View Full Version : My Experience of trip to GP (adult add)


unfinshed1
08-30-07, 12:21 PM
Hi,

This is my first post. Today I went to the GP, he has never heard of adult ADD so I explained showing him the list of symptoms (from adders.org) which he didn't read, and tried to explain how it affects me.

He seemed to get it in this initial learning phase and asked what I thought he could do for me about it. I didn't mention medication I just said I wanted to confirm the diagnosis properly because I was aware I might just be clutching at straws in the hope I have found "the solution," after years of trying to sort myself out. He said he could only refer me to a psychiatrist who may then be able to refer me on. I thought that sounded fair enough.

But basically after he found out I had managed to get myself an education to PhD level he just started to challenge me (to the point of nearly suggesting I must be lying) and eventually suggested councelling instead which I will do just so I can go back again. Plus I'm sure it will do me some good but if I do have ADD will just leave the rocky foundations in place.

If anyone wants to know how I got my education the answer is luck, I started bad had remedial reading lessons and didn't improve much then an interest in science and fear-driven revision got me up to a-level. In my degree I decided I wanted to try and get a 1st so all I did was "work" except in reality I did no more than those who actually paid attention in lectures, the time I spent working might as well have been spent in the pub. I didn't get a 1st by the way and I would not want anyone to ever read my PhD (I was lucky I got some results).

Now I feel totally crippled most of the time, I have 43+ incomplete hobby projects and about 4 complete. At work the list of incomplete tasks mounts and I really want to do this job well. The rest of my life seems to slip by, I just want to know, even reading about it has helped.

But how the hell do you get this across to a GP who has never even heard of adult ADD?

Graham

QueensU_girl
08-30-07, 12:35 PM
Your case sounds pretty typical.

Can complete College or Uni, but have scads of other unfinished projects, and general lack of focus in life aims and underacheivement (for IQ).

Yup.

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Sorry to hear you had to deal with a bonehead doc who has never heard of ADD (which is really similar to other "frontal lobe" syndromes or "executive dysfunction").

These are also common in people with head injuries (TBI) and it is sad to hear that this guy is really out of the loop. They get a form of ADD, really.

[Gosh, even in the 1960s, they used the old term for ADD -- which was "MBD" or "minimal brain dysfunction".]

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re: going back to your Doc to talk about ADD again

One thing ADDers tend to do is stay (PERSIST) in bad settings for too long (such as poor rel'ps, soured friendships, inadequate healthcare situations, bad jobs, stressful living environs, etc),

"trying to make things work",
.

e.g. trying to convince our shrinks/GPs/parents/friends/schools that "we have a problem", only to have its existence (and our "reality") denied. many of us here could tell you some accounts of that. :S

I'd recommend you MAY want to consider not talking to this idiot about your ADD again. It is too invalidating and dismissive for you. You deserve care and consideration and respect, not rejection and such.

If you talk to him about it again: consider doing it only after you have the PROOF OF THE Testing in your hands to show him. :D

---> There is specific neuropsychological testing and executive dysfunction (brain's "Manager") testing you can have done to analyze your brain function for very subtle deficits.

You can find a list of them on Wikipedia.

FuturePast
08-30-07, 04:31 PM
Are you in the South-west? See my post about a local support group for adults.

unfinshed1
08-30-07, 05:11 PM
QueensU_girl,

I can go with as much proof as I like but he can't take my word for it and I understand that, what is a shame is the ignorance of the UK medical establishment in general, a certain amount of it I think is xenophobia against America which is seen as a place where every one is in therapy or on some form of drug. I'm just hoping he at least looks in to it a little so if I do go back he at least has some idea.

Generally I find it hard to explain to anyone about my problems, as far as other people are concerned I'm good enough (for their needs) although I can be difficult at times. But they have never spent a day following me around at the weekend when I'm all over the place.

FuturePast, I'll PM you.

