View Full Version : Mis-Hearing


SubtleMuttle
01-16-04, 02:14 PM
Anyone have trouble HEARING people CORRECTLY??? Someone asked me yesterday for "masking tape" I heard "paper"! Someone yesterday said "2D" I heard "3D". Someone says "thursday" I hear "Tuesday". It gets really embarrasing, especially when my response is so minimal that it isn't at all obvious that I misheard them, so the person just thinks I'm trying to abruptly change the subject- or that I'm not listening at all.

I'm posting a poll on this to see how many people (if any) with AD/HD experience this often as compared to dyslexia, which I think this is related to with me; but maybe it's many things. Select any that apply; just curious. Thanks!

Wheel1975
01-16-04, 04:03 PM
The Navy has a procedure tht helps to catch this...

A: gives an order
B: repeats the order back
A: says "DO" the order
B: Repeats THAT back, and then starts.

Did the Navy have to deal with more ADHD people than other services in the "early days?"

biker
01-16-04, 04:38 PM
I either do not hear what was said or did not listen closely enough and got the wrong info. I do not hear words wrong that I know of. I think I am looking to the end of what the person is saying and miss the middle part. Wheel's navy idea is what I am trying to do. It has helped a lot.

Garry
01-17-04, 01:27 AM
I am more prone to not listening as opposd to not hearing

prumont
01-19-04, 06:26 AM
This is a common problem for me - I mis-hear often & have adhd + dyscalculia. It means at work I overcompensate by writing action items down & reading them back to people obsessively so I can be sure I got it right.

capri
01-19-04, 07:59 AM
I dont, so much miss-hear, its more that sometimes i just cant make any english out of whats said.
Sometimes someone will say somthing and i just cant actually make a single word out of what they said. I hear it well enough and can tell it was spoken to me but not any sence of what was said.
Somtimes i will have to get the speeker to repeat themselves 2 or 3 times before i can get what they are saying. Makes me feal like a right wally at times.

Sometimes when someone says somthing to me i will hear but it will take a couple of seconds to regester. So often i will ask them to repeat themselves but before they do i get what they said originally. Sort of a delay in decoding or somthing.

I have noticed both my older children doing this as well. They say "what?" and then often reply to my initial statement before i can repeat myself, though not everytime by any means.

steveb
01-19-04, 09:42 AM
capri, those are my words exactly.

I am not sure what dyscalculia/dysgraphia is, I will have to look it up.

I used to go to Bell-Tone (the hearing aid place) to get their free hearing tests.
They would say that I passed all of the tone tests in each ear.
I said to them, "so why can't I understand what people are saying?"
They did a test where it was words instead of tones and I had to repeat the word back. I only go 60% right.
I know that if I waited longer before answering, I would probably have figured them out. Ironically, it was worse with the female voices. ;)

I then went to a ear/nose/throat doctor, who was having trouble figuring it out. He finally told me I had negaive pressure (vacuum) in my inner ear. That made sense to me because I have always had ear/nose/euthstation (sp) tube problems as a child.

But, maybe he was just guessing or placating me.

capri
01-19-04, 01:18 PM
Steveb, I have also passed numerous hearing tests over the years. I also have more trouble with female voices than male voices.

ADDfor2
02-16-04, 08:46 AM
OH MY GOSH! I can't believe I'm seeing this. I also can't believe one person could have so many things in their brain screwed up as me. This is just another to add to the list. Most of my life I have had to have people repeat things to me, sometimes more then twice. I just don't pick up everything they are saying, especially if they are talking too fast. It's so embarassing and I look like a dope. I have tried so hard to compensate for this. I often tell people jokingly that I've always had bad hearing and will probably need a hearing aide one day soon. I, like others here, have also passed hearing tests with no problem but continue to feel stupid when I can't seem to catch what someone is saying. If there is background noise it's really bad. Thanks for the info here, wow, now I don't feel so alone and stupid. Dee

steveb
02-16-04, 02:01 PM
It is both a relief and a frustration that all of these things are related.

HighFunctioning
02-23-04, 09:38 PM
> I only mis-hear when my mind is preoccupied

How shall I interpret this? Would this translate as mishearing while preoccupied, or mishearing after being preocupied? To mishear while being preocupied would indicate the inability to process speech while being distracted. To mishear after being preocupied indicates one usually compensates for their decoding problem, but cannot in that instance because their "buffer" is not current. In other words, they are usually interpolative listeners, but do not have enough information to compensate. This is the way I am.

