And i dont mean that in the hitting sence.

If this is in the wrong place please move it for me.

I dont quite know when it happened with my first two, but this was the first time with my 2yr old girl.
My littlest one has been physically close to me since day one, she is rarely far from my side (even sleeps in my bed) and i never had a problem knowing her mood and being able to react appropriatly to it. She will be 3 next month and she has slowly been moving away from me, starting pre-school and staying with my mum from time to time.
This morning she came bounding up to me and to start with i just assumed she was mad at me, dont know why i made the assumption though, turned out she was in a fun mood and wanted to play.
Well i just couldnt connect with her, its hard to explain, it was almost like she was a stranger or i was. Its like i have lost the single closest conection to a human being, and i want it back.

Over the last few months there have been times when i havent been able to sooth her moods or calm her fears, just not in sinc with her anymore. Watching this happen i realise it happened with the other two as well, though i dont know when.

With my hubby i get days or hours when i am totally insinc with him, know how he is fealing and can almost finish his sentances for him. Then most days he is a seperate person under my roof, or rather on the end of a pc connection these days.

I think this all may be part of my lack of ability to read and affectivky comunicate with people in general, but i just expected my nearest family to be different.
I am worried that i am just so self centered i dont make room for others.
Any suggestions on anything i can do to improve the link between us as a family woud be greatfully recieved.

Have I ever been there! Remember that around this age, kids start to develop autonomy. What a terrible, cold word, especially if this is your last baby (and female, to boot):( She is very likely developing emotions, actions, and character traits which are independent of you and her dad. I'll bet recently you and your husband have been noticing things and making comments to the effect of "Where did she get that? No one in my family does that." You get the idea. This is especially difficult for mamas, and you may just now consciously admitting that it is going on. All I can say is this: CAUTION: wonderful, interesting, lovely human emerging.

I don't think it is your inability to read others. I say this because you mentioned that you have been able to and do achieve closeness with the members of your family. I think what you are going through is normal. Painful, but normal. The connection will come back. It may not be exactly the same, but it will come back in different and wonderful ways. Good luck with her and cherish age 3 and 4 and 5.......look out for 11, though!:D