Graham

p.s. My user name was mispelled for ironic purposes honest :)

amazing_lobster
08-31-07, 01:38 PM
Hey,

Sorry to hear about your GP appoinment, I fear your next appoinment maybe futile, no matter how much you convince him, unless you try my approach.

It has taken me 10 years to get help with ADHD... and here is how I eventually did it...

Try to find a few accademic journals to take with you, that can inform your GP, psychiatrist, of the condition so you can argue your case.

I took with me:

The Clinical Assessment and treatment of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder in Adults, by Asherson.

Evidence-based guidelines for management of attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder in adolescents in transition to adult services and in adults: recommendations from the British Association for Psychopharmacology, by Nutt et al.

I dropped these off two days before my appointment, I then prepeared a list of my concentration/frontal lobe related problems which I took with me to the appointment

Don't hold back here - inform them of everything - impulsive temper, losing things, effect on driving etc, everything, no matter how uncomfortable you feel about explaining it.

If this doesn't work, don't feel dejected - try another GP in the same sugery.

The main problem is here, is that GPs & psychiatrists are not sceptical, they are just not very well informed about ADHD/ADD/hyperkinestic disorder. NICE are prepearing guidelines for Adults ADHD for next year, because at the moment, there isn't any kind of guidelines suggesting how to treat this condition in adults.

You are probably going to have to fight hard to get treated, by being persistant, it will eventually happen.

And also, today is my first day on Ritalin (only 10mg a day), and I have just typed this whole post without making one mistake...

amazing_lobster
08-31-07, 02:23 PM
Meant to say - reference mistakes, I mean missing words - I don't expect Ritalin to improve my spelling ability!

: )

FuturePast
08-31-07, 04:32 PM
Great suggestions:

Nutt et al. http://www.bap.org.uk/consensus/adult_ADHD.html

Asherson et al. "Adult attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder:recognition and treatment in general adult psychiatry"
http://files-upload.com/files/473076/asherson-adult_ADHD-br_jr_psych-2007.pdf

kilted_scotsman
09-03-07, 05:06 PM
Hi Unfinished

I'm going through the same thing up here in Scotland, with the added complication that there are no centres either public or private that deal with Adult ADD. consequently I'll need to get a referral to the English NHS which is next to impossible.

I started on this path around January this year and it took till August to get my GP to write a letter to see if a referral to a centre in England was possible.

I am in a slightly worrying condition as I am fairly convinced that my angina (heart disease) is exacerbated by the high stress levels and anxiety caused by living with ADD.

I have an Honours degree and an MSc, both obtained (just) through the use of native wit.

It loks like being a tough road

kilt

unfinshed1
09-05-07, 11:31 AM
Good luck kilt!

Today I went to the first (and last) councelling session, it lasted 35min and was pretty much like talking to an intellegent(ish) friend. He bascially tried to make out that I was being hard on myself thinking I did not spend enough of my time at work actually working (I'm sure that is the case for some people) and that I should try to think about how important it really is to change because then I would be motivated to do it. Then mentioned time managment books (I did mention the problem reading books).

I paraphrase somewhat unfairly but that was the jist. I've been given a number to ring where I can book sessions on a PC in a local clinic doing the "beating the blues" CBT sessions. After that (8 weeks) he said I could always come back, yay.

So I'm going to do it because I am sure it will help but I think I will also go back to the doctors, hopefully he will actually of read up on the subject.

Graham

columbo
09-07-07, 11:26 AM
I went through a very similar thing. It is very difficult to explain to a doctor that ADD does not amount to a lack of intelligence. But you should be given the opportunity to rule it out at the very least.

I did, eventually, get a diagnosis from a specialist, and my present GP is now very understanding. Part of the process I was put through involved an IQ test which came out very high. Yet the specialist was still happy to diagnose me with ADHD Inattentive.

If you would like to PM me, I would be happy to help in any way I can.

