Well I haven't been diagnosed with ADD yet, I just finished my academic test with psyc today, but I have a feeling she will say there is some problems in my learning abilities, when I get report back. Especially in my memory.

I'm going through a range of emotions right now. Like why didn't anyone pick these problems up sooner and why was it I that I had to get my own diagnosis in my late 20's. I can't remember how many times I told my parents that there was a problems, but they just thought I was lazy or just a teenager who couldn't be bothered listening to her parents.

I seeked out my imperfections as a teenager and I always knew something was not right and I just feel let down that nothing was done earlier.

I told my mum about my test and she apologised for not taking me seriously when I was younger (but still I think she feels that I could improve my symtoms with little bit of hard work - which is true). Still I'm annoyed at her. I think she is a bit up in the air about me being ADD - a bit like me. I mean about a year ago, we talked about the ADD thing and she had said that she was beggining to think I might have it to, and was worried how I was going to cope in a full-time job, but now she seems to have done a backflip and kind of say well it might just be getting yourself into bad habbits - arrgghhh!!! I do love my mum and she is understanding, but sometimes I feel she's not taking me seriously or doesn't really understand how this all impacts on me.

I'm never going to tell my dad, because he's got bipolar and he will tell his family, who are all stuck-up and wont understand. He will understand, but he will just probably say it's hereditry and there's nothing much you can do about it and that he's sorry he's passed on the trait to me. Then he will just start talking about himself -lol!

I honestly thought I was going to do something interesting with my life, but now that I'm coming to terms with the fact that there is a problem. I know I'm going to be always struggling work wise and academically. Just a bit of a down moment for me realising all this :(

Anyway, I'm just rambling. I just needed to get this off my chest in the cyber world :)

I understand how you are worried about the results and about the past. Unfortunatly you can't change the past. it's ok if the doctor finds something. At least it's better finding it early rather than later IMO. One thing with memory is that it is indirectly related to adhd. So when you start treatment, you may not have the memory problems anymore. Something to at least look forword too. Just keep you head high ok? It's hard waiting I know but you did the first steps and now its time to look ahead. Best of Luck and keep us updated.

Andy...

I approached my parents several times through the years growing up. I told
them about my frustrations, how I felt that I needed to go see a Dr.

They basically told me that I was fine and they weren't going to pay a Dr. to tell them exactly that.

I was diagnosed at age 23....for a long time I felt like I was robbed. I did horrible in school, and I was robbed of the opportunity to get a great education because everyone turned their back on me. There is a roller coaster of emotions that go along with this. Blaming them is not going to
turn back the clock, and its self destructive to yourself....its sucks but
I had to let go of the anger...(it didn't happen overnight). :)

No parent wants to believe that their kids have something different and a problem. I am a parent now and I have since passed on ADD to my 6 year old
son. The guilt is horrifying.

The good news is that you have a great opportunity to do something fabulous with your life. There is medicine available to make life A LOT easier. Everyone should take a daily vitamin, you have to take one more pill each day....no big deal. At least its not 10 pills just to get out of bed each day. In some ways we are lucky for that.

Because you are becoming self aware, you will learn your strengths, your weaknesses, and use that to your advantage to pursue the right career, the
right relationships and overcome life long coping without meds. This diagnosis is going to open so many doors of opportunity that you can't even imagine.

I am 34 years old, I have my own company, I am a mother of two boys, married for 14 1/2 years. And I still lose my car keys at least 2 or 3 times a week.

But, I am a fabulous cook, I am a great mom, I have a successful business, I
have great creativity, imagination, and I am a fabulous party planner :)

My house is a mess, I can't find my shoes every morning, and I live and breathe by a list of things to do.

When you find things you are good at and enjoy...be the best at it. Put
your energy into it and go for it. The rest that is not so good....won't seem
so huge in life. : )

Well I haven't been diagnosed with ADD yet, I just finished my academic test with psyc today, but I have a feeling she will say there is some problems in my learning abilities, when I get report back. Especially in my memory.

I'm going through a range of emotions right now. Like why didn't anyone pick these problems up sooner and why was it I that I had to get my own diagnosis in my late 20's. I can't remember how many times I told my parents that there was a problems, but they just thought I was lazy or just a teenager who couldn't be bothered listening to her parents.

Anyway, I'm just rambling. I just needed to get this off my chest in the cyber world
info--

Well put. I have always known there was something wrong as well. I also finished my testing with neuropsychologist today. Will get diagnosis on Feb 19.

Unfortunately, I'm 52. Having been in and out of therapy for 30 years and to a wide variety of doctors who prescribed a series of antidepressants which didn't help much, I know about frustration. The good news is, the therapy was very helpful. I realized when I was answering questions in my testing today that many things that used to pertain to me, no longer did because I worked through a lot of issues in therapy. So is that the silver lining? Dunno. It's reality though, like it or not.

Be sure to let yourself grieve. Don't let anyone tell you "well it was worse for so-and-so." Even if that's true, your own experience is what you have to grieve. Yes it could have been worse, but that is beside the point. Your feelings are your feelings. They don't have to be logical or in agreement with anyone's opinion.

I think I have inatentive ADHD (my therapist agrees) and bipolar with treatment resistant depression and a bunch of anxiety. I will let you know, and please share your results when you get them.

WELCOME!!

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info, these feeling are normal :-) they rollercoaster all over the place...sadness, anger, more anger at parents, DENIAL, sadness again...and it goes on until one day you wake up, and it's all ok..and you accept, deal with it, and relief sets in :-)

it's a bit like grief, one day you'll wake up, and although it's still in your heart, you realize you will be fine

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Dorm

Yes, these are normal feelings and adjustment will happen with time...

It sounds like your experiencing the "The A.D.D. Grief" cycle. The: "WHY WASN'T THIS DIAGNOSED SOONER AND WHOSE FAULT IS IT THAT IT WASN'T DIAGNOSED SOONER?!!!! feeling.

It's normal. I like what tracyhaddbee said: "one day you'll wake up, and although it's still in your heart, you realize you will be fine". So true.

There's hope. Remember that.

The best advice I can give you is to remember that this will pass this feeling of sadness about the past and present and future. Of course you will have these feelings again we all do but if in the midst of it all you can say to yourself "things will get better" then you are strong enough to deal with
whatever comes along. Hang in there and big hugs!!
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Charl