i know i post alot about asking for help so i figured im just gonna write one BIG ONE asking for everything i need help on... plus im currently very mad

im on my meds but they only do so much ya know? a lot of it is still us so basicly im asking for help, advice and strategys for living a succesful and productive day to day life.


i need help with:
Keeping on track
Sticking to a schedule
really being productive
setting goals and ways to achieve them AND sticking to it/not geting bored or tired of it
and well just everything those of us with ADD have problems with due to living in a farmers society


thanks in advance

~Rev

for anyone else who may need help i just found out about this post it note that is a program for your computer its basicly post it notes but its for your computer its helped me do so much today already

really being productive? uhm, just keep moving forward. .

sticking to a schedule? dress in velcro, and oh nv/m ..

setting goals and ways to achieve? don' try very hard . . . just take things, just start going, and find some momentum . .

AND sticking to well, there-is velcro, hahaha . . . what?
make that an object of intention using momentous energy . .

have problems with due to living in a farmers society that sounds OK, bunch of space to do things, and stuff. like just exploring around, having adventures. . .lol, is that not fun? even though there appears not really much structure, there is . . lol, don' worry too much 'bout that . .

and feel breeze as much as possible. like feeling-breathing and also feeling external winds

know i post a lot about asking for help so i figured im just gonna write one BIG ONE asking for everything i need help on...

Ummmm big being relative naturally. If I remember right helping each other is one of the main themes behind beginning this community. . .so please do not feel bad




m on my meds but they only do so much ya know

Hmmmm the beginning of reality has begun to set in when one realizes medication is only a partial answer. Meds do make some un-natural task possible but they do not accomplish things for us.




Keeping on track

If you can't stick to one track try a combination of tracks. There are no laws saying you have to have a one track mind. I have problems sticking to one track after years of kicking my self in the a** I finally just quit trying to do things one way.

It is not unusual for me to switch task often, Sense I have signed on this evening I have responded to three threads read about seven but between responses, moderating and reading I have hung laundry on my in-door cloths hanger, I have taken the dog out for a run, I have had dinner, monitored the weather, thrown my cat out,checked out road flooding, called Gary to warn him of the road closures, watched a clip on how suspension bridges work, down loaded Firefox {I got tired on explorer crashing}, ordered a photo editing program and paid for it, put dishes in the dish washer and when I get done responding to this thread I am going to gather a load of laundry and get in into the washer ready to wash when my hanging clothes are closer to being dry.

I do not fight my ADD I have found I am more successful when I work with who I am instead of trying to be some thing I am not and single tracked is what I am not.




Sticking to a schedule

I try to make it to appointments, remember birthdays and work, and get into bed at a decent hour so I can be awake enough to earn a living. I go for structure minute by minute scheduling would be a waste of time for me because I would feel suffocated.





really being productive

I would begin with a definition of "really productive" other wise how will you ever reach this goal if you have not yet defined that which you seek to attain.




setting goals and ways to achieve them AND sticking to it/not geting bored or tired of it

I have typed an entire thought about this I was going to post it but didn't for reasons I can not remember. Perhaps I should whip it out of Word. One of the things about goal setting is deciding on the type of goal. Are you talking long term goal or short term. What purpose will your goal serve, why?

If your goal has no purpose then chances are you will not obtain it. I fail in making goals in the long term myself but I do decent at shorter ones. One of the ways I obtain goals is to define them and picture them in my mind. I picture the end result of what my goal is designed to achieve.

About 18 months ago I decided I was tired of living in a crappy house, driving a crappy car and working in a crappy job. . . .I made good money but I hated it. Now I live in a better house, I drive a much better car and I no longer work at the job I hated.

To give an example when we were looking at places to live one of the places we looked at was in another town which meant I would be moving away form the job I was working. I pulled up the picture I had of my self I had as a result of reaching my goals. . .getting rid of that job was on the list so moving away from it did not contradict my gaols so I moved to another town, which meant obtaining goal one {a better place to live} helped to bring about goal three {ditching crappy job}. I could have kept the job as I didn't move that far away {35 miles} but sense I hated it any way. . . .I got a better car some time ago then ran into an even better one that can actually pull small loads in a pinch I sold my small car and used the money to buy an SUV which can haul more than a compact. . . .the girl that bough my compact was thrilled because she was commuting, I work about two miles from where I live so the gas millage wasn't the huge deal for me but I am constantly hauling stuff back and forth so the larger vehicle was better for me.

I wanted to eventually become more of partner in Gary's business, he wanted me to help him build a home on our property which I wouldn't do without some legal connection. When he wanted to get married looking at what I wanted over the next fives years helped me to decide. . . . marriage in Nevada is easier than switching the title on a car in Texas.


I have pictures in my head and I make decisions based upon those pictures. I don't have to remind my self every day my goals help me over come indecision because they are pictures they are easily accessible to me.





and well just everything those of us with ADD have problems with due to living in a farmers society


I learned from my male partner turned husband "Mr. I ain't got no ADD" that if the farmer world doesn't work then it is time to manipulate your world to suite who you are. . . he will never chemically treat his ADHD but instead of taking medications to fit into the NT world he made his world to suite his ADHD. There ia a lot to be said for that approach. I see NTers at the store My world is now majority ADD and I fit just fine.


I no longer try to do things the way I am "supposed to" I do things the way that works for me if the farmers don't like it they can go suck an egg.