My girlfriend and I are having an issue with communication. Fortunatly and unfortunatly we have the same brain wiring, ADD.

I talk with her and her mind drifts over the next thing I say. I drift in my style of communicating by adding many colorful details so she can live in the place I live with the subject matter that I am so passionate about. (the old soapbox syndrome).

As I see her begin to lose interest, or anyone else for that matter, I will begin to ellaborate to make my speak more interesting.

I don't listen to her as much as I can because when she speaks to me, I try very hard to understand everything she is saying, to live it with her, and my mind begins to wrap meaning around everything she is saying. The result is overlapping thougts over the next thing she say's.

It does complicate things a bit since we both have ADD, but it isn't just her, it's everyone that speaks to me in a similar way.

What methods work for overcomming this?

How can I stop worrying about whether anyone hears what I am saying to the utmost extent? Does it even matter?

What even makes me think it is so important that people live what I think?

Is this a common problem among ADDers? How do you deal with it or do you?

I know what you're saying. I feel this way all the time, and most often I just don't say anything at all, since I start thinking that nobody will really care anyways. Sometimes, though, I do say what I think and nothing negative ever comes out of it. From my personal experience, the latter is the way to go. Keep talking, unless you want everyone to think you're a pothead who doesn't like anyone like they think of me.

I know what you're saying. I feel this way all the time, and most often I just don't say anything at all, since I start thinking that nobody will really care anyways. Sometimes, though, I do say what I think and nothing negative ever comes out of it. From my personal experience, the latter is the way to go. Keep talking, unless you want everyone to think you're a pothead who doesn't like anyone like they think of me.
So you talk to avoid having to figure out what others are saying?

I do this sometimes. It is easier to talk sometimes.

Before I was medicated, I would spend all of my mental energy on remembering what I wished to say next during a converstaion. Therefore I would never hear what my wife was trying to say. Medication has been a great help for me, so that I have confidence that I can remember what I want to say, and concentrate on my wife's side of the conversation. Too bad it took 23 years of marriage before I was diagnosed.

Before I was medicated, I would spend all of my mental energy on remembering what I wished to say next during a converstaion. Therefore I would never hear what my wife was trying to say. Medication has been a great help for me, so that I have confidence that I can remember what I want to say, and concentrate on my wife's side of the conversation. Too bad it took 23 years of marriage before I was diagnosed.
I hear you. I am taking Adderal and it has helped a lot. One of the ways I've tried to compensate for not getting all of the conversations at is to us a pad of paper. This only works when they are willing to wait for me to write down what they've said.

Before I was medicated, I would spend all of my mental energy on remembering what I wished to say next during a converstaion. Therefore I would never hear what my wife was trying to say. Medication has been a great help for me, so that I have confidence that I can remember what I want to say, and concentrate on my wife's side of the conversation. Too bad it took 23 years of marriage before I was diagnosed.
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