Sometimes I feel like I don't need to be around people.
Most of the time it's bec. most people get on my nerves (rudeness, being inconsiderate, stuff like that).

Right now I'm tired of the "dumb blonde" comments everytime I make a minor mistake.

I want to stay at home & just keep to myself.

But then, I've done that & went into a deep depression within a week or so. We'd just moved here & didn't have tv, computer, and I didn't know anyone. Boredom makes me depressed.

I get what you mean. Every once in a while, especially when my world slows down, i tend to react by withdrawing / shutting down. But every single time that happens I end up neck deep in depression... I think it's great that you've noticed that's true for yourself too, cause now you can avoid a sh**ty cycle.

So what's a good thing to do when you need a break from the world but know that a total disconnection, for you, may not be such a good thing? Exercise, but most of the time people don't want to hear this one lol. Some kinda of recreational class that you can join without having to bring a friend, like art or kickboxing. Why because while you're there you get to chill and do whatever YOU want - with the added benefit of meeting new people, or staying a stranger but still being out with the masses but with that slight disconnection.

As for getting type casted in roles such as the 'dumb blonde', friends do that sometimes. It sucks, but it's not impossible to undo.

I do that often, Kiis.

I actually 'need' to do this.
For me, it doesn't lead TO 'depression'..it leads to 'introspection'.

Which helps me, not linger on *feeling* depressed, if I was.

Thanks, you two - for sharing & so forth.

My husband, Lynn, and I started walking out at the h.s. track in the evenings. This gives me some accountability AND he & I have some time together to chat, horse around, etc. He even grabbed me by the arm & layed a big (NICE) kiss on me! I was like, "wow.." LOL

I hope we continue this little routine. I think it'll be good for our marriage, as well as our health.

I have to get silence and space, far more than anyone else I know, and it does cause issues in my relationship. I go off to my boat regularly. There, I can either be alone or visit friends as I choose.

I find these chill out periods produce thoughts, poems, writing, ideas and act a bit like sleep does to reorder things.

I have to be careful though....if I get bored, depression swiftly follows.

I feel my mind is like a shark.......it must keep moving to live

Good analogy --- the "shark"..

Mine isn't so much about creative time as it is being "SERENA" time. I say that bec. I like to go do stuff where I'm not a wife, mom, 'taxi driver', 'financial analyst', bill payer, police officer, etc. Just be SERENA.

We all need this.
I'm the responsible one of the two of us.
If I want a day off, I can take it, but things don't get done.
I can't ask my wife to do anything, because she won't get around to it.
I get a day off every month or so, because of how my time accumulates at work.
I get a day off without pigpen being here, because I have to take a day or lose it at least once a month (due to the number of days I have on the books at work).
But I end up cleaning the house, not laying around eating bon-bons.
I agree though, we need time to just be with ourselves.
Maybe this is part of that time.
Not exactly a party, but it's time where we can discuss ADD problems, and
see that other people have the same days we do.
I will take an extra nap on my days off, and TRY to find something on tv I want to watch. Or something from the X-Files Series, MV seasons 1-2, etc.
A day for yourself is great if you can get it.
And what I have to do, is inform my wife I have the day off, as she asks me why I haven't shaved, and why I'm not getting my work clothes on. LOL
Otherwise she will take the day off too.
Uh, I have that on Sat and Sun, sometimes I just need "me" time, as Serena has said.
It may be an ADD thing, or a SANITY thing. :D

I'm soooooooo glad to see I'm not the only one.
And, I really think it's just a "sanity" thing for our personality types, maybe...
I'm Sanguine/Choleric. In other words, I get depressed when I'm not having fun (Sanguine) and/or things are out of control (Choleric).

Kiisethwa -

I think that ADDers tend to be very affected emotionally by our environments. Like a high EQ or Sixth Sense or something. Dismal settings or circumstances can dampen our spirits.

While I am never "bored", i often do feel frustrated at the things i cannot change. There often seems to be more that I cannot change. (And these factors are needed to get started on and enact what I could change.)

Maybe there is a Cause for you? e.g. volunteering (kids, literacy, animals), sports team (softball, running, hiking), faith group, cultural (women's group, Scottish dance), activity (scrapbooking, etc) or hobby group (cooking school?) that you can dig up thru a Community Info. Centre?

I think the secret is in Transformation and getting 'over' ourselves and our pain, if that makes sense. (e.g. (a) there are always causes BIGGER than our individual selves, and (b) there is always someone worse off than myself! Same with you.)

I'll let Kiis *speak* for herself, QU.

I, personally, wanted to say to *you*, that your 'words' within this 'post' resonate with *me*.

Human *Beings*, are capable of profound 'changes'..as long as they are in accord with their own *being*.
If not...no 'transformation' will manifest.

Thank you, QU.
If that 'matters'.



Kiisethwa -

I think that ADDers tend to be very affected emotionally by our environments. Like a high EQ or Sixth Sense or something. Dismal settings or circumstances can dampen our spirits.

While I am never "bored", i often do feel frustrated at the things i cannot change. There often seems to be more that I cannot change. (And these factors are needed to get started on and enact what I could change.)

Maybe there is a Cause for you? e.g. volunteering (kids, literacy, animals), sports team (softball, running, hiking), faith group, cultural (women's group, Scottish dance), activity (scrapbooking, etc) or hobby group (cooking school?) that you can dig up thru a Community Info. Centre?

I think the secret is in Transformation and getting 'over' ourselves and our pain, if that makes sense. (e.g. (a) there are always causes BIGGER than our individual selves, and (b) there is always someone worse off than myself! Same with you.)

You're certainly not the only one who needs that space!

Right now, my living arrangements are a bit chaotic and I don't have a space all of my own. So being a student, frequently I've been 'escaping' and running to the library. There are moments I quite literally dread going home. Not because I don't love my family, but because I really need that time to just decompress.. and I don't have it.

But like you, I can't always be alone or otherwise it starts affecting me in a bad way.

I agree with the exercise. I didn't believe it at first but it is so true. I can go to the gym in the worst mood and l always leave a different person. Having said that though....I'm very high strung. It doesn't take much to stress me out. I don't know what I would do if I HAD to work. Even small decisions send me over the edge sometimes. My husband actually encourages me to go home and relax before everyone gets home. I'm a much nicer person to be around after I've had some quiet time.

Kiisethwa -

I think that ADDers tend to be very affected emotionally by our environments. Like a high EQ or Sixth Sense or something. Dismal settings or circumstances can dampen our spirits.

While I am never "bored", i often do feel frustrated at the things i cannot change. There often seems to be more that I cannot change. (And these factors are needed to get started on and enact what I could change.)

Maybe there is a Cause for you? e.g. volunteering (kids, literacy, animals), sports team (softball, running, hiking), faith group, cultural (women's group, Scottish dance), activity (scrapbooking, etc) or hobby group (cooking school?) that you can dig up thru a Community Info. Centre?

I think the secret is in Transformation and getting 'over' ourselves and our pain, if that makes sense. (e.g. (a) there are always causes BIGGER than our individual selves, and (b) there is always someone worse off than myself! Same with you.)Well, the nicer weather has given me and our oldest daughter time to ride our horses....which has helped...

I don't know why, but it gives my heart great joy when I'm (we're) riding and little kids come running out to "..see the horses!" Sometimes even, adults will come out & ask to pet them.

NOVA: I hope I'm answering this correctly, but I am always looking for a way to IMPROVE myself (transforming) -- mostly spiritually bec. That is where my true peace is.