Columbo

unfinshed1
09-14-07, 04:11 PM
So I did the first session of the beating the blues series, it would have been OK if the assistant hadn't tried to show me not to use the browser back button right at the end, she pressed the screen which happens to be a touch screen and surprise surprise it sent me back to the start, doh!

It seemed like a really good piece of software but is designed for depression and anxiety specifically, both of these things I have suffered from at times but at the moment I'm dong fairly well, it was hard to actually fill in a lot of the boxes. So although I intended to go for two weeks before going back to the docs I went back today. Incidentally I'm going to carry on going anyway.

The doctor pretty much immediately said he would refer me (to psychiatrist) but disappointly had not done any further research and said he just "saw it another way" and thought it was just "low mood and depression". How he can see without knowing a jot about it I don't understand. Now I just have to pray that the psychciatrist I see has some knowledge of ADHD or I'm stumped.

Graham

hollyduck
09-14-07, 06:07 PM
I have been lucky because my GP takes this problem seriously. It's my friends and family who don't. I'm sure that somewhere on this forum there is a list of "10 pronouncements about ADD that I never want to hear again", but in case there isn't, we can start one beginning with:

"But that happens to everybody"
"You're too smart and accomplished to have ADD".
"Don't be so hard on yourself -- take it easy and relax."

The fact is, I worked long and hard to stop being hard on myself, to take it easy and to relax. Then I waited expectantly for my productivity to speed up, which it didn't do. What happens "to everybody" happens to me five times as often-- memory lapse, abrupt changew from one task to another, brainfog in the face of work. One flat tire is normal -- four flat tires is a conspiracy :D

And finally, if I wasn't so smart and if I wasn't so talented I wouldn't be distressed to the point of tears at having almost nothing to show for it, except an almost uninterrupted record of uncompleted projects and broken promises. Paradoxically, if I was foolish and untalented I wouldn't be surrounded by friends who tried to reassure me by telling me how smart I am (and, being out of school nobody tells me anymore that I'm not living up to my potential -- not sure if that's better or worse).

For a couple of decades, I have felt that I was on the brink of becoming a popular writer, or at least a productive writer. As my life has become more and more free from the influence of a husband, a job, and other obligations it has become crystal clear that they were never what kept me back -- something about me kept me back. If I seem impatient and having to wait a few weeks for a diagnosis, it's because I've actually waited 40 years for a diagnosis.

Ducky

unfinshed1
09-15-07, 06:53 AM
I know exactly what you mean, although I don't have a diagnosis its still really hard to get the fact I have a problem at all over to people. On paper things look fine, "I'm good enough". And friends are sometimes a bit selfish in being nice, they are really saying that you are good enough for their needs.

I had the same thing when I needed to loose some weight, "you're fine, you're not over weight", I said "would you be OK with this?" pulling my t-shirt close to my gut, "oh I guess not". Trouble is you can't pull your t-shirt close to your ADHD.

FWIW I lost about 37 pounds after I managed to get stuck in a low calorie eating routine (pretty much the same food everyday, structure!) then I stopped. I still need to loose the rest 3 years on and I can't keep the focus even though it seriously undermines my self confidence. My weight loss stopped simply because the food I had been eating was no longer available from the work cafe.

Its all relative, I don't think I'm a genious but I know that I'm not living up to my potential simply due to the amount of time I spend not doing anything and my complete inability to deal with details.

Some more for the list:

"but you don't jump around all of the time"
"you manage to concentrate when you want to"
"isn't it just an excuse"
"you are just depressed"

Cheers,

Graham

kilted_scotsman
09-15-07, 11:10 AM
I go up and down alot as I research my possible ADD. however the more I research the more I feel I have it and the more confident I am in dealing with the medical establishment.

The lack of skilled Adult diagnosticians for ADHD in the UK make it extremely difficult for those without a "formal" diagnosis to fight the ignorance surrounding this condition. In the US, where the majority of the members of this forum live, there are established diagnostic and treatment regimes and even there, those formally diagnosed with ADHD and recieving prescribed medications still have issues with friends and family preconceptions of Adult ADHD.

