I often find myself very bored with most people.. they are just not interesting or in any way stimulating and yes even very attractive people are often boring to me. I dont mean to be insulting to anyone but the fact is they are just boring.. maby its the small talk.. the annoying small talk.. or at some point i just get soooo bored i start playing with them and screwing with thier heads just to see how they react or what i can find out about them that know one else knew.. i do this mostly with teachers/girls, almost like I'm qualifing them to make sure they are good teachers/people otherwise its not worth the hassel to put in the effort if its not going to be interesting.

Seriously I'm not stuck up and I'm not a jerk. I want to be interested in what people say and who they think they are as a person.. but I'm just not.

Anyone else have this problem?

I do, but with friends and family aswell. There comes a point where everything that is to be said and done, is done (for that day or week at least) I get bored, zone out and get frustrated being there and need a break.

Yup....I can tell pretty quick if someone's a social dead zone......I used to get really uptight about it ...but nw I'm more chilled....after all with all the things I've done and places Ive been if someone doesn't want to talk about interesting stuff...well thats their problem.

Deep down though it remains very annoying as I am a very gregarious person.....and love meeting new people....but with a high intolerance of small talk this makes most social interactions painful.

kilt

extremerly bored.. to the point where i pretend my phone cuts out, and cancel plans because i am dreading it so much.

I don't know that I get bored...I just have more fun by myself lol

i get bored with the same people, not new people :)

Like no fing other! The small talk is mind numbing and trying to care is like feeling the nails scratching on the chalkboard. Eeeecccchhh....

Hah and a warning - be careful who you tell that you get bored of people. A lot of people may think you're stuck up.

P.S.. I have more fun in my head than talking to such boring people. A few are fun to talk with but most are just plainly not. Hah - Possibly why I look like such a loner!

YES! I get so bored with "average" people who want to have the same 'ol conversation about nothing. I need to be surrounded by weirdos. When I get frustrated with my husband for being irrational (we're both a little nutty) he reminds him that on our first date I told him I preferred neurotics--it's true!

I also can't handle slow talkers. My mother, who is the only non-ADDer in my immediate family, is very passive, slow, calm...I can't stand it! When I was a moody teen I was constantly trying to rile her up because I just couldn't take her talking slow and being so peaceful all the time!

Here I thought I was the only teen that really took pleasure is trying to rile up my mom. I'm not so bad with slow talkers though...it's just people who constantly want to talk about the meaningless hi how are you....ok fine whatever go away lol I normally come off as being a real Witch. *shrugs* I like it heheYES! I get so bored with "average" people who want to have the same 'ol conversation about nothing. I need to be surrounded by weirdos. When I get frustrated with my husband for being irrational (we're both a little nutty) he reminds him that on our first date I told him I preferred neurotics--it's true!

I also can't handle slow talkers. My mother, who is the only non-ADDer in my immediate family, is very passive, slow, calm...I can't stand it! When I was a moody teen I was constantly trying to rile her up because I just couldn't take her talking slow and being so peaceful all the time!

I am always looking for the next best thing (novelty seeker) and socially I am the same way.

i have the same problem

Yeah. I like that my brain has this safety on it, so I can entertain myself in the company of those less exciting than I'd prefer, rather than being so bored with them that I claw my own eyes out.

Granted I embarrass my husband a lot.

Yes, I get very bored...but at the same time I often find myself feeling a bit sad that I have very few friends, its just that the thought of being TRAPPED with people that bore me to tears is too much and I usually avoid making new friends. I will also go to great lengths to avoid having a boring conversation. I have absolutely no small talk skills and people have often thought of me as rude, stuck up, or the worst shy! Then when I go ahead and try to converse with them about something interesting usually they are either at a loss of what to say back, are intimidated, or think Im odd. :( Of course I also tend to blurt out random things, I cant control my honesty(does this outfit make me look fat?...YES! and when I try to tell white lies I start twitching!), and I usually start asking people personal questions...so I have learned to just stay quiet most of the time and avoid those situations as much as possible. Sometimes I find out that certain people cant stand me...when I was dating I once had a guy's mom BAN him from dating me!! -I am always clueless about what I did to offend! So FRUSTRATING!!!

hmmm! i sometimes find myself telling people that they 'bore me' half way though their sentance.....rude I know! however if I am boring then I would want someone telling me!

yep, count me in. through the years, i've realized that intentionally "creating a little excitement" involving friends and family is manipulative and generally a terrible thing to do to someone you care about, though.

now when i get bored in the company of a friend (often within a few hours), we'll go our separate ways and I'll do something else or meet up with another friend. Some of my more introverted friends are even more challenging to talk with, though. One friend in particular has a "friend-time" quota of about 10 minutes a day, one or two days a week... Nice guy & good friend, but he can suck the life right out of me!