It is obvious when one is interpolative when they mishear bits that cannot be interpolated easily. Numbers are a big issue with me. The difference between fifty and fifteen tends to be difficult for me. If someone starts speaking to me about something totally irrelevent to the current conversation, I tend to really mishear.

This is not to say that I do not mishear because of preocupation directly. I do that as well.

> If there is background noise it's really bad.

I find it unbeleivable the kinds of environments some people choose to communicate. I remember people communicating with little difficulty in areas of loud music (such as high school dances). Communication with me, however, was impossible. This is no exaggeration. One could literally scream directly into my ear, and I still could not determine what they had said. Not a single word.

codeman38
03-13-04, 11:28 PM
Yep. This is largely an issue of auditory processing disorders (http://www.ldonline.org/ld_indepth/process_deficit/living_working.html), for what it's worth; I've had my hearing tested by an audiologist, and although my actual hearing was above par, my processing of what I heard wasn't nearly so good.

I tend to be a rather interpolative listener as well; frequently I can only figure out what someone has said because of context. It's not just numbers, either (although incidentally, besides the -ty/-teen confusion mentioned above, I also have difficulty with the frequently misheard five/nine). If someone's saying a letter without much context, it's hard for me to distinguish, for instance, D from B from P. This can be quite frustrating when having to read a string of alphanumeric characters over the phone... the old military standby of 'alpha, bravo, charlie, delta' can be quite useful!

And ditto on the whole background noise thing. The room has to be nearly quiet if I want to make out what someone's saying to me. Large social events and crowded restaurants leave me responding 'what?' to most questions. :D

Incidentally, I absolutely love closed captioning/subtitling. Really, it's an awesome, and quite relieving, solution; rather than having to strain to make out what everyone's saying in a movie or TV show, I can just read it instead! Apparently I'm not alone here; actors these days tend to mumble so much that even some NTs with good hearing frequently make use of captions...

neuroangel
05-13-04, 09:37 PM
If someone gives me instructions, I hear about 1/3 of it, but I don't even get that part right when I repeat back. I am known for asking "what" or "huh". Sometimes I just give up after the third or fourth time.

Often, words don't register at all. Someone can tell me that I have a nice shirt, and I look at them like they have five heads.

9/10 times, if I don't understand what someone said, I just ignore it and continue. Not on purpose...just out of habit, I guess.

I say the wrong thing sometimes too. I needed ice once, and I asked for hot dogs. LOL. I always just thought I was weird or spacey.

Cyndi

steveb
05-14-04, 07:31 PM
"Huh?" used to be my automatic response to everything until I realized that I usually figured out what they said right after I said "huh?".
I now am a pausing listener. I will wait a moment before I decide whether I understand or not.

I still have to have backward coversations with someone where we have to repeat everything we said backwards to figure out that I misheard the first sentence and that we were talking about two different things.

FightingBoredom
05-14-04, 07:50 PM
I only seem to have the "mis hearing" situation with my wife. I think it is actually, mis speak. She says something, things she said something else then rips on me for not hearing her correctly.

I've had a hard time winning this argument until our 10 year old caught her doing it quite often lately.

Sometimes others just don't communicate clearly and WE aren't the reason things are misheard.

steveb
05-16-04, 06:23 PM
I think that is hillarious that your daughter caught her. lol

addhil
06-17-04, 11:46 AM
When I was diagnosed with ADD, the psychologist suggested that I might also have an auditory processing disorder. I do have a hard time following conversations of more than one person. Also, I often pronounce words the way I read them, not the way people say them. Luckily I've always had good knowledge of phoenetics, but I still have my embaressing moments.

Another thing I find I do, which may or may not be related, is that I'll think to fast for my mouth eg. I'll be saying things and thinking so fast that my words come out as incomprehensible blargs.

tudorose
06-27-04, 04:44 AM
I can't understand most verbal instructions. Makes me look like an idiot.

krisp
06-27-04, 10:17 AM
Now that my older son is more verbal, I'm finding out that he mishears things all the time. I'm starting to wonder if auditory processing may be another one of his "issues." Wonder where he got that...? :rolleyes:

fasttalkingmom
06-27-04, 10:29 AM
looks like this post started a while ago, don't know how I missed this one. My daughters (14 and 9) laugh at me, makes fun of me and get frustrated with me over this.....
" leah get the shoe out of the freezer"

In my work we have two way radios and some time your asked to relay for a person the dispatch can't hear, dread always set in for me that I might be asked " Paula if you can hear them can you please relay the message" or " Paula please tell ______ " :(

I hate when you get that look from someone your talking to. You know that confused look ? and you just know you said something weird in answer to their question....I say " OMG what did I just say" I try to laugh at myself to cover my embarrassment and to cover how stupid I think they must think I am. It doesn't work it just makes me look like a unconfident spaz and a lier......

irish guy
07-27-04, 09:06 AM
If something is short and to the point i'm fine. My problem is when directions become lengthy or involved I find myself focusing on what was just said instead of what's being said now.