However that said there are several ways that one can thicken ones skin, firstly by researching Adult ADHD in a reasoned manner and secondly by involving a trusted, emotionally mature and intelligent friend or therapist as confidant to ensure that one does not vanish up ones own posterior during the inevitable self-analysing.

this makes one much surer of ones ground and thus more assertive and prepared to argue with those less informed about Adult ADHD but still possessing many distinguished letters after their name.

Here in the UK we must accept that we are at the earliest stages in the development of diagnostic and treatment options for this condition with its complex interaction of neurological and environmental factors. Consequently we have a wider set of issues than an individual dignosed with a recognsed condition.

Whether as individuals we choose to broadcast our new-found knowledge and self-assessment is an individual decision but without a few people brave enough to do so the publics awareness of Adult ADHD will take considerably longer to mature.

My immediate family and a few trusted friends know of my self assessment and most are supportive. I also raise it in conversation obliquely and I suppose a few put two and two together.

Thank goodness for the internet!

kilt

unfinshed1
09-17-07, 04:52 AM
Kilt,

I feel exactly the same and I think it is because it is not really a deficit but rather an inconsistancy as it was put in the book "driven to distraction". Its possible to feel normal at times and I found the process of investigating ADHD so interesting it tended to make me feel normal. Even my Mum made the coment that I seemed to have been able to concentrate on ADHD well enough.

The other thing I find hard is remembering all the ways I feel I fit the diagnosis, when I was reading the book it was one knowing smile after another but now if someone asks me my mind goes blank until I can get myself into the space of actually being truly excited by the subject again. This in itself would seem to be a possible sign.

Good luck again kilt and to everyone giving such sound advice and kind words.

Graham

PinkBeauty
09-19-07, 03:58 PM
Hi, I visited my GP for the first time 2 weeks' ago, and on the advice of Amazing Lobster, took with me the details of a Professor who's an expert in Adult ADHD in Swansea Uni. I'm still waiting to hear. I hope and pray that this guy will take NHS referrals. I will keep you all informed.


Allie

PinkBeauty
09-23-07, 02:02 PM
I've heard from my GP and the Professor takes both private and NHS referrals, so now I have to wait for my GP to get permission to send me from the LHB!

kilted_scotsman
09-26-07, 10:26 AM
Hi Folks

In an earlier post I said that my GP was writing to the Maudsley to ask about a referral. I've just been done to check up to see if they'd heard anything......and guess what

They hadn't sent the letter, not only that, they have lost the info I gave them so its back to square 1.

Coping with this kind of stuff is doing my head in.

kilt

kilted_scotsman
10-03-07, 07:14 AM
Went to one of the senior GP's in the practice and was asked to put together a list of Adult ADHD assessment centres in the UK for him. Just had a phonecall from him....amazing....and he's sending a referral letter to LANC so things move forward at last. Thats over 6 months since I first visited the GP.

I am going to get the assessment done privately, which will cost about 700 plus travel costs to London.

The GP indicated that it would be a very lengthy process to apply for NHS funds to obtain assessment in a centre outside Scotland and the chances of a successful application would be low.

However if the diagnosis is positive the GP indicates that ongoing treatment may be possible under the NHS particularly if supervision can be done via the GP in Scotland.

kilt

unfinshed1
10-03-07, 08:08 AM
That's great news, at least they are giving you a fair crack at the whip. I wondered what the cost of an assessment would be, I never imagined it would be so much. Do you have any idea of what it will entail?

Graham

kilted_scotsman
11-02-07, 03:33 PM
Hi Folks

Assessed and the diagnosis was positive. I have ADD.

Travelled down the Horsham to the Learning and Neurocare Centre, which is situated in a small set of rooms in a converted shop on the edge of Horsham town centre.