I have met a lot of people on this forum I think would be fun having conversations with, but in the day to day life, so many people bore me that it just drives me crazy. I get in a lot of trouble for blowing people off and not paying attention to their words. My wife is one of the very few people who can hold my attention in a verbal conversation and that's one of the important reasons I married her!

Small talk isn't my forte either mostly people just don't make sense they act like the direct approach is some how wrong - I get bored with these "social dances" they hold little meaning for me.

I will also go to great lengths to avoid having a boring conversation. I have absolutely no small talk skills and people have often thought of me as rude, stuck up, or the worst shy! Then when I go ahead and try to converse with them about something interesting usually they are either at a loss of what to say back, are intimidated, or think Im odd. :( I definitely feel the same way. I HATE small talk!! I wish everyone could just jump right in and be an "open book" like me. I hate that most people have these conversational "rules" when meeting people for the first, second, or third time. Don't say this, don't say that. Don't talk about politics, blah, blah, blah. How dull!

Ha, I feel the same way. It gets hard when I am dating someone, because normally after a few weeks I am looking for someone new. I also move around a lot because I hate living in the same spot, I just want something new all the time.

My family thinks it's odd because I love spending most of my time alone then hanging out with people. They believe since I am in college that I should be out there.

There is also friend issues. Someone starts to think they are my bestfriend but when I stop talking to them for a couple of weeks they get hurt. I've tried to explain that it's just me getting lost in my world.

Yes! I definitely get bored with people. I feel bad, because even people I genuinely like and find interesting I have to take breaks from. I have had few long friendships over the years because I'm always moving around and starting over. One of my "hobbies" is travelling around and meeting friends from the Internet, because a lot of them are quite interesting people, and even if they're not I can leave after a few days!

Short answer: Yes, unfortunately I don't see a lot of interesting people out there.

i know i do....its the people who never have anything new to say

i know i do....its the people who never have anything new to sayOr maybe it's just that we don't care about what they do...I think that is the case now.

Again, thought only i did this. People think i'm a snob or a *****. Fact is i've read books more interesting that most of the people i've ever met. i just can't find the patience to sit and listen to all the piddly things they want to talk about. If it's something major, then by all means i will try to help, but i don't have the patience or the focus for the minor stuff.

I hate mundane conversation. I think that's a very big part of why my wife and I argue much more than most other couples, we both have ADD and it's sometimes the only way we communicate to one another. I find it so dull to talk about the weather, or how your day was, or how my friends lives are going being single and going out drinking every other night.

But I do enjoy reading these posts cause I can relate, same with parenting stuff, any sort of common shared interest is good conversation.

Me too - I stink at small talk. I really can only hold a conversation if it's about things that interest me (math, graphics, s3x) outside of that I find it really hard (medicated or not) to maintain interest in conversations.

I have however learned what and what not to say - so when someone it talking to me (be it about their day, their life etc..) it's like I have a mental checklist of things I should say in return. That way, it at least helps me deal with a person(s) on an average day without sounding like a b00b.

A good way I found to interact with people is to just get them talking about themselves because people love doing that the most, there's very little I have to worry about saying in return. heh

Just like most of you, I find mundane conversations are quite boring. Being an Idealist (NF) temperament it says that we are more interested in conversations based on deeply held ideals and much less so on mundane matters. It makes sense to me. People who have traveled or lived abroad or who are adventurous spirits are much more interesting to me than those who have lived rather insular lives.

I often find myself very bored with most people.. they are just not interesting or in any way stimulating and yes even very attractive people are often boring to me. I dont mean to be insulting to anyone but the fact is they are just boring.. maby its the small talk.. the annoying small talk.. or at some point i just get soooo bored i start playing with them and screwing with thier heads just to see how they react or what i can find out about them that know one else knew.. i do this mostly with teachers/girls, almost like I'm qualifing them to make sure they are good teachers/people otherwise its not worth the hassel to put in the effort if its not going to be interesting.

Seriously I'm not stuck up and I'm not a jerk. I want to be interested in what people say and who they think they are as a person.. but I'm just not.

Anyone else have this problem?


Most people bore me too. BUT find the cool funny people and stick to them, or the rare funloving dudes u come across.. keep in touch with people u connect to.. and build it up..
If u share a passion/hobby that always helps

Hah and a warning - be careful who you tell that you get bored of people. A lot of people may think you're stuck up.


so very true