your sig. other has cheated on you. It was a one time thing and will never happen again. would it be better if he or she tells you and is honest about or just keep it buried so you will not feel the pain. in other words is ignorance bliss?

No, ignorance is bliss...and there is no such things as just a "one time thing".

So, I would want to know when it happens the second time so we can end it. :faint:

the same goes both ways... if they kiss and don't tell, then expect me to kiss and not tell.

Of course, I would prefer my sig. other not feel they would have to resort to extra-curricular activity (even once) because to live with such a secret rots away from the inside out.

The day I found out that person I married once upon a time was cheating, was the day I kicked him out. No if's, and's, or, but's about it. I filed for divorce the next day. What does, "I made a mistake,' have to do with anything!? lol... well, I obviously made a mistake in marrying him... guess we were even at that point.

I would very much want to know so that i can make the informed decision to consent to a relationship with the person.
If the person told me straight away then theres a VERY slim chance it can be negotiated that we stay together.....if i havn't been told though then i found out, i'd feel that i'd been deceived into staying in a situation that i hadn't been able to fully consent to....so it would be goodbye and no we can't stay in contact.

Pfft...I'd find out one way or another. Then they'd get the axe and I'd be on to the next. This is the reason I want a paternity test for any kids I ever have, by the way. Even if they're with a wife.

Pfft...I'd find out one way or another. Then they'd get the axe and I'd be on to the next. This is the reason I want a paternity test for any kids I ever have, by the way. Even if they're with a wife.the only big problem with this is if your wife has been faitfull and has not given you any reason to doubt her this can really put a wedge between you and her. not only will she feel you dont or never has trusted her but she may ask why are you so distrustfull? is there something that you do that she should not trust?

Of course, I want to know it straight from my significant other than be forever miserable.

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Yep- I would want to know. I would feel humiliated if I had to find out from someone else

Pfft...I'd find out one way or another. Then they'd get the axe and I'd be on to the next. This is the reason I want a paternity test for any kids I ever have, by the way. Even if they're with a wife.

Single I see. . . . . . :rolleyes:




I did not vote becuase a one time thing no, I can see no good coming from this However an on going "affair" yes I would want to know so I could get the heck out of the way. If my partner wants to be with some one else least he could do was have enough "gonads" to tell me he wanted to move on.