Just been wondering this, especially since I am not a visual person at all... and barely remember people's faces or anything at all, so curious if anyone has thoughts on this...

Yes Happycat.
It IS possible to fall in love with someone and not be initally attracted to them, it's happened to me and the fact you're not a visual learner has very little bearing on it...Happycat are you in love??;)

Selena:)

in the end WHAT IS LOVE AN YOU DONT NEED TO SEE THEM TO LOVE THEM WHEN YOU DINF WHAT LOVE ID TO YOU THEN YOU KNOW IF YOU ARE

ID MAKE LIST OFVE WHAT YOU FEEL ABOUT THEM AN WHEN THERE NOT AROUND WHO YOU FEEL AN SEE WHAT YOU GET

GOODLUCK

AN THIS COULD BE LOVE 4 YOOU

DORM

My husband will (proudly) state that when he first saw me he thought, "She loves me, she just doesn't know it yet." When I first met him I though he was an ***. We'll be married nine years in April. :)

All the men I"ve developed infatuations were not attractive to me at first. I've always fallen slowly as I get to know them. And of course when you're attracted to who a person is, you start to see the attractive qualities they have. Just makes them that much harder to get over!:rolleyes:

Sure it is.

I've never been INITIALLY

attracted to people I've falled in love with, and vice versa.

Same here. I seem to be turned off by good looking men, because of their vanity. I will date a less attractive man first, because I feel he's more sincere. And I refuse to compete with a man over attractiveness.

Not me. I know if I'm attracted to a guy in a nanosecond and if I'm not, I will never be. It's a nature's way of telling me who to have healthy babies with. :)

yes i can relate with my x.boyfriend on this topic i thought i loved him but i was not attractive to him at all

Seems kind of selfish to judge a man on his looks, only for the sake of your unborn child. You can have a beautiful child with a horrible personality. Looks are not everything. My own child is not overly handsome but is very poplular because of his PERSONALITY.

Errr... I think it's selfish in a healthy way to go for the guy whose clothes you want to rip off. It is the nature telling us that the guy's immunity genes are different enough from ours so that the babies will have two different sets of immunity genes. Great, ayh?

But just because you want to rip his clothes off doesn't mean you should. You might want check up his upstairs department first to see if raising the babies together makes any sense. And to avoid creating that horrible personality. :)

Just been wondering this, especially since I am not a visual person at all... and barely remember people's faces or anything at all, so curious if anyone has thoughts on this...I think that this is more possible than people think or want to admit. I think being friends first will create a stronger bond of love than an intial burning atraction.

I think that this is more possible than people think or want to admit. I think being friends first will create a stronger bond of love than an intial burning atraction.
I need both. First there will be an initial burning attraction and then if the person turns out to right for me, a friendship will follow. But I definately need that burning attraction to keep things interesting in the bedroom (and to keep wanting to cuddle with my man and sniff his neck :)) . Heck, otherwise I would dating and marrying my friends. And who wants to do that?

The older I get, the more I realize that being friends and compatible are key. And physical chemistry is not always reciprocated. I'm taking a new approach on dating as I turn 30.
It's just taking awhile for me to figure out what that approach is....