Did a series of tests with a clinical psychologist, arranging blocks, looking at pictures, a glorified IQ type test and a computerised attention/impulsivity test, quite alot of discussion about past life and issues.

THe IQ style tests were the most obvious, showing a marked discrepancy between my abilities and my processing speed and working memory....which was pretty obvious as I absolutely sucked at the tests relying for those!

THe assessment took about 2 hours.

Following day I met Dr Kewley to and went over some of the results from the previous day, discussed medication options. Dr Kewley will write to my GP with his recommendations. THe situation is made more complex by my recent admission for cardiac investigations as Concerta is contra-indicated for those with existing heart conditions. The consultation with Dr Kewley was about 1 hour.

What i would say is that if you have to stay overnight in Horsham, make sure you book accommodation early as the good places get full quick. There's a Travel Inn beside the station with Beefeater attached. Leaving it too late resulted in me occupying a seriously grotty Guesthouse where the thought of eating breakfast made me feel nauseous. Also ensure your wallet contains only Bank of England notes as Horsham's publicans are suspicious of foreigners and refuse to accept other legal tender, but they don't tell you this until after you've had your meal and the time has come to pay. (The Beefeater did however accept my dubiously foreign Scotish notes).

Total cost ......over 1000 including fares and accommodation.

unfinshed1
11-05-07, 06:43 PM
That's excellent news and hearing about the tests was certainly interesting. I hope it all works out well for you from now on.

I've got a meeting with a psychiatrist (from local authority) on Friday, I need to get prepared but I'm sitting here and I can't even recall what is wrong with me.

FWIW I completed the beating the blues online CBT course, CBT is definately an excellent thing but I didn't make the most of it as I completely failed to do the home work each week for the usual reasons. Every time I got into the session (I did it at the surgery to add some structure) I would think I really should have done the homework but then I would leave and go to work and then next thing I knew it was time for the next session.

Graham

unfinshed1
11-09-07, 10:00 PM
Well I'm not sure if to be happy or not.

The psychiatrist already knew I thought I had ADD when I arrived which helped, we then filled out a general questionaire together where I listed my symptoms and details of my child hood etc, at the end of that he said yes I think you do have ADD, the best thing would be self help with the other people on my books, but I'm leaving I'll see if someone else will run it.

I mention the group in Bristol and he seems quite excited, "can you bring me the details on tuesday of next week during my surgery"

Then he says the main thing is support but drugs can help, "do you want to try some antidepressents", err OK. Then he filled out a prescription for sertraline and started putting on his coat "if they help ask your GP for more", please bring me the details on Tuesday.

Then we both left the together and he started to run off, "sorry I'm late for a prayer meeting I missed it last week".

Wow. Firstly we didn't talk outside of the questionaire really which seems odd, maybe 25 minutes max, secondly I don't know if he wants to see me next week or just get hand delivered details, thirdly I don't know if we can tweak the meds at all or anything and finally is this really what you wait weeks for! Nice guy though.

So this is day one of trying the sertraline, I think it's helping but it's hard to say if it's not just the novelty.

Graham

bahhhh
01-04-08, 07:33 AM
I am going to get the assessment done privately, which will cost about 700 plus travel costs to London.
kilt

Does anyone know why LANC does not undertake adult assessments under health insurance?

...is there an affordable way to get a diagnosis in the UK? I'm paying for BUPA private insurance, but now I'm so stuck because NHS is useless, and private clinics don't accept insurance payments. WTF?

hollyduck
01-04-08, 09:38 AM
...Then he says the main thing is support but drugs can help, "do you want to try some antidepressents", err OK. Then he filled out a prescription for sertraline and started putting on his coat "if they help ask your GP for more", please bring me the details on Tuesday...

Research I have read says just the opposite -- support (counseling? support groups?) helps but it is the meds that do the heavy lifting for most people.

Not sure about using sertraline / Zoloft for ADHD. How did it work for you, unfinshed1?

