Despite my best efforts and all the postive support (from forums like this) and positive self talk I give myself, I am still very sensitive about how my ADHD affects my ability to learn things. And learn things quickly. The hardest thing I have to cope with being among the non ADHDers is the pressure I feel to pick things up really fast. I need the pictures, I need a minute to make sure what I think in my head is really what's going on...

And I'm impatient. :p :rolleyes: I want to be able to pick it up fast and not have to deal with the frustration of having to take so much time to learn something new. :(

I don't know how to deal with this.

i feel you on this whole thing you said im the same boatDespite my best efforts and all the postive support (from forums like this) and positive self talk I give myself, I am still very sensitive about how my ADHD affects my ability to learn things. And learn things quickly. The hardest thing I have to cope with being among the non ADHDers is the pressure I feel to pick things up really fast. I need the pictures, I need a minute to make sure what I think in my head is really what's going on...

And I'm impatient. :p :rolleyes: I want to be able to pick it up fast and not have to deal with the frustration of having to take so much time to learn something new. :(

I don't know how to deal with this.

I am sensitive about being impatient the most. I hate that I am that way and it bothers me greatly when others point it out.

I am the most sensitive about my inability to study properly. I absolutely hate it when people ask me "why didn't you do it earlier?" and "why don't you just study?" It makes me so MAD. some more in that same vein "Imagine how good you'd be if you just studied more."

Or from my OB clerkship director (who has no idea about the ADHD). "You're doing a great job, you just need to study a lot more for the exam." AAAAHHHH!!! If only you knew, I spent hours and hours trying to do just that. . .

Oh, and I hate hearing bad things about ADHD people. Again, a professor of mine told me that her second child had ADHD and if the first had been like that they wouldn't have had two. And she said that he wanted to go to med school but realized that all the reading and stuff would be too much for him to handle, so he didn't:( I wanted to say so badly to her "look, I'm here! I may not be doing everything perfectly, but I'm doing my best!!" but sadly, knowing the way doctors are toward med students and other doctors, that may have just made her think less of me.

Misinformation, stigmas and moronic statement made out of stupidity and ignorance.



I have to cope with being among the non ADHDers is the pressure I feel to pick things up really fast. I need the pictures, I need a minute to make sure what I think in my head is really what's going on...

Actually the best thing you can teach yourself is how not to be ashamed of being different. You may be a global learner. (http://www.jcu.edu.au/studying/services/studyskills/learningst/sequential.html)

Global Learning

If you have a strong preference for global learning you may find a new topic frustrating until you have the whole picture and can see where the topic fits in and relates to your existing knowledge
***end quote

Actually the best thing you can teach yourself is how not to be ashamed of being different. You may be a global learner. (http://www.jcu.edu.au/studying/services/studyskills/learningst/sequential.html)
While I appreciate my unique qualities, it's not what I'm thinking about when I am struggling with a concept at work. It's not about shame, and assuming it to be so diminishes (in my opinion) the experience I am having.

For me it's appearing stupid - always being behind or the last one to catch on is frustrating. It's good, though, when my natural ADD intuition takes over and people look at me thinking, "So, you're not stupid after all!"

Having got through school, uni and a postgrad Masters I know my learning style.....pretty much like meadds Global Learning.....

I go from first principles......I minimise the amount of stuff I actually have to remember by seeing how the concepts fit together. Once the basics are in my head and actually UNDERSTOOD as opposed to just rote learned I can rebuild the required detail to answer most set questions.

What is the icing on the cake is that my ADDness means I hoover up huge amounts of random trivial stuff that comes back out pretty ad hoc and I weave that into whatever narrative I'm doing.....makes it look as if I've got a great memory and know alot...but really its all just seat of the pants stuff because I can't actually control it.

If someone tells me stuff about something I'm interested in...I'll remember it.....reading it in a book......not a chance....unless it puts something into context.