I get around it at work to some degree by asking people to clarify themselves and asking questions this lead some frustration by co-workers.

GOLDILOCKS
07-27-04, 11:19 AM
ADHD and often mis-hear.

Nucking_Futs
07-27-04, 11:52 AM
ADHD and often mis-hear but it has more to do with damage to my ear drums as a child one to many hits to the head. I just tell people to remember I'm partially deaf and to speak clearly and make sure I understood what they said before they move on or to write it down. They don't need to know why just that it's probably not going to get done if they don't. People understand deaf a lot better then any other word.

Keppig
07-27-04, 12:38 PM
I was told that mis hearing is a learning disability called err.. Auditory Disfunction?? or something like that. On my EIP in College I had to have a note taker and written instructions always.

tamarama
07-27-04, 05:51 PM
Another thing I find I do, which may or may not be related, is that I'll think to fast for my mouth eg. I'll be saying things and thinking so fast that my words come out as incomprehensible blargs.
I do this too, both when I'm speaking and when I'm writing. My words come out all garbled and my handwriting becomes completely illegible. My brain gets way ahead of my body and they become completely out of sync.

I also mis-hear people on a regular basis. On the other hand, what I think I heard them say is often far more interesting than what they actually said, LOL...

codeman38
09-17-04, 02:00 PM
I also do the whole thing where my brain gets ahead of my mouth and the words all start spilling out totally garbled. It's really frustrating. I've also had it happen where I was taking notes for class and started leaving out words or writing the wrong thing entirely because it was taking me so much longer to write than to think through things!

And yeah, my mishearings are often quite interesting and even whimsical at times. :)

Trooper Keith
09-26-04, 01:38 AM
I voted on a lot of those, basically I started with the second one and hit every other one, until the very end. I only mishear when my mind is preoccupied, true, but my mind is always preoccupied...I have relatively mild dyslexia, ie, I tend to miss letters or read words from other lines in the middle of sentences. I have dysgraphia, ie my handwriting is terrible, and when writing I often leave out letters or words. I normally "mishear" something as either gobbledeegook or something similar to what was said, but it often isn't related at all; I end up having to ask what they are talking about. I mishear all the time, despite mental state...

Christiana
04-03-05, 11:18 PM
oh man - i tell EVERYBODY that I'm hard of hearing even though it's not really true! (I'm only 22, and my hearing's pretty good as long as I keep that earwax out lol)

shinobi
04-04-05, 10:05 PM
im always miss hearing stuff, but im ADhD and dyslexic and other stuff so im kind of stuck with it.

stori813
04-28-05, 06:06 PM
I wish I would have seen this before going to have my hearing tested last summer.
People always think I can't hear.
Well apparently when I'm sitting in a booth with headphones on listening for the beep sounds.
I have perfect hearing.

I mishear what people say and what I heard makes no sense.
So I'm stuck having to ask them to repeat it.

Also when I'm hyperfocusing on something and someone just starts talking.
All I hear is sound coming from them.
And not what they are actually saying.
I need a mintue to change gear's and be able to hear them.

When I'm doing something as soon as I hear sound coming from them.
I'll say just a mintue. This way people don't feel like they have to repeat all the time to me.
People who are close to me have learned to make sure they do have my attention before they just start to talk.

Naomi2
04-20-06, 05:48 AM
Auditory processing disorder is often misdiagnosed as deafness, ADD, ADHD and sometimes even autism! :eek:

dormammau2008
04-20-06, 02:37 PM
:eyebrow: i misss hear quite a bit alot the time they talk an drone on an on about things that dont maetter my hearing seems very sletivce if it ant imporntd enough or helpfull to me then my mind just switchs off :faint: i find that a lovely wornams voice i key in better io think its about trust thing as well allways been the same .....:rolleyes: i have had haering porblems befor but they clared up nice therd dorm xxxxx

Way Too Flighty
04-23-06, 03:16 AM
I have a little bit of an auditory processing delay myself. I just had it pointed out to me after testing about a month ago. It only happens sometimes, usually with instructions or some kind of point-blank question. It's like I hear the words, and my mind goes, "those are words," but there is no meaning. Then, anywhere from 3 to even say 20 seconds later I go "Oh! I get it now!" My learning consultant lady told me that because I have excellent auditory short-term memory, I can remember what was said verbatim many seconds after it was said. I don't automatically understand the meaning of the words, but I remember them, so I process them later!

