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ChicagoADDer
10-09-07, 10:51 PM
I have tried a few coaches, none has worked. I found I knew as much or more about organizational principles and strategies from my reading than any of my coaches. I realize a large part of coaching is providing regular feedback and accountability as well, but I need a little more of a structured approach.

There are way too many certification organizations for me to be comfortable relying on any of them and my experiences so far have not been great.

I also thought about seeing a behavioral specialist who works with adult ADD.

In any event, I have no idea how or where to look.

Ideas? Experiences with specific certification agencies, institutes, etc. woudl all be appreciated.

Tara
10-14-07, 04:21 PM
Were the coaches you worked with ADD Coaches or just Life Coaches?

speedo
10-15-07, 08:49 PM
CHADD keeps a list of proefessionals who work with ADHD. You might find a coach through them. http://www.chadd.org

Me :D


I have tried a few coaches, none has worked. I found I knew as much or more about organizational principles and strategies from my reading than any of my coaches. I realize a large part of coaching is providing regular feedback and accountability as well, but I need a little more of a structured approach.

There are way too many certification organizations for me to be comfortable relying on any of them and my experiences so far have not been great.

I also thought about seeing a behavioral specialist who works with adult ADD.

In any event, I have no idea how or where to look.

Ideas? Experiences with specific certification agencies, institutes, etc. woudl all be appreciated.

ChicagoADDer
10-18-07, 03:03 AM
Were the coaches you worked with ADD Coaches or just Life Coaches?I tried both.

ADD coaches (at least ones I met) have all been ADD themselves. Which doesn't work for me. I need someone who can give me a perspective I don't have.

Non-ADD coaches worked a little better, but of course without dealing with ADD specific issues they ultimately did not have long term impact.

ChicagoADDer
10-18-07, 03:06 AM
CHADD keeps a list of proefessionals who work with ADHD. You might find a coach through them. http://www.chadd.org

Me :Dsuprisingly, CHADD does not list anyone in Chicago!? Also, its just a directory; there is no information about background or training for the folks listed.

Tara
10-18-07, 03:46 AM
As an ADD Coach myself and somebody who has hired my own coaches I think the person's training is only a small part of finding a good match. It takes trial and error to find the right coach. A lot of it has to do with if the coaches style fit your needs. I know a lot of ADD Coaches and with lots of different training backgrounds and each one is unique.

You know what's really funny almost all my clients hired me with out ever meeting me in person. However, all the coaches I have hired myself have been people I've met in person beforehand. I am one of those people who needs the personal interaction before hiring somebody.

Have you thought about going to the ADDA Conference in Chicago in November? I'm sure there will be some ADD Coaches there. I know that there a couple who are presenting too. It could be a good way to get a feel for some of the local ADD Coaches too.

ChicagoADDer
10-18-07, 08:57 AM
Great suggestion - I will definitely go; didn't know anything about the conference before now.

Iamscattered
11-07-07, 05:19 PM
I am sure that going to the conference would be a great way to meet some of the best coaches around and hopefully you will find a person that is a good match for you. You were fortunate to get the information you needed from this forum.

However for many of us, we don't have that kind of access. An new AD/HD coach in my area proudly advertises that she recently received 12 hours of AD/HD related training. I was diagnosed with AD/HD only 8 weeks ago and I know more about AD/HD than she does. So for the rest of us, let's be careful out there. Apparently just about any adult willing to pay for a few hours of classes can set up shop as a coach, or with a few more hours as an AD/HD coach. Perhaps if coaches as a whole want to be viewed as professionals they will someday come up with more meaningful standards. As it is now their structure (low training requirements, heavy reliance on phone consultations) bears a striking similarity to the system used by psychics.

This is not to suggest all coaches are incompetent, I am well aware that is not the case. I was in time, able to find an excellent coach. But at this early stage of the coaching phenomenon, the words "buyer beware" should be at least in the back of everyone's mind; and be sure to ask lots of questions to be very sure that your interests are being served adequately.

Nightwing
11-07-07, 06:27 PM
Hi, I think it's useful to remember that ADHD coaching is still a relatively new profession. It's kind of still being invented, so to speak, by people who are interested in figuring out what works, and how best to deliver that to the client. That's why you see so many organizations and certifications out there right now. Eventually, they'll sort themselves out, and one or two will come to be recognized as "the" organizations that provides recognized certifications or diplomas.

