artsygal
05-29-07, 06:33 PM
I wonder if I have adult ADD? I am in my mid thirties and have had relationship problems my whole life. Not only intimate relationship problems but also friendship problems. I can't seem to sustain them. I put myself in relationships with "exciting" guys who are jerks over and over again. My friendships are few and far between. My longest relationship with a guy has been four years and that has only lasted because we are "on" and "off" all the time. He is very emotional and impulsive. I try to "quit" him but it has been the hardest thing in my life to do because he actually "understands" and gets me. I think he may also have ADD but the hyperactive kind. The problem is that neither of us has ever been diagnosed, but it sure would explain a lot of things with me.
I find that in new social situations I do good in the beginning and then after a while people "tune" me out. I also blank out at times when talking to people. I have difficulty reading and remembering what I just read or if I look at a phone number I forget it right after. I have had a profound sense of failure in major milestones such as marriage, relationships, etc. I do well in college because of the structure and have actually excelled and recieved a Masters degree. Most of my friends are superficial and work related and I have difficulty getting past that level. My moods are up and down and always difficult to regulate. My mother was an alchoholic and my brother is as well. He was diagnosed with severe ADD. I think my trouble has always been more relationships instead of alchohol and I have always had maybe a mild case of ADD, but it is enough to make me feel a lack of success or pride in myself. I have been wondering if I should be tested and who would do this? Does medicine help? etc. Thank you.
I find that in new social situations I do good in the beginning and then after a while people "tune" me out. I also blank out at times when talking to people. I have difficulty reading and remembering what I just read or if I look at a phone number I forget it right after. I have had a profound sense of failure in major milestones such as marriage, relationships, etc. I do well in college because of the structure and have actually excelled and recieved a Masters degree. Most of my friends are superficial and work related and I have difficulty getting past that level. My moods are up and down and always difficult to regulate. My mother was an alchoholic and my brother is as well. He was diagnosed with severe ADD. I think my trouble has always been more relationships instead of alchohol and I have always had maybe a mild case of ADD, but it is enough to make me feel a lack of success or pride in myself. I have been wondering if I should be tested and who would do this? Does medicine help? etc. Thank you.