You know what really does my head in about learning and my ADD

I never learn from my mistakes....!

kilt

Making a complete fool out of myself with the impulsiveness problem I have

Despite my best efforts and all the postive support (from forums like this) and positive self talk I give myself, I am still very sensitive about how my ADHD affects my ability to learn things. And learn things quickly. The hardest thing I have to cope with being among the non ADHDers is the pressure I feel to pick things up really fast. I need the pictures, I need a minute to make sure what I think in my head is really what's going on...

And I'm impatient. :p :rolleyes: I want to be able to pick it up fast and not have to deal with the frustration of having to take so much time to learn something new. :(

I don't know how to deal with this.that is something that i am the same with, but what I am sensitive about with my adhd is my lacking in organizational skills, the inabilty to clean up after myself.

I hate for other people to point out how I'm late to everything all the time. As if i'm not already painfully aware of it. If I knew how to get there on time I would. It's not as though I enjoy being late everywhere I go.

What is the icing on the cake is that my ADDness means I hoover up huge amounts of random trivial stuff that comes back out pretty ad hoc and I weave that into whatever narrative I'm doing.....makes it look as if I've got a great memory and know alot...but really its all just seat of the pants stuff because I can't actually control it.
Yep same here. It's amazing how much junk just never gets filtered out.... and it is random.... there's no rhyme or reason to it all, just what appeared to be interestnig at the time, (or whatever other reason). And it does certainly make me appear more knowledgable as well. Seat of the pants - should be my middle name, (although it'd sound funny - LOL).

For me it's appearing stupid - always being behind or the last one to catch on is frustrating. It's good, though, when my natural ADD intuition takes over and people look at me thinking, "So, you're not stupid after all!"
Yeah, me too! Talk about a sore spot!!

And then sometimes I wonder, which is my ADHD and which is just being normal?

I have to learn to speak up though. When someone or something isn't working I have to say no to it. I find that harder to do than overcomitting myself. I don't want to say it's too much because 1) I don't want to admit to myself I have limits. :p Yeah I know. :rolleyes: 2) I don't want others to think I can't handle it. :( Maybe this is leftovers emotional stuff of trying to hide the ADHD. I honestly can't tell what's normal and what isn't anymore.

It's not about shame, and assuming it to be


I am assuming it is the pressure of learning quickly? If there is no shame in being different then what is causing pressure?. Like every one here including your self I respond based upon my personal experience , perspective and attitudes. My post is a reflection of me and me alone. Your response is a reflection of you and your experiences perspective and attitudes.

I do not have any power over how you experience life I am unsure how I could possibly diminish your feelings I have no control over your feelings any more than you do mine. . . I in no way dismissed your feelings {which would only serve to make me dismissive} in all honesty I fail to understand the concept.


In you post I read

I don't know how to deal with this.


I do . . . because your description has been my life sense the first grade.

I am not only ADHD and am severely dyslexic I know what it is like to feel pressure to learn stuff in the same manner as every one else.I know what it is like to not understand some thing every one else does easily I also know what it is like knowing no matter how hard I try no matter how many pills I swallow I never will learn to read and write like the rest of you do every day without thinking.I am reminded of this every time I read a post and especially when I respond.


I found feeling pressured to learn like every one else to be counter productive, I found learning about how I learn to be a much more effective means of "dealing with it".

If that is diminishing your experience then my apologies for trying to use my years of experience to help. Apparently I do not perceive life in the same manner you do because in my world trying of offer suggestions and information is a form of understanding and support.

I don't want to say it's too much because 1) I don't want to admit to myself I have limits. Yeah I know. 2) I don't want others to think I can't handle it

Hmm this reminds me I hate having to ask for help. I feel like I should be able to handle any thing and every thing no matter what.


Having to ask for help is like admitting failure to me. I do not expect perfection from others but I do from myself. I guess for me any way I hate NOT being perfect even though I know logically perfect doesn't actually exist on a global scale.

1.) I have always felt like everyone around me knew what was going on and I didn't have a clue. I feel left out a lot, and ashamed of not knowing what I think I should know.

2.) I have zero sense of direction and get lost all the time. I can't remember verbal directions long enough to follow them. I am incapable of telling anyone how to get anywhere, even if I know how to get there. I only know how to get somewhere while I am getting there. I cannot communicate it.