dormammau2008
04-24-06, 03:04 PM
yes i get that with words as well i do understand them just takes a wile for it to go into me brain lol.....same with spelling to a point then again its not quite the same on that one....but yes with the hearing if it it impornted then i dont rembers it or i dont listin to whats been said.....dorm

FullMetalOtaku
05-03-06, 09:38 AM
I have this probelm too, and I always have to ask people to repeat what they say, the first thing I say when someone gets done with talking is "what?" I hate it, but I don't notice it really when I miss hear someone until it is too late. >.<

*~ žEEK ~*
05-10-06, 07:41 AM
I am more prone to not listening as opposd to not hearing
100% ME TOO! Especially when it's my over-talkitive GF! LOL :D
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*~ žEEK ~*
05-10-06, 10:38 AM
And ditto on the whole background noise thing. The room has to be nearly quiet if I want to make out what someone's saying to me. Large social events and crowded restaurants leave me responding 'what?' to most questions. :D

Incidentally, I absolutely love closed captioning/subtitling. Really, it's an awesome, and quite relieving, solution; rather than having to strain to make out what everyone's saying in a movie or TV show, I can just read it instead! Apparently I'm not alone here; actors these days tend to mumble so much that even some NTs with good hearing frequently make use of captions...Now that I have read a few more posts in this thread! :)
I have ADHD and Dyslexia, and I agree with the background noise issue! This was ran home to me recently when I went to my sisters home for mothers day! She has wood floors almost entirely in her new home! Between the echoing of voices, and the fact that there were so many people talking at once (Eventually at least to me it even seemed like everyone was screaming! LOL) I could barely comprehend a single word anyone was saying nearly the whole time I was there!!! I had to step outside multiple times, just so I could clear my head of all the voice clutter!!

codeman38,
I also love closed captioning/subtitling! However, most often I tend to use it a little bit differently than the way that you use it.
I like to turn the volume all the way down on the TV, turn on the closed captioning, turn on the stereo, and put on some tunes, then I start up the computer and surf the net! I even have two monitors hooked up to my computer so I can surf the net on one monitor, and do homework or post on the ADD Forums on my other monitor! Sometimes I'll even throw a little eating into the mix just for kicks! LOL :rolleyes: :D Just kidding! :) Eating??? Who really ever eats when they're properly medicated, huh?? LOL :D

However, lately I've been having medication issues, and have been trying to get my depression squared away. (Again!!) Plus they have been changing the dose levels of me ADD med's quite a bit too. So, currently I can barely run one monitor while I'm posting on here, and any music or closed captioning TV is completely out of the question! Therefore, I'm back to using the closed captioning as you do codeman38! I find that it helps me understand the dialog much easier, especially with the wide fluctuations in volume levels one finds on television now days!
Have you noticed with today's Home Theater systems, if you turn down the volume because the explosions or the music in the film you're watching is glaringly LOUD, you can then barely hear or understand a single word anyone is saying, unless you turn the volume back up??
Also, I'm not sure if it's because I am watching a lot more television on my Home Theater system, but doesn't it seem like commercials now days are ridiculously LOUD??
Obviously, in general the wider dynamic range of DVDs and Home Theater systems is probably the main cause for this annoying effect??
However, those stupid commercials are the thing that really gets under my skin!! :eek: In fact, it gets under my skin so much that I would even consider paying for 100% commercial-free television if it were available!!! I haven't really thought about it up until this moment, but perhaps this may be the reason why I tend to watch a lot more movies and films on the premium channels now days than I use to watch. Perhaps it's to avoid the roar of those stupid commercials every 15 minutes! LOL :D
Hmmm... I really didn't intend to wander so far off the topic, but this has started me thinking about whether it's my ADD & Dyslexia, or if the commercials really are louder, or if it's just that I'm watching more television on a Home Theater system! Which one of these things is irritating me?? Or is it all of them when combined that's annoying?? I guess I'll have to think about paying attention to these particular items for a while to sort it all out!

B.T.W. Does television bother anybody else as it does me?? (I mean more than just a mild annoyance??)

As you can probably tell, you really have started me to thinking, and not just about my comprehension whenever someone is speaking to me! Just like the person who wrote earlier in this thread, this forum topic also has opened a whole slew of new items for me to wade thru, none of which I've given a second thought to, until today!
Thanks! LOL :D
Very interesting forum topic! :)

Peace,
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