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Subject: CHILD STOPPED TALKING




Dear ladies and gentlemen,

I would like to ask for some assistnce and help. My son stopped talking when he was two and a half. But he could listen perfectly.he is now 8 years old. Sometimes he becomes very agressive and angry but he is very loving and needs affection and love. we try our best to make him happy. Could you please help us in this regard and guide us for betterment of our cjild. He speaks some single words sometimes. If you could plese help us, it would be a good deed with a lot of thanks.


With best regards



Abdul Aziz
muneer-khatri@hotmail.com

Abdul,

I wonder what your child's doctors have said about this? This could be a number of things, and after nearly 6 years...I wonder what you have tried?

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Perhaps discuss with doctor some test for aspergers or for full blown autism. Also investigate what might have happened when your child was younger and see if maybe something happened that made them not want to talk.
Good Luck

Pardon if this is ignorant. But,I wonder if a brain scan of the child could help? (Amen Clinic?)
janine

I'd have him thoroughly checked out by a developmental pediatrician. Losing the ability to speak is a sign that something isn't right. It may be a form of autism, or something else entirely. But it will take a specialist to find the answer. Good luck!

Gosh I feel so much empathey for you. It would be great if you'd register, I'm sure someone here can help.

My son went through almost one full year of school when he wouldn't talk (at school).

And come to think of it was like that at his twice weekly 3 hour a day preschool when he was one and a half! And both these classes/ places were very noisy, but even more important for my son was that kids around him were being yelled at for misbehavior.

I live in France and this sort of behavior from teachers in school is quite accepted.
Let me reiterate.

My son himself was not yelled at. Also both of these situations were very high stress. You could feel the stress in the room. Like when he was in his second year of mayternelle (like 4 years old) The teacher and the assistant were not getting along at all.

I have also noticed that when my husband and I argue he either clams up or does something to distrac t us. It's like he can't take the disaccord.

I'm interested to hear more. By the way I am diagnosed add innatentive type (with out hyperactivity) As is my son. My husband is undiagnosed but definately on the ADD spectrum.

Sensory Integration Issues are our prime focus right now for my son.

Does your son ever cover his ears?

Or cover his eyes (look down alot maybe?)

My son does all these things when he's feeling overloaded.

In any case definately get him to a good neuropediatrician or specialised pediatrician. They can do little tests they say alot!

hang in there.

Boots

This is far beyond AD/HD. It sounds like Autism to me. It's very important that you have your child evaluated by a competent doctor, if you haven't done so yet.
I have a link to an Autism board that is a nice little forum. I'm not sure we can post links here though, so I'm going to ask that you send me a private message if you would like it.
If Admin says I can post it, then I"ll post it here for you :).
Good luck!

jellybean a brain scanes a good idea as is ect.....to see brain wazes an other things like that....there mean new things out maybe you should look more into it let us know how it gose dorm

The more people you talk to and the more pressure you put on doctors, the better off you will be.

I advise you to keep track of all the people you see and the tests being done. Somewhere there has to be an answer.

Good luck!

Andrew,
I would have him fully tested for sure but I have worked with many children and adults and it sounds like autism.If you do not mind me asking a few questions,Is he in home school?Have you had him in any therapy?Really sounds like autism though Andrew.Iwish you all the luck and please know my thoughts are with you and please keep us posted.


Sandra

Hi. Yeah. get him to a specialist!

It doesn't necessarily mean he has autism. It could be aspergers for example.Or somethiong else entirely. Can he read write? express himself in other ways? Is he well bonded to you? and your spouse.?

Does he interact well with other children? Did anything else happen when he was 2 and a half? Find some good help. ANd find it soon. I'm not sure what sort of schooling he has but if he's eight and not speaking a teacher should have told you this already.

I'm not quite understanding the complexity of the situation, I think. Are there cultural issues I'm not aware of?

OK.

Let's say for example you can't see a DR specialised in these issues. (For some unknown reason to me). Videotape him all day long for a week or so. Get a nanny cam if you have to. Then you can either see what might be bothering him or at least have something to show to a professional/ specialist. Try changing his school/ nanny/ babysitter, etc.


But I think one thing we all probably agree on here is that you must do something to help your son. You've got to find out/understand/investigate/translate/do whatever you can to try and understand what is going on inside his head.

Ok last thing. I don't know where you live and what passes for treatment there but please don't do let anybody do anything extreme and detrimental such as

<THIS IS A JOKE BUT ALSO VERY SERIOUS> No insult intended

(leeches, exorcisms, shocktherapy, military school, corporal punishment, religious healing....PLEASE. No Hitting, Yelling, threatening, humiliating....no forced isolation)

You sound good and reasonable and like you want to help your son. I just had to say that, the same way I need to ask all the teachers here in france if they ever hit children as discipline. (can you imagine?) And what they consider appropriate discipline.

A family member (cousin) was made to stand on his desk at the age of six for 5 minutes with his pants pulled down in front of the whole class as a form of punishment for showing his BareAss to a friend ( his best friend who did the same) while the teacher was out of the room. He was 5 or 6 years old

There are kids (like mine) who's sense of right and wrong are just too strong to bear witness to this kind of abhorent behavior by adults. It could make a child decide not to talk/participate in LIFE.

Please find out what's going on.
Don't be afraid of the big Autism diagnosis. I'm sure you have a sense of what is wrong with him. And I'm sure its probably not that if that is your fear. There is no need even to diagnose him with anything. My son for example is diagnosed with add innatentive ( as am I ). At the same time, He is under investigation for spectrum diorders (this means autism but can mean Einstein as well). This means he is getting the help he needs for whatever he may or may not have. But at the same time he has a diagnosis that is much less frightening for his family and society.
It allows his community here in france to accept his differences (allow him to be who he is) without pushing him to the sidelines (discounting him).

We both take ritalin (a small stimulant medication) and it helps tremendously. That you at least need a diagnosis of ADD to have a trial of. Good luck.

To reiterate.

You could start with a diagnosis/evaluation for ADD innatentive, or something similarily non frightening for you or your family. If that's a diagnosis you are less afraid of. At the same time make sure you are investigating for other things at the same time and investigating/ changing his environment/school and his caretakers/ (friends, relatives, other kids, everyone). My son's own grandfather was non intentionally shutting him down on a regular basis by talking loudly, yelling, disagreeing, etc all with very good intentions. ~May I ask Where you live?

Sorry if I'm totally off base. It wouldn't be the first time. No harm, insult intended. I know nothing at all about anything.

Boots

(By the way my son talks nonstop now. He had an excellent teacher in french public school this last year and by years end he was actually arguing in a joking manner with her about why certain rules were the way they were as he found it much more comfortable to have his feet up on the desk. She was delighted with this (rare in france) as he would not speak a word to her the first 4 months of school and spent a large part od=f his time curled up on the floor.

He raises his hand when she asks a question of the class and then asks the question right back at her. She loves it. But we are changing his school anyway. It's too loud it's too rough it's too insesnsitive. It's too mundane and ordinary and my son (like yours I am sure) is EXTRAORDINARY. And he deserves something better tailored to him.

Okay okay I stop now.