I looked for coaches two ways. The first was to contact the psychologist who did my testing and diagnosis and ask if he knew any coaches he recommended. He referred me to a coach he'd met at a conference and had a long chat with. You might also contact psychologists or psychiatrists in your area, and ask if there is anyone they would recommend. Also try college/university psych departments, ask if anyone on staff is interested or researches on ADHD, then ask that person if they know any good coaches.

I also googled for all sorts of variations on ADHD coach and coaching organizations, then read everything there. A lot of the organizations do list the background, qualifications and resumes of members.

I found a woman who was an hour away from where I lived. She's been involved in coaching for I think 12 years, has been active in coaching organizations and has worked to develop ethical standards for ADHD coaches. The last particularly impressed me.

I spoke to both women on the phone. I just didn't make "that" connection with the first woman. I'm sure based on the psychologist's recommendation she's a good coach, but my gut feeling said she wasn't right for me.

I contacted the second woman and knew within a few minutes that I wanted to work with her. She had heart, she had confidence, she had a sense of humor, and she is VERY interested in everything to do with ADHD. I meet with her in person twice, an hour each, and since then we talk on the phone once a week for half an hour, and I email her a couple times and she writes back once or twice.

I am very, very happy with the progess I'm making with her.

Nightwing

blueyeyore
11-07-07, 06:48 PM
I was diagnosed back in September of this year. I never really thought about having a coach, but through my job I am offered what is called mentoring. My mentor now was a nurse for 36 years before she came to work here, she has add along with several of her adult children and a grandchild. For me, she has been the best help. Also, I realize not all companies have a mentor...so maybe you could consider something along those lines.

Uneek1
03-09-08, 06:17 PM
I'm in Omaha Nebraska and I find NOTHING about coaching. Nothing with CHADD is around here. I'm having a hard time just trying to find a therapist who specializes in ADD. Isn't there people online also though?...someone who doesn't cost an arm and a leg. My brain is driving myself crazy going from one thing to another and I need to sort out what I really want in my life!

Thanks!

Ithink2much
03-09-08, 06:30 PM
Uneek1, I can relate and am sorry you are having lack of resources too. I am going to my first CHADD meeting tomorrow, but they only meet once a month. I was told I can find more resources there, I will share anything that may help you in NE.
I am doing ALOT of reading and for some reason am able to focus and really comprehend the add stuff. Have been on this site for hours, read Driven to Distraction in 2 days, etc.
I need "talk therapy" not so much the one on one shrink time, as the learning how to talk slow, not interupt people and to pay attention to what they are saying without drifing off. That is what I was hoping to find a coach for.
Good luck.

Andrew
03-09-08, 07:47 PM
There ARE some online resources available. You can Google "ADHD Coaching" or try the folks at addconsults.com.

I'm not sure about what you're expecting to pay with coaches, but pricing can vary.

Tara
03-09-08, 09:31 PM
Before you start looking for an ADHD Coach it's a good idea to make a list of what you want/expect from an ADHD Coach. Maybe also come up with a list of questions to ask a potential coach before your hire him/her or start an ADHD Coaching Program. I also suggest interacting/interviewing at least 3 ADHD Coaches before choosing one. Even if the first person you interact with seems like the best fit look at at least 2 more.

Maxine_Moritzia
03-13-08, 03:09 PM
Yeah, definitely clarify expectations. If possible, go to a regional conference on ADHD, b/c plenty of coaches will congregate there and you'll get a chance to see how they interact with people other than you.

Once I went to a conference, and a woman there seemed way "off," socially and otherwise. During a Q&A (she was in the audience) she started answering questions directed to the panelists. One of her zinger suggestions was to lay a sock over one's eyes while lying down, b/c the heel fit over the nose or something like that. Way out there. The guy sitting next to me told me afterward that she was an ADHD coach!

In another seminar, she was pushing "advocacy" in settings where it would have been totally self-destructive for the party concerned. So it's important to find a lifestyle, background and intelligence match between oneself and the coach. If you're a banker with an Ivy degree, chances are you probably won't get much help from someone still studying at a small public college.

nnamelet
09-27-10, 01:00 AM
Note also the peer coaching option (see Peer coaching thread)