Ok, so I'm having a bad ADD day.

Here's a riddle for you: how many questions can you ask before you start to look stupid? Which questions will allow me to get the information I want without having to reveal my ADD?

Why is it no matter how many times I reassure myself, I constantly have this "stupid" label on me? Why can't I be ok with having ADD and ask for the special accomodations I need?

Why can't something be obvious to me? Why do I have to ask a million questions before I get something?

Why can't I be ok with just my medication? Why do I have to get up and reveal to every teacher I have that because of my ADD I need to ask a million questions, and that I need to do my tests in a quiet room with more time?

Why can't I just accept this, do what I need to do to, and get my "A" in class?

Why..?

I know what you mean. Imagine going into mediation for custody of your children, having an attorney that is as detached to the case as one can legally be and have a mediator whose got the patience of a hummingbird on caffeine... and do all that with the same issues - not understanding what's happening and asking questions only to get answers that are less than helpful because everyone around you has written you off at some level. The ONLY person that was there to help was my sister and she got shut down pretty fast by the mediator. Things can come at me very fast - I can't react immediately I have to digest and often times I lose nuance or just can't get what they're saying and need it repeated. Of course it's just me and I'm stupid.

i feel your pain brother...i get into conversation with people and halfway through i'm just nodding my head yes.. but i havent heard or even really cared what came out of there mouth..so after all is done i feel like saying " can you re-peat that"..

When I was in an intensive interpersonal (group) therapy program (8 weeks of daily group therapy with 6 women and 2-4 'therapists'), they told me that i had a hard time "being in the moment" (relaxing) and just "sitting with things".

Being able to detach and just LISTEN and BE is hard, but purposefully slowing thigns down (mentally, verbally, thinking wise, can really help)... in sort of a quasi-meditative way.



Gotta think about my answers, and 'sleep on it'. Fast decisions for me, concerning huge life issues and tieir implications is Bad News.
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As for Frapster's comment, i would not do well in that situation. (eg a rapid fire questioning sequence.)

Having useless respresentation is awful. (Often decisions made when one has had incompetent legal respresentation or passive counsel can be appealed. I know that Steven Spielberg's first wife had their Pre-Nup thrown out b/c she did not have a chance to talk to a lawyer to find out her rights. Their Pre-Nup was written on a Napkin!

*laugh* I wonder if they have any other have any other Legal Society complaints file? These losers usually have a track record, on file, eh?