step, or off my feet.
After the 3rd time, I got mad at her.
I asked her what was wrong with her, and she got mad at me.
I do lose my temper on occasion, and sometimes it's just little things that set me off.
But I have been in a bad mood for a few days, because of a job I applied for (that I was qualified for, and would have given me a $20-25,000 raise) that I didn't get, because 1 person had a little bit more time than I did!
It happens, and I shouldn't be upset about this.
We could use the money, I mean who couldn't?
We had a pretty good time at the show though, even though most people (reps from the nicer cars) wouldn't talk to us. The Miata guy was nice though! :D
As for the Lotus Elise, you need to be 4'9 to ride that ride.
Anything bigger than that, and you get caught trying to climb in it. (I'm 5'6)
I can see where ADD will cause arguments though, from both sides
(adder and non-adder) because of frustration, high expectations, etc.

My god I ha ve a twin here, gstien we need to get to talking.

My husband constantly gets mad at me for tunning him out and not listening or paying attention:rolleyes:

Cloud, learn to say "great honey" or "wow, tell me more."
Of course he will catch you if he says "I ate some dog poo today" and you reply with either suggestion I just gave you.
I think you would be found out then.
I have trouble doing this with my wife too.
I'm usually driving at work, have work on my mind (sometimes LOL), and then she's telling me something.
I'm good at looking interested, by smiling a lot, nodding my head, etc.
Comes from living with ADD.
My dad has me figured out though, since I've had it as a kid.
He will tell people "he's smiling and shaking his head at you, but he's not paying attention to you." (while I'm smiling and nodding my head) :D
BTW, my dad will be 70 this year, and he's still having to explain his
37 year old son. :eek:
We all have things that set us off, and life has a way of choosing those very things.
Of course I know what my wife's buttons are, and I push them quite often.
Why?
I have no idea....
So I can see both sides of this Andrea.

Yeah i have major problems with being distracted while my boyfriend is telling me something! I get so mad when he does it to me because he never seems to listen to me. He has just learned to zone me out while he sits on his computer (for the full the days he is off of work) He says I talk too much, which I'll admit I do. I have no friends that I do things or even barely talk on the phone with because I'm so worried I might go blank while I am talking with them. I sit here and talk to my 9 month old when I'm off of work but its not the same.....

I don't understand why he gets mad when he realizes I'm not listening to him, the few times he even says anything. He also has ADD, diagnosed as a child, unlike me who was diagnosed 6 months ago. He just doesn't like to be on meds he says (even though he doesn't mind taking any other drug, even prescriptions he buys from friends). He should understand me!

I also have a problem with interrupting because if i have something important to say I'm scared I might forget it. If I try not to interrupt I don't listen to what they are saying because I am trying to not forget what I want to say. I never even noticed I did this until my old roomate got mad when we were arguing a point, he said "You are impossible to argue with! All you do is interrupt and and then when someone finally gets to talk you don't even listen!"

My meds atleast help me realize I'm doing it, but sometimes in a conversation I have to concentrate on not interrupting and listening.