Hey all,
I have this big problem that's eating me away literally as a person.

I am 21 and live with ADHD and currently unemployed and in a house that's impossible to live in. There is so much rowing and arguing that I can't feel stable at all. I feel when I'm on my own I am able to internally relax. But my father is a ****ing dickhead he rows and rows and that's causing my insides to feel hot and bothered and that makes me get a constant angry depression. Also what adds to it is the fact that I live in a place where there is nothing to satify me at all. Nothing. No facilities, lifestyle, social life etc. Its just a boring part of the world. Yes Ireland and I hope the politicians read this in Ireland YOU HAVE SO MUCH ****ING MONEY YOU ARE LEAVING SUICIDE RATES CONTINUE TO GET HIGHER YOU MONEY LOVING B*STAR*S! PLUS YOU EDUCATION SYSTEM MAY BE GOOD IRELAND BUT IT FAVOURS THE INTELLECTUALLY ABLE AND SUPERIOR, NOT THE ADHD OR DYSELXIC STUDENTS!!

Had to leave off steam people, any advise? I am just sick of it here so much I feel my worth and my reason to live dying each every day.
I got fired from my job because I was not learning it as quick as other people! I am left thinking each day living without any meaning to my day or structure! I feel worthless and useless and depressed as I can't even get a grip in this ****hole and yet people here are looking on me as a freeloader looser! The fact being I don't spend any money. I just sit and try to start planning how to make my life easier!! Where to start!! but i can't and nobody can helpe me plan!!! nobody..
The government here are ****ing useless for helping people with problems mentally and physically.
I would just like the ADHD forums to know that in Ireland there is extremely little put into mental health and services available to people with a specific problem!!
Thanks for reading my rant, I just feel cornored and hopeless and feeling a buildup of anxiet that turns to depression after a few bouts!

You need to jump outside your comfort zone and take some risks.
I don't mean crazy risks...just the usual risks that anyone takes to grow and feel alive.

You say when you are out on your own life will be more stable for you...then do it. Get out on your own. There is always a way...even if you have to walk to another county and find a job and a place to stay.

Moving forward in life will help you feel stable and "stable" is just a feeling.

In reality--there isn't any stability in life...everything is changing with each passing second.

IMO, When a person isn't changing and growing but sees everything around them change and grow they feel unstable.

Do something that makes you feel like you're changing and growing and go find your stability.

Take a calculated RISK. (just remember that ADD'ers calculate everything in a fraction of a second--so you should be ready to move on it--by tomorrow. :rolleyes: )

you are right fighting boredom i agree with you.. I will get away. and your view on instability is quite interesting. I do notice everything changing around me and people moving on, and that's making me uncomfortable as i'm stationary.

I hate leaving my comfort zone, and I'm absolutely miserable in it. You seem unhappy with the educational/medical system, well why not try letting your voice be heard? Take small steps, like writing feed back to the local newspaper, or printing flyers and putting them up around colleges and local hang outs, hospitals, etc. This might make you feel like you are doing something for yourself, and your community.

I know how it feels to be unstable. Right now, my life is up and down, and up and down, and it's driving me a bit crazy... but it's life, and I love it. I find that when I have something that I am very interested in, and it serves for a better purpose that I am a very happy person. Doing the right things, especially if it benefits our world has always made me feel better.

I don't really know how to become stable, if that is really possible... but, what I like to do is 1) try to eat healthy, because then I don't fuss about calories or weight gain as much and it's good for you too! 2) get some exercise, it helps me destress and relax 3) keep busy, I get so depressed when I am bored!

I try to look at the problems in my life and solve them. I'm an impulsive liar, so I am working on becoming an honest, open person. I'm well... a bit pudgy, and I have a problem with disordered eating. I want to start exercising again and eating better so that I will feel more confident and content with my self. I'm working on Borderline Disorder -- so I am working on a range of things, from assertiveness and goal setting, to rewarding myself for the good things that I do, and not dwelling on the bad.

I have a lot of work to do, and things can get a bit crazy here at times... but I think that myself, and my boyfriend try to just break it up into bits and pieces. We can't take on the world, so why bother trying? But hey, we certainly can try our best to do what we need to do to make ourselves happy.

I used to go walking in the woods by my parents home; and that is where I found my peace. Looking over the river that runs through this town. That's what got me going. It was humbling, and it made me feel that I don't always need to be someone great, or do something great to be -somebody-. I was happy there, and that is all that mattered. After that, I was finding beauty, and then I was able to find beauty in all of life's goods and bads. It's there, just sometimes you need to find it!

I think that stability comes from within, so why not try doing something good for yourself? Hot bathes (even for guys), exercise, try eating healthy for a week, or longer even, try Creast Whitestrips and show off your new smile, get a massage, play with your kids or your pets, try something new! Challenge yourself! Just run sometimes and forget the world. Do whatever it takes, and don't let people or things get you down.