I remember when I was much younger in my teens and on to today that I don't talk very much anymore and just stay on the periphery of social things. I remain very quiet, don't really answer but instead just give a smile and that is about it.

I really like to talk and interact with people however I just found that when I don't talk, things are better. Anyone here have anything similar to this?

I've alway been quiet. I always though that I was just shy but when I found out more about ADHD I started to doubt that. I prefer being around people to being on my own.

I put my own quietness down to the innattentive side of ADHD - it doesn't really occur to me to say stuff nad I don't get sufficiently involved in conversations to be able to participate properly. If someone asks me a question, even though I am listening to the conversation, it's not got my full attention and I won't really be able to articulate an answer when required, so something vague like a nod or a smile is all that happens sometimes.

I know that other people interpret that as me being either stupid or extremely shy. I don't think that it is anxiety related as I don't have many symptoms, and what anxiety I have is, I think, more a product of my as-yet undiagnosed ADHD than the cause.

"Better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to open your mouth and prove it"

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[QUOTE=mr36]I've alway been quiet. I always though that I was just shy but when I found out more about ADHD I started to doubt that. I prefer being around people to being on my own.

I completely agree! My adderall makes me a little more sociable which I have always wanted to be. That is what originally made me start drinking and doing other stuff, I realized it made me sociable. I could be around the same people I partied with when I was sober and I would be so self conscious and shy again.

I have got away from every negative influence as soon as i got pregnant so I just have no friends. My I'm glad I know what is wrong with me and that I don't want to do drugs or drink to make me happy, I am much happier without them.

I remember every time I was drinking or getting messed up in another way, i would think, "there has to be another way to be happy, even though this is making me more depressed i just can't stop". Thank God I got pregnant because I have no idea where I would be today. I am so excited to know that I have ADD! I know that sounds crazy but because of the meds I no longer even think about the lifestyle I used to have, it disgusts me. I now know there wasn't anything wrong with me, I just had a problem. I just have to keep on this road of recovery because I never want to go back the other way......