In the past, I've found myself in a lot of situations where things would have been much easier if I had asked for help earlier. But the truth is, I find it hard to ask for help. No, not because of the whole pride issue.. and I think a lot of it has to do with ADD.

First off, I think in the past I never wanted to ask for help because I didn't want to reveal being "stupid" (in essence, my ADD).

But a lot of the times, the "help" comes in ways that I find too frustrating to deal with. Either someone doesn't get what my issue is, or tries to fix the situation for me instead of listening to me...

I just find it easier, whether it's a school issue or a personal one, if I deal with it myself.

You?

I do that all of the time. I think it is because of my add that i get so frustrated/ashamed and feel stupid because I think I should be able to do it on my own, or that a 'normal' person would be able to do it. Then by the time I break down and decide I need to ask for help it is way past the point I should have, then I feel like people will think I am stupid for waiting so darn long to do something about it. Even when they don't say anything, I always feel like they are thinking bad things about me. So, it just makes it worse. Then I actually ask for help but it is usually too late and I still do poorly on the task. Not a good spiral to get into, but that always seems to be how it goes. Things are getting better now that I started treatment, but I have a long way to go and a lot of things in my life that I started a while ago that are in this exact situation right now. So, I have similar reasons for not asking for help, but even though I want to do it myself, it never works out that way!

I definitely have trouble asking for help. Usually I have this tough outer shell I try to show and I'll do just about anything alone rather than ask for help.

One reason I do it though, is that I don't seem to be very good at asking for help. Last year I had trouble in a training class for work. When I asked for extra training, I just got a whole bunch of negative attention from all the instructors. They swarmed on me like a bunch of sharks to a bleeding swimmer! But they didn't give me what I asked for: some additional exercises to do myself or any extra instruction outside of regular course time. I didn't get any extra help but left with negative comments on my course report!

I know people who went to professors in college to ask for help on a paper and the professor practically wrote their paper for them! How do I learn to ask for help like THAT? :)

I know people who went to professors in college to ask for help on a paper and the professor practically wrote their paper for them! How do I learn to ask for help like THAT? :)
If you find out please let us know!