This is kinda ackward for me, but here goes. I am 26 and I have given my email to a stranger of the opposite sex for the first time. And I am nervous. The problem is that she said that she would email me and she hasn't. I wanted to talk to her, but I don't even remember her name and she didn't give me her email. I feel so foolish. I knew that I should have asked for one of her emails. I guess all I can do is wait.

Well Bubs

As you said all you can do is wait and see what happens, apart from that there's not much else you can do.

Good luck
Selena

She emails me back and says that she is 15. I am twice her age. I don't know what to do. I am so intreged that she found interest in me. She even mentioned in the email that she came in a couple of times and wanted to talk to me but was nervous.

I don't mind the age difference, but the more I think about it, the worse it gets. She is just starting life and I am in the middle of it. I want to keep in contact with her, because... well because some one actually seeked me out. I don't totally feel alone any more. But... she is 15.

Every fiber in my being tells me that I should end this now, but my want -my need- for companionship says otherwise. Even the fact that she likes some of the things that I like (though we had a short talk) makes this complicated for me.

I don't know what to do....

Hi Dommi

Hmmm...is it just friendly?

Hi Dommi

Hmmm...is it just friendly?I want it to be friendly, but with my lack of understanding of how relationships work, I am uncertain about where this is headed. In my confusion of what to do and how I feel, I don't fully know what my motives are. I think that I am looking for a girlfriend and not just a friend. I would love to just have her as a friend... but -again- I am uncertain of motives.

When we talked, even for that short time, I felt this connection (possibly known as "puppy love") and I wanted to embrace it and hold it dear to my heart. ::sigh:: This is one of the few times that I truely felt special; that someone actually cared.

Hi Dommi,

yeah it can get tricky, so I think by the way you feel, you should end it now. You are 26 and she is 15.
If you can just keep it friends, than I think its ok.

Be careful ok. :)

Put it this way....If you had a 15 year old daughter would you be ok with her talking to a 26 year old man? Any kind of romantic relationship is illegal. I know it's innocent on your part right now but what if you decide to have a friendship with this girl and over time feelings develop? Then what? Is it worth going to jail for? It just doesn't look good. As innocent as it may be most people will say what would a 26 year be interested in a 15 for except for sex.

Thanks guys. Thanks for the insite all of you :) I was already leaning towards ending it, I just needed to talk it out.

I think I will end it now before it even has the possiblity of getting bad.


Thank you for all the input.

I have a quick question for you all: Would it still be appropriate to chat at the store where I work or on the web via the web? Or do you think that there would still be risk involved? Do you think that I would be pushing my luck if I were to do so?

Thanks
dommi

Bubs.

This girl is far too young for you....give it up and find someone of your own age..simple as that, she's jailbait.

Selena

some advice
depending on what you talk about online it could be considered solicitiong a minor(not good). so i think if she is just a freind and can keep it that way, go for it otherwise END IT.

I thank everyone for your posts. :)

I emailed her and politely ended it. She was rather understanding of the situation, suprising enough. It seems that she was home schooled and was just looking for friends. I kinda felt sorry for ending it like that, but I felt that was the best thing to do giving the effects of what might happen if something were to go wrong.

This experience has helped me though. It made me realize that I am not a total loser. And that maybe I do have a chance at getting a girlfriend. It feels kinda ackward starting the quest at 26, but you gotta start somewhere I guess.