Hello...its been awhile since i've been on this board...just finishing up school and all and ready to start with my MD degree and thus go onward to major in psychiatry.

Anyways, I decided that I really want to get my life together first before I worry about getting into a serious relationship. I am SO busy with work, school, teaching on the side and of course sleeping...that if I got into a serious relationship it would be WAY too stressful and difficult to commit to. Also not that im an absolute reject with women or anything...Im just WAY to much of an introvert to be going out looking for a one night stand...been there done that...it gets old after awhile.

But I cant help to notice that more and more of my buddies are settling down and I'm going to be the last one to do the same...to settle with someone who will drive me insane because she'll give me no "game" ;) So I sit here enjoying the final years of my freedom and the rest of you "single" "whiners" do the same..before its too late!!!!

Hi Lychweake.

It's entirely your choice to be alone....GOOD ON YOU!!! but the part where you refer to others as "single whiners" can have a somewhat negative and even insulting tone to it and although I didn't take personal offence to it but others here might and considering you're supposedly going on to major in psychiatry one would think you'd choose your words more carefully, I feel the use of the word whiner in this post is inappropriate.

I can relate to the being too introverted part when it comes to looking for a partner...I experience the same thing as well and yes one night stands do get a bit "old" as for your friends settling down and you feeling like you're the last one to do it....I'm in the same boat as you again but I've also learnt that most people "settle down" in their own time and as the saying goes "There's someone for everyone"....who knows when our turn will come, you'll know when the time's right!

Selena:)

Hi Lychweake.

It's entirely your choice to be alone....GOOD ON YOU!!! but the part where you refer to others as "single whiners" can have a somewhat negative and even insulting tone to it and although I didn't take personal offence to it but others here might and considering you're supposedly going on to major in psychiatry one would think you'd choose your words more carefully,

Yeah, you have a point...really one way I learned how to get over being offended when someone would insult me was by just learning how to laugh at myself in a respectful way. When I used the word "single whiners" in that phrase I wanted to somewhat clarify that they should honor their martial status because its something that might not last forever...also if you can tell of my ambiguity that I was actually giving those people who are scared, confused and lonely some advice and a message of hope. Thus if their days of being single are finite then they should learn to not take that extra time for granted and learn to enjoy the freedom of doing what you want to do.:)

Lychweake...I understood that you were trying to clarify that people should honour their marital status but there are some sensitive souls out there!!! I've been single since last October and whilst I developed an interest in a former online friend (who turned out to be a creep who played mind games) I actually enjoy the freedom of being able to do what I like, when I like and with whoever I like...lol but at the same time I would like to eventually find someone (preferably with ADHD and/or SID) one day!! if I was still with my ex Wayne there is no way I'd be able to move interstate like I'm doing in 4 weeks time, in fact I don't think I'd be as happy as I am now if was with him!! (Wayne was 12 years older than me, had 5 kids scattered around the place and had just gotten out of a 14 year marriage and had issues regarding this) so yes being single has it's advantages.

Selena:)

so yes being single has it's advantages.

Selena:)
I agree coldheartedly :cool: