Let me start by saying that I've been off strattera for 2 weeks, and just learned from the pharmacy that I have no hopes of getting my new prescription before Saturday.

I work full-time as a researcher. My husband also works full-time as a business consultant, and he's on the road M-F and home on weekends. We're having a mid-sized wedding in June (we have been legally married for immigration purposes for almost a year, but couldn't have our religious ceremony until we knew that my hubby could travel freely on his green card), and I'll be back on the job market this autumn. We have 2 cats, no kids, and a very inactive social calendar (thank goodness for small blessings!).

I'm trying to juggle as fast as I can, but it doesn't seem to be working. For example, we have a housecleaner that comes every other week, which helps because somebody else does the boring cleaning and it's a firm deadline for me to do all the pre-cleaning preparations. I make a plan of things I need to do each night once I'm home from work (e.g., laundry, write X number of thank-you notes, etc.). But, this month I still forgot to pay our electric bill. I haven't done the math in my checkbook in 4 months, and ended up bouncing 12 checks ($500 in fees really, really hurts!).

My hubby does what he can on the weekends, but we try really hard to make this quality time. We do laundry and grocery shopping, and that's about it. He's willing to take on the bill paying but is unwilling to write down the transactions in the checkbook register (thus making more work for me when I have to ensure there's enough money in the account).

Am I just asking too much of myself? I am completely losing it, trying to get it all done. I am clearly not doing a particularly good job and am also exhausting myself in the process. I'm wondering if anybody else has any ideas about how to make this work, or experience making this sort of balance work for them. I can't begin to imagine superimposing kids into this picture...

What can be let go, and what can't?