Slowpoke
09-12-07, 03:45 AM
OK so here's the deal.
I have ADHD.
I also happen to have a B.A. in psychology, do behaviroual intervention, have taught swimming lessons/first aid for 8 years and am completing certification as a Special Education Assistant (S.E.A.).
I also work in the schools as an SEA already b/c I had years of experience working with people with all kinds of special needs through my work in aquatics.
I'm aiming to be a teacher and probably go into professional development, school psychology or something education and psych combo packed.
In my experiences on-call, I've noticed in general that teachers DO NOT understand kids with ADHD. It's REALLY frustrating! B/c when I get the kids, they all end up doing great work, are able to behave better and don't present sulky attitude.
So PLEASE whatever you do, KEEP THESE IN MIND. REVIEW THIS.
I speak from personal experience, which is most likely the reason why I get along with the kids who have ADHD/behavioural issues - I can empathize.
1) Kids with ADHD DON'T WANT YOU TO BE MAD AT THEM.
they already KNOW that they mess up (A LOT) in everyday lives.
Their lives are VERY VERY STRESSFUL. They're really stressed about doing the wrong thing all the time.
They already feel that they're going to be rushed, belittled, and have teachers give that "sigh" of dissapointment/exasperation.
when you get mad at them, it just ends up totally messing with their self-esteem.
2) Kids with ADHD ARE TRYING THEIR VERY BEST TO DO THE RIGHT THING.
they just don't know how to do it, or what specifically to do.
what you can do:
keep telling them :I know you don't mean to be disruptive, but you're talking really loud.
and realize that people with ADHD have a VERY VERY hard time being AWARE OF SUCH THINGS (talking too loud, talking too much, being hyper etc)
have a piece of paper on their desk, and count the number of time they are "on track".
3) DO NOT, I repeat, ***DO NOT*** keep track of how many times they've forgotten or are being disruptive... this will make them feel bad and be a magnifier of how much they already feel a failure they are.
Honestly, they don't feel they are able to do anything right...
when you "catch them being good"... it makes them feel good, feel valued.
things to say:
"I really like how you're sitting quietly and working! Excellent job!"
or "Wow, you got to work really quickly. That's great!" "Thank you for being quiet during seatwork." "I really like how you remembered to walk quietly/keep hands to yourself/whatever"
and then, you make a tick mark on the paper on their desk. (I use a sticky note, and divide the day up into sections - by subject, am/pm, etc)
4) when the kids go off on a tangent (seemingly totally unrelated to what's going on), TAKE THE TIME to ask "what made you think of that?" instead of just ignoring what they said and saying to them to get back to work... this works realllly well... the thoughts are always related, and the kid gets to share what reminded them of it... and it seems to get it out of their system, and brings them back to what they were doing. If they tend to really go off on a tangent a lot, then have a piece of paper where you can put the "thoughts for later" on and talk about something on there when you're done "X" amount of work (number of problems etc)
THIS REALLY WORKS WELL :)
The kids feel undervalued when adults disregard what they've just said... it would be like someone repeatedly telling you "what you just said isn't really important".
5) WORK ON SELF AWARENESS
note in a kind way (or come up with a "secret signal") with the student to let them know they're doing *ONE BEHAVIOUR* you wish to choose.
for example:
there was a super cute, super creative, awesome boy in grade 3 who was in the class I was on-call, and one behaviour I noticed that really got the teacher annoyed was him not raising his hand and yelling out answers.
I used the sticky note strategy, and when I was unable to go and make a tickmark (I was actually in to support a girl with down syndrome, one on one) I gave him the "thumbs up".
Please note, that I specifically told him that every time he remembered to raise his hand and not speak out, he got a tickmark... so he was AWARE of the SPECIFIC ONE BEHAVIOUR I was looking for.
this IMMEDIATELY developed his self-awareness, and within an hour, he would remember to raise his hand, and he'd look over at me to see if I'd noticed he remembered. It was great!
You then can work on seeing if each block of time/subject s/he can remember more times. Then you work on adding one more behaviour...
and so on.
You can do things like have a jar and bingo chips, and every time the student remembers to do something you've been working on brining self-awareness to, you put a chip in - MAKING SURE that the student is aware you are doing so (get eye contact, or say their name and smile and put in the chip), or walk by their desk and say "chip" (or whatever word you choose)
you can use different coloured chips for different behaviours if you find that the student is at that stage.
I have lots more, but it's late and I need to get to sleep.
Since I myself have ADHD and now work with kids who have it, I'm VERY passionate about helping the kids.
Don't be ignorant about their feelings, or how your words impact them.
If you have any questions, please message me, and we can get in touch by e-mail.
I've done a lot of research on ADHD myself, am on meds, and work with kids to modify their behaviour.
I hope this helps.
Feel free to post any questions you have concerning a student, and I'll try to help you out with some ideas on things to try or point you in the right direction.
Good luck, hang in there!
This is the year that you'll really see the kids bloom, if you learn to understand them, I PROMISE.
