Hello, have you ever been in the situation such as working on a "type" of project with a person but feel that the other isnt meeting this goal or that? Well in some cases im sure you've been in the situation where the problem is a lot smaller then it really is but the paranoia and suspicion makes you lash out at the other person and then you end up calling the person and leaving threatning messages, thus causing self sabotage.

I dont know if this is a good thing or a bad thing...its more as a slippery slope because on the other hand if the person is really not meeting their end of the deal you dont want to allow the BS to persist;

I'm sure many of you probably are very tolerant people untill finally you explode....thats how I tend to be, but I always make the point to say "hey, im just telling you the truth as far as how I see the whole situation right now, i'll never sugarcoat anything and I dont expect you to do the same." "So if im giving you *hit give it right back...I dont easily get offended ...i've been put down and insulted almost my entire life, so just let me have it." So then the other person tells you about the things that youre doing wrong and you then realize "hey this person just mentioned all the traits of an ADD character, so maybe it is all in my head after all LOL"

I really dont hold grudges with people but I will get right in their face about things but then once I've expressed what I needed to say I normally go back to feeling how I did before I felt hostile.

But my concern is...how much longer is the other person going to keep putting up with my BS before I screw things up??? Ah trying to find that emotional equilibrium can be a daunting task, even if someone does know how to relax. Its just a matter of knowing how much time it takes before I end up ruining the business partnership that I got going on

Sorry of the incoherentcy...im "out of it" once again LOL

Lychweake.

I get hostile with friends from time to time regardless of whether it's in a business or personal situation!! people just sh*t me from time to time!!

Selena:)

I tend to handle thing before they get to the point where I am angry, Before I began treatment for ADD I would take and take until I exploded. Now I have learned to acknowledge my emotions and seek the source or trigger. If I have questions about a friends intention or a problem with some thing I simply take it up with them in a non-threatening non-accusing way.

I have learned being open and honest doesn't require being rude and insensitive. I can do the in your face deal like no body's business but only if the other person refused to get the healthy approach the first five times. I can go from zero to full tilt super _ _tch in about 0.02 seconds. The super _ _tch is rarely required a second time. . . . . .I am that good at it. . . .I simply prefer not to approach things this way as too much "in your face" is annoying and can be counter productive in the long run.