Kilted, it's sad to look back at this thread and see how hopeful I was in September about getting a dx and treatment. It's still on the horizon -- but no matter where you stand, the horizon is still 7 miles away, like the end of the rainbow.

~plays the Smallest Violin In The World~

Ducky

kilted_scotsman
01-04-08, 07:51 PM
Hi Bahhh

i'm not sure why it's difficult to get Adult ADD assessment on insurance....if I were you I'd phone up Bupa and some private clinics and ask the question. I suspect it's because NICE do not yet have guidelines out for it and it's not on the actuarial radar yet. if the insurance company can't annuitise the monetary risk they're taking on by including it they won't include it.....plus once diagnosed it's a lifetime treatment and the many insurances specifically exclude such liabilities.

As far as my own story is concerned...I'm now on Concerta supposedly 4 x 18mg but I stuck at 36mg as I was having problems sleeping. The effect was pretty instantaneous...and is still noticeable though I now think I need to up my dose as things have slipped.

kilt

bahhhh
01-04-08, 08:52 PM
Hi Kilt,

Thanks for the reply. The problem is not with my insurance, BUPA would pay for the assessment, but I emailed LANC asking if they accept private referrals, what's the waiting list like and how much it costs. They replied right away telling me that they don't do assessments under health insurance (without giving a reason) and did not tell me the cost. I find this rather suspect.


RE: Concerta, not sure how long you've been on it but I had concerta (XR) a few months ago. Be careful when upping the dose. It will never again be like on the magic first few days and upping the dose worsens the side effects a lot. I found that taking 2x 18mg doses a few hours apart is a LOT smoother than 36mg in one go.
The faster you up the dose, the faster you develop tolerance and very quickly you will be having too many side effects to take more and the positive effect will also quickly disappear (at least it happened for me). To make it last longer, take weekends off and stay on the same dose for several weeks even if it's not as good as before, oh and take a smaller dose after a couple days off.
I wish I could get back on it, I loved the constant hyperfocus effect (but hated the rebound, that was horrible and I was useless after 6pm) 5-HTP and occasionally melatonin helped falling asleep.

columbo
02-14-08, 08:37 PM
NHS waiting times have shortened in recent months. Unless your GP or Psychiatrist has been particularly awkward and is refusing to refer you to somewhere like the South London and Maudsley clinic (whose waiting times were down to about 3 months last time I checked), it .

My local psychs told me they thought I didn't have ADHD, but I was told I had a right to a second opinion and offered to refer me to an Adult ADHD specialist in Cambridge for that reason.

I am surprised LANC did not give you the information about costs over the phone. I phoned them recently and they were really pleasant with me, although now I think about it, they did have to phone me back with that info and it took them a couple days.

See my post in the thread about assessment centres in the UK. I posted info about a clinic in Harrow which appears to be cheaper than LANC.

bahhhh
02-15-08, 10:10 AM
NHS waiting times have shortened in recent months. Unless your GP or Psychiatrist has been particularly awkward and is refusing to refer you to somewhere like the South London and Maudsley clinic (whose waiting times were down to about 3 months last time I checked), it .

My local psychs told me they thought I didn't have ADHD, but I was told I had a right to a second opinion and offered to refer me to an Adult ADHD specialist in Cambridge for that reason.

I am surprised LANC did not give you the information about costs over the phone. I phoned them recently and they were really pleasant with me, although now I think about it, they did have to phone me back with that info and it took them a couple days.

See my post in the thread about assessment centres in the UK. I posted info about a clinic in Harrow which appears to be cheaper than LANC.

hey, thanks for your reply. My GP knows a lot about ADHD and was keen to refer me, but I'm still waiting for my preliminary assessment, so I'm not even on the waiting list yet. I didn't have high expectations with the NHS anyway, so this just confirms my worst fears about their incompetence.

I finally went to the Wellington hospital for a diagnosis and paying for it myself, as BUPA now refuse to pay for diagnosis in adults. They're friendly and very professional. It's about 870 but it's well worth it.. that's much less than I think 1 year of my life is worth:-)

Thanks for posting the info about Harrow.

