Gadgetgirl
10-20-07, 08:35 PM
But at the same time my partner doesn't see it.
We just moved, and I'm having a hell of a time. I have been working really hard to make changes and remember to do things, like
feeding the cats before they have to harass me
Scooping the litter box every day
putting my keys and purse in a location where I can find them
cooking dinner instead of being lazy and eating out
put away most things in the kitchen after I've used them
cleaning up after myself in the bathroom (I mean putting away cosmetics and towels)
keeping my shoes at the door
turning off lights instead of wasting electricity
not fixating on the computer
doing at least one load of dishes a day
I have to admit that I'm not much of a house keeper, but i'm practically to the point where i'm just going to be angry and pick up only my own things.
He seems to have a distorted view on what add is, and I don't know how to even get him to read a book, he just says to me that I have the symptoms when Its convenient to me, and I can do the things that I want or like very well, and I'm just trying to make him angry. But this isn't the case!
Now see In my opinion i've been doing very well at these things, but my partner is ticking me off. He seems to think that if I'm home that all i should do is clean all day, even though i equally contribute to all the bills and am the one that pays the bills and makes sure they get paid, which is a huge deal for me because I usually wait until they threaten to turn off my utilities before they get paid even though i have the funds.
He got mad at me this morning because I was home last night watching TV and he went over to another persons to watch the hockey game that I should have spent the night cleaning and unpacking boxes that have no homes for their contents, and I should have just emptied them to the floor and we'd find a storage solution later. To me this makes no sense, because if i empty the boxes this is where the stuff will stay, and until their is a solution for where these items need to go we shouldn't remove them (especially because we are going to be painting right away)
Now I think that If he deserves leisure time, so do i. Just because I chose to watch my tv at home doesn't make me more obligated to do these tasks. If these were tasks like laundry which I could do and not have to monitor i'd understand, however we no longer have laundry in our home, and have to go to the laundry mat.
I wish he understood how hard it is for me to make these changes,and that i've made changes, I can't even believe that this morning he said to me that I'd made no changes.
I'm just so hurt.
We just moved, and I'm having a hell of a time. I have been working really hard to make changes and remember to do things, like
feeding the cats before they have to harass me
Scooping the litter box every day
putting my keys and purse in a location where I can find them
cooking dinner instead of being lazy and eating out
put away most things in the kitchen after I've used them
cleaning up after myself in the bathroom (I mean putting away cosmetics and towels)
keeping my shoes at the door
turning off lights instead of wasting electricity
not fixating on the computer
doing at least one load of dishes a day
I have to admit that I'm not much of a house keeper, but i'm practically to the point where i'm just going to be angry and pick up only my own things.
He seems to have a distorted view on what add is, and I don't know how to even get him to read a book, he just says to me that I have the symptoms when Its convenient to me, and I can do the things that I want or like very well, and I'm just trying to make him angry. But this isn't the case!
Now see In my opinion i've been doing very well at these things, but my partner is ticking me off. He seems to think that if I'm home that all i should do is clean all day, even though i equally contribute to all the bills and am the one that pays the bills and makes sure they get paid, which is a huge deal for me because I usually wait until they threaten to turn off my utilities before they get paid even though i have the funds.
He got mad at me this morning because I was home last night watching TV and he went over to another persons to watch the hockey game that I should have spent the night cleaning and unpacking boxes that have no homes for their contents, and I should have just emptied them to the floor and we'd find a storage solution later. To me this makes no sense, because if i empty the boxes this is where the stuff will stay, and until their is a solution for where these items need to go we shouldn't remove them (especially because we are going to be painting right away)
Now I think that If he deserves leisure time, so do i. Just because I chose to watch my tv at home doesn't make me more obligated to do these tasks. If these were tasks like laundry which I could do and not have to monitor i'd understand, however we no longer have laundry in our home, and have to go to the laundry mat.
I wish he understood how hard it is for me to make these changes,and that i've made changes, I can't even believe that this morning he said to me that I'd made no changes.
I'm just so hurt.