Finally after a year of increasing abuse, I left! And I'm the ADD in the marriage. I realized that she was going to her grave with the misconception that I am like other people. And that my "inability to learn" was willful and malicious. Though an intelligent person, she's couldn't reframe her understanding of me, or perhaps adjust her needs...

Anyway, if there are any male, 40-somethings in the Seattle area who would like to have a coffee and talk about solutions (not *****!) please let me know.

Thanks!

Sorry to hear that, Moksha. At least you will find and understanding crowd here.... Take care of yourself, now.

Sorry i'm not in Seattle......just had that conversation tonight and thinking dark thoughts...yes i am different.....I was different when you married me....so who's changed?

Finally after a year of increasing abuse, I left!

Sorry you had to put up with abuse but it is good you got away from it.




realized that she was going to her grave with the misconception that I am like other people. And that my "inability to learn" was willful and malicious. Though an intelligent person, she's couldn't reframe her understanding of me, or perhaps adjust her needs

Sounds like my second marriage. I think the man fell in love with who he thought I could be but not with who I was in reality. Kind of sucks really. . . .