3.) Sometimes I can remember my phone number, other times I can't.

4.) I suck at anything that has to do with numbers or math, especially when there is some kind of external pressure: like someone waiting or watching.

5.) Anything that even smells like confrontation causes my mind to go completely blank.

confrontation.....yup....know that one......come up with perfect riposte hours later. Can count on fingers of a sawmillers right hand the times that ADD hyperfocus has actually come online at the right time in confrontations.....and its never in a face to face situation

kilt

Making a complete fool out of myself with the impulsiveness problem I have
Thats a big one for me too, I buy things I don't need all the time, but the worst part is my talking. I tend to interrupt peoples conversations all the time, I talk way too much, and I miss out on the cues people give to show me they don't want me to keep talking. It's so embarassing, because I can just go on and on and on about something (as you can see) and I have no idea if my ideas are being recieved the right way. I also tend to say things the wrong way alot, I am extremely blunt, to a fault really, completely black and white with alot of things, and I tend to offend people alot if I don't sit back and analyse what I am saying.

impulsiveness. blirting out the wrong things alot. Making big mistakes that jeopradise my dreams.like the time i called my rugby rep coach, some not very nice things. Ive been told I have the talent to make it far in rugby but the coach will not pick me again. He is the rep coach for my area. its a bummer

It can be embarrassing when words come out wrong so thing come out different than I intended or the words try to all come out at once and I make unintelligible garbling sounds.

the hardest thing i deal with is accepting my limitations...accepting that i am always going to have difficulties with organization and time management, accepting that i can be very frustrating to be around sometimes, etc

I feel like I have to do everything perfectly or others will judge me. I feel like I'm not allowed to make a mistake and I have to try harder than everyone else. For some reason it feels like everyone else who doesn't have ADHD is allowed to make mistakes but not me. Then I get stressed and upset and end up in a right state like today when I ended up in tears and not being able to work through a problem at work (which some other lazy bum had dumped on me) so I had to call someone to come and help me put what I needed to into words coz I couldn't do it myself. I hate that I take things too seriously in an effort to try and compensate for being me. I feel like I'm not allowed to be me.

1. Being an English major who has trouble reading for more than 5-10 minutes, that is terribly embarassing.

2. forgetting peoples names. People always know me, and i know their face but have no idea from where or what thier name is.

3. I'm so so terrible with my money, my roommates always offer to lend me money so i can go to a concert with them, and one of them just bought me ticket so i can go to VooDoo fest. I appreciate it, but it's really embarassing.

4. I have never been on my meds in front of my parents, and i'm really nervous that they'll look at me weird, especially my dad who regards psychiatry as witchcraft.

Despite my best efforts and all the postive support (from forums like this) and positive self talk I give myself, I am still very sensitive about how my ADHD affects my ability to learn things. And learn things quickly. The hardest thing I have to cope with being among the non ADHDers is the pressure I feel to pick things up really fast. I need the pictures, I need a minute to make sure what I think in my head is really what's going on...

And I'm impatient. :p :rolleyes: I want to be able to pick it up fast and not have to deal with the frustration of having to take so much time to learn something new. :(

I don't know how to deal with this.me either..but I'm hearing you..it DRIVES ME INSANE TOO..

I hate for other people to point out how I'm late to everything all the time. As if i'm not already painfully aware of it. If I knew how to get there on time I would. It's not as though I enjoy being late everywhere I go.
Wow. Just wow. It's not that this is the same thing I was going to say, it's that it's EXACTLY THE SAME THING I was going to say. Word for word. Wow.

I'm also very sensitive about my inability to maintain organization and keep up with clutter. Even when I get my house looking nice, I can never seem to keep it that way. I actively discourage unexpected drop-bys ... my house is never company-ready without days of frantic tidying and stash-and-dash closet stuffing just to get it to the point of saying "Sorry it's such a mess - I've just been so BUSY!"

I'm sensitive to the $115 /mo for the meds, but otherwise, it's all good.

I hate being told I am not working to potential. That really chaps my a**!