I have ADHD.
I also happen to have a B.A. in psychology, do behaviroual intervention, have taught swimming lessons/first aid for 8 years and am completing certification as a Special Education Assistant (S.E.A.).
I also work in the schools as an SEA already b/c I had years of experience working with people with all kinds of special needs through my work in aquatics.
I'm aiming to be a teacher and probably go into professional development, school psychology or something education and psych combo packed.
In my experiences on-call, I've noticed in general that teachers DO NOT understand kids with ADHD. It's REALLY frustrating! B/c when I get the kids, they all end up doing great work, are able to behave better and don't present sulky attitude.
So PLEASE whatever you do, KEEP THESE IN MIND. REVIEW THIS.
I speak from personal experience, which is most likely the reason why I get along with the kids who have ADHD/behavioural issues - I can empathize.
1) Kids with ADHD DON'T WANT YOU TO BE MAD AT THEM.
they already KNOW that they mess up (A LOT) in everyday lives.
Their lives are VERY VERY STRESSFUL. They're really stressed about doing the wrong thing all the time.
They already feel that they're going to be rushed, belittled, and have teachers give that "sigh" of dissapointment/exasperation.
when you get mad at them, it just ends up totally messing with their self-esteem.
2) Kids with ADHD ARE TRYING THEIR VERY BEST TO DO THE RIGHT THING.
they just don't know how to do it, or what specifically to do.
what you can do:
keep telling them :I know you don't mean to be disruptive, but you're talking really loud.
and realize that people with ADHD have a VERY VERY hard time being AWARE OF SUCH THINGS (talking too loud, talking too much, being hyper etc)
have a piece of paper on their desk, and count the number of time they are "on track".
3) DO NOT, I repeat, ***DO NOT*** keep track of how many times they've forgotten or are being disruptive... this will make them feel bad and be a magnifier of how much they already feel a failure they are.
Honestly, they don't feel they are able to do anything right...
when you "catch them being good"... it makes them feel good, feel valued.
things to say:
"I really like how you're sitting quietly and working! Excellent job!"
or "Wow, you got to work really quickly. That's great!" "Thank you for being quiet during seatwork." "I really like how you remembered to walk quietly/keep hands to yourself/whatever"
and then, you make a tick mark on the paper on their desk. (I use a sticky note, and divide the day up into sections - by subject, am/pm, etc)
4) when the kids go off on a tangent (seemingly totally unrelated to what's going on), TAKE THE TIME to ask "what made you think of that?" instead of just ignoring what they said and saying to them to get back to work... this works realllly well... the thoughts are always related, and the kid gets to share what reminded them of it... and it seems to get it out of their system, and brings them back to what they were doing. If they tend to really go off on a tangent a lot, then have a piece of paper where you can put the "thoughts for later" on and talk about something on there when you're done "X" amount of work (number of problems etc)
THIS REALLY WORKS WELL :)
The kids feel undervalued when adults disregard what they've just said... it would be like someone repeatedly telling you "what you just said isn't really important".
5) WORK ON SELF AWARENESS
note in a kind way (or come up with a "secret signal") with the student to let them know they're doing *ONE BEHAVIOUR* you wish to choose.
for example:
there was a super cute, super creative, awesome boy in grade 3 who was in the class I was on-call, and one behaviour I noticed that really got the teacher annoyed was him not raising his hand and yelling out answers.
I used the sticky note strategy, and when I was unable to go and make a tickmark (I was actually in to support a girl with down syndrome, one on one) I gave him the "thumbs up".
Please note, that I specifically told him that every time he remembered to raise his hand and not speak out, he got a tickmark... so he was AWARE of the SPECIFIC ONE BEHAVIOUR I was looking for.
this IMMEDIATELY developed his self-awareness, and within an hour, he would remember to raise his hand, and he'd look over at me to see if I'd noticed he remembered. It was great!
You then can work on seeing if each block of time/subject s/he can remember more times. Then you work on adding one more behaviour...
and so on.
You can do things like have a jar and bingo chips, and every time the student remembers to do something you've been working on brining self-awareness to, you put a chip in - MAKING SURE that the student is aware you are doing so (get eye contact, or say their name and smile and put in the chip), or walk by their desk and say "chip" (or whatever word you choose)
you can use different coloured chips for different behaviours if you find that the student is at that stage.
I have lots more, but it's late and I need to get to sleep.
Since I myself have ADHD and now work with kids who have it, I'm VERY passionate about helping the kids.
Don't be ignorant about their feelings, or how your words impact them.
If you have any questions, please message me, and we can get in touch by e-mail.
I've done a lot of research on ADHD myself, am on meds, and work with kids to modify their behaviour.
I hope this helps.
Feel free to post any questions you have concerning a student, and I'll try to help you out with some ideas on things to try or point you in the right direction.
Good luck, hang in there!
This is the year that you'll really see the kids bloom, if you learn to understand them, I PROMISE.