i've noticed that one of the most visited forums, and by far, are the one about social issues/problems. I am one of those people who were diagnosed with adhd and have little friends and problems understanding the dynamics of social relations. I'm going right now through the drugs tour around so many different medications in order to find the ones that work better for me. I know different medications work different people, but still i'd like to know... Can those of you have adhd or add and also social anxiety disorders or just trouble connecting with others give out the medicines that worked better for them?
I'd really apreciate it.

Amphetamines are known to cause increased confidence/social outwardness in some people. In fact, some amphetamines (like MDMA/ecstasy) have a primary effect of making people more social, open, etc. Of course, ecstasy is banned in most places and is an illegal drug...

but some of the legal amphetamines (like Adderall and Dexedrine) make you more outgoing and 'euphoric' occasionally. It really depends on the person though.

Yeah man. If you have ADHD/ADD you are about 4 times as likely to have a comorbid disorder (depression, bi-polar etc...) than someone who doesn't. What you are describing is pretty normal about having problems with social situations.

The amphetamines as ben said will probably be your best bet but a pill won't really 'cure' your problems, only treat them. It'll take time and patience to work through issues like your social ones.

Good Luck

J

Amphetamines definitely make me more friendly. I don't have any social phobias and usually like talking to people whenever the opportunity pops up. But I'm more emotionally reserved with people, not real warm or open or smiley... you know, friendliness type stuff. It's partly because of self-consciousness, and partly because I'm often in some sort of dickish mood. So the amphetamines induce a more natural, easygoing gregariousness about me and I can be a lot freer in my interactions with people.

Amphetamines definitely make me more friendly. I don't have any social phobias and usually like talking to people whenever the opportunity pops up. But I'm more emotionally reserved with people, not real warm or open or smiley... you know, friendliness type stuff. It's partly because of self-consciousness, and partly because I'm often in some sort of dickish mood. So the amphetamines induce a more natural, easygoing gregariousness about me and I can be a lot freer in my interactions with people.+1 - they do the same for me. They allow me to be more 'direct' I guess - I can just walk up to someone and have a conversation - even if I don't really know that person or something. I'm not a shy person to begin with, but on the same hand, I'm not exactly 'outgoing' all of the time - usually pretty reserved. Adderall almost made me feel 'too' confident (as in, like Dynamicism said, I had to be careful that I wasn't acting like a cocky dick towards anyone. It kinda had that affect sometimes - like sometimes I would just get in a "I don't give a f*ck who you are - I'm going to say this and this and this and I don't CARE what you think about it!" mood - which is not good - I don't like to be aggressive and cynical/cold towards people unless it's absolutely necessary...It kinda eroded my self-consciousness...but not exactly in a good way all the time.

You might even be on the autism spectrum (aspergers, etc). Its experimental and my on testing does not confirm it works but oxytocin nasal spray has pro-social effects in
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+1 - they do the same for me. They allow me to be more 'direct' I guess - I can just walk up to someone and have a conversation - even if I don't really know that person or something. I'm not a shy person to begin with, but on the same hand, I'm not exactly 'outgoing' all of the time - usually pretty reserved. Adderall almost made me feel 'too' confident (as in, like Dynamicism said, I had to be careful that I wasn't acting like a cocky dick towards anyone. It kinda had that affect sometimes - like sometimes I would just get in a "I don't give a f*ck who you are - I'm going to say this and this and this and I don't CARE what you think about it!" mood - which is not good - I don't like to be aggressive and cynical/cold towards people unless it's absolutely necessary...It kinda eroded my self-consciousness...but not exactly in a good way all the time.

Ah... what I meant was that my normal tendency is to be more hard and "aggressive" (or so it's perceived) with people. I get told I'm "intense" a lot. I like to be direct, get swiftly to the point, and I don't like to hold back. I get bored/agitated if I try to restrain myself with people. If you deal on that same sort of level, it's not a problem. But most people don't and find it rude/offensive/uncaring. So paradoxically, the amphetamines actually soften me up and make me nicer and less impatient so people find me much more approachable.

Having problems understanding the dynamics of social relations, although is typical of Asperguers, can be learned. Role playing is essencial. Find a good friend to go with you and tell you what looks "different" in certan scenario and then practice how to make it better.
Practice and rehearse, almost like acting. Think of it as if going to another country and you just need to learn the new "rules". We, as humans, are supposed to pick social clues from face expressions and body language, I guess us ADD'ers just were not paying attention as kids.
KEY: being a good friend, and give him/her the "window of honesty" a time where he can be honest and you wont take it against him. if you're feeling down, tell him to take it easy that day.
I am not familiar with meds to control anxiety, but with the correct med to control attention and impulsivity you can learn the dynamics of social relations on different cultures.
Hope this helps

+1 - they do the same for me. They allow me to be more 'direct' I guess - I can just walk up to someone and have a conversation - even if I don't really know that person or something. I'm not a shy person to begin with, but on the same hand, I'm not exactly 'outgoing' all of the time - usually pretty reserved. Adderall almost made me feel 'too' confident (as in, like Dynamicism said, I had to be careful that I wasn't acting like a cocky dick towards anyone. It kinda had that affect sometimes - like sometimes I would just get in a "I don't give a f*ck who you are - I'm going to say this and this and this and I don't CARE what you think about it!" mood - which is not good - I don't like to be aggressive and cynical/cold towards people unless it's absolutely necessary...It kinda eroded my self-consciousness...but not exactly in a good way all the time.as queensU_girl said "Many ADHD people are not shy. In fact, we get into trouble for being overly friendly, overly familiar and perhaps even intrusive."

... other adhd people are mainly shy and they get in trouble for being too introvertive.

are amphetamines like metilphenidate good for treating introvertive AND extrovertive type, or are there other drugs better for those of us who are "overly friendly"? frankly i have taken metilphenidate before and did not do the same efect for me as it did for ben72227

thanks all!

I am not familiar with meds to control anxiety, but with the correct med to control attention and impulsivity you can learn the dynamics of social relations on different cultures.
Hope this helpsI agree. Treat the ADHD or whatever and see if you still need to treat the related anxiety.