Red Bean
04-12-08, 10:56 AM
Sounds like i'd better get saving! x x

Valhala Knight
04-12-08, 07:04 PM
That's what's great about America, you can get plenty of drugs if you need them

skatty
04-15-08, 03:18 PM
Sounds like i'd better get saving! x x

Or just have A LOT of patience...

Miss_E
04-21-08, 10:12 AM
Argh I feel like I'm banging my head against a brick wall trying to get my referral and diagnosis, I share everyone's pain and frustrations on here!

I went to my GP 6 weeks ago and raised my suspicions of having ADHD with her and explained I wanted a referral to the specialist clinic in Bristol. She listened and tried to be understanding but I could sense her scepticism but she admitted she knew little about it. Anwyay, I'm curently having councelling for anxiety anyway so my GP reccomended I speak to my counciller and the psychiatric consultant I'm under the care of and request they refer me.

Well, my counciller is amazing and admitted to me she'd suspected for some time that I may have it and that we should def ask my consultant for a referral. I went away and prepared a HUGE amount of information for her to give to him, including a long report on all my current struggles and even the name of the Dr to be referred to which Bristol had given me. I was speechless when my appointment with him came around and he hadn't looked at / acknowldged any of it!! He asked me totally inappropriate questions, didn't listen, didn't take my request of the referral seriously and could barely even speak English! I left in floods of tears, I feel just so utterly dejected.

Spoke to my counciller the next day at my dismay and she agreed that he was pretty much being useless!! My hopes now lie with her persisting with him and hoping he will sit down with me properly and consider my referral in more depth.

But frankly I want to change consultants. Does anyone know if this is possible? I worry that I won't be able to since he may be the only one that covers my PCT catchment area. I also worry that it may set me back even further as there may be long waiting lists. ARGH it's just all too infuriating. I can't afford a private diagnosis either so it's gonna have to mean biding my time with the frankly, exasperating NHS!!

sharona
05-16-08, 04:43 PM
Reading all of this now makes me more worried!

I'm going to see a psychologist tomorrow, but she is only seeing me for an hour.

From what I've read, they need more time than that. It's private, I'm going to pay the 70 myself. At least I may come out of it with something I can give to my GP...when I get one. I really hate the NHS, when I went to them about depression, they never really cared or did anything about it. They told me that can refer me to a clinic, but the waiting time is 5 months. Really great when you are feeling sucidal. Alas, I'm still here, witht he help of a really great boyfriend, who I happened to hurt so much.

I hope it goes well!

x

columbo
05-19-08, 03:55 PM
Sharona,

I would encourage you to accept the offer of a referral to a clinic whatever happens with the psychologist. 5 months may seem like a long time, but try to fight the ADD tendency to get downhearted.

Too many ADDers are discouraged from seeking a referral to an Adult ADHD clinic because waiting times are so long, which really makes no sense at all. Ask for a referral now, and if a quicker option comes up in the meantime (for instance, you end up being able to pay for a private diagnosis), you can always cancel your NHS appointment. Don't let the problem drag on!

It may not actually take 5 months anyway, and it is a lot better than it used to be (two years!). I know the NHS is rubbish at the moment, but if you and others who are going through the same as you all persist, we will make a difference.

After all, what is 5 months compared to a lifetime of muddling through, never making any progress? It may seem like you won't be able to handle any more, but if you have lasted this long, you have the endurance within you to last a while longer.

It took me a year to get a diagnosis, and another 2 and a half years to really start seeing real progress. If I had said to myself, 'I can't wait that long, so what's the point', I would still be where I was 3 and a half years ago.

In the meantime, educate yourself as much as you can about ADD though websites like additudemag.com, so you can start making a difference to yourself now.

Hope this helps and I hope the appointment goes well and you make progress. Let us know what happens.

Columbo