View Full Version : Getting talked over...?
blueyeyore 11-15-07, 10:37 AM I'm not sure if it's just me; this is something that just popped in my head.
Where I used to always butt into conversations and dominate now I'm in the middle of telling a story and someone is always interrupting me...It's almost as if I don't have the ability to talk over people anymore. Then the group gets off on that topic and I never get to finish my story...
It's like I don't get a word in anymore lol
or I'm actually listening now? *shrugs*
I dunno I was just wondering if anyone else has/ is noticing this
BethanyBez 11-15-07, 10:49 AM I notice this in my own life, but I don't think it's that I get interrupted more often than others, I think it's just that it bothers me more.
blueyeyore 11-15-07, 10:53 AM lol, I never got interrupted before...I was too loud and just uncaring if anyone else had something to say....
Just weird when I think about it, but yes it is quite irritating to get interrupted now that it does happen.
Actually, one of my coworkers that I have made good friends with told me something the other day. She was like you know I liked you when you first started, then something happened and you were just awful in everything, but now I like you again and I think the medicine has really helped you. I was actually offended for a second thinking to myself...and you honestly think I didn't know you felt that way, but I think it's nice she could tell me that
BethanyBez 11-15-07, 10:54 AM Hm, I wonder how I would feel about someone telling me that. Of course, I am not yet medicated with a stimulant (am on Effexor and just got a prescrip for Aderall) and I haven't told any coworkers about my diagnosis, etc.
Don't know that I would...
blueyeyore 11-15-07, 10:57 AM Well I got a little paranoid reading the warnings that came with the stimulants. I was worried if something ever happened to me at work again, they would need to know what I was taking. So I felt the need to tell my supervisor, lead, and coworkers on my team. No one else knows though. It's not something I've "disclosed" to the HR department, just to select people. I've had an allergic reaction to medication before while I was at work...they had to call an ambulance for me...I made history. The 3rd person that week to be put on a stretcher and taken out of the office.
I just worry lol too much
one of my coworkers...told me something the other day... I liked you when you first started, then something happened and you were just awful in everything, but now I like you again and I think the medicine has really helped you...That happened to me a couple of weeks ago. Someone said, "I like you better on your meds." I wasn't sure how to respond or even feel but I guess that's part of the reason why I sought diagnosis and pursue treatment.
I'm with you on the "talked over" part. Yeah, sometimes being loud and abrasive serves a purpose but now we're patient we have the ability to see the other side. I try to add my point in as soon as there's a break but often have to let it go. Sometimes it's just not worth it and it's just more polite to bite that tongue. Pearls before swine or something like that.
It's frustrating having the ability to answer intelligently, think broadly in a timely fashion, and having good social skills. :) :) :)
DeloresMelon 11-15-07, 11:32 AM I have a hard time too. I let people know that if they really want to "talk" to me, they have a better chance if they e-mail me. Conversation for me is difficult, at best. Arguments.. pfff. Nightmare. But give me 20 minutes and I'm on a letter writing tear.
When I REALLY need someone to know what I'm trying to say, I write it. Otherwise, there's no telling what will come out. Granted in a social situation, asking someone to hang on while I draft my commentary, not so good.
But here's what's odd: If I'm just gabbin away with my girlfriend, I'm fine, she's a conversation hog anyway and we weave in and out pretty well. We've fine tuned our skills with each other I guess. When she and I are together in social situations, I feel more at ease in conversations. Like I know if I need to slow down, or change gears, she's going to fill any gaps. We're rather hysterical together, I guess just being polar social opposites we blend together well.
Now that I know I have ADD, I'm much more conscience about butting in and cutting people off, but honestly I haven't been in enough social situations since my ADD aha moment to know if I'd be run over in conversations.
Matt S. 11-15-07, 12:28 PM When I don't take dexedrine I tend to scream into other people when we have conversations.
When I don't take dexedrine I tend to scream into other people when we have conversations.LOL! Off Dexedrine, I've interrupted my shrink and told him, "NO! Don't interrupt me! Let me continue." On it, I get complimented for "how well I listen."
marytza 11-15-07, 12:36 PM i kinda feel that some times
Matt S. 11-15-07, 12:36 PM LOL! Off Dexedrine, I've interrupted my shrink and told him, "NO! Don't interrupt me! Let me continue." On it, I get complimented for "how well I listen."
Same here, my doctor refuses to see me if I missed an appointment and need a prescription late, it gets left at the receptionist desk with the new appointment and the receptionist often listens to me talk non-stop for 20 minutes then too, when those days come I see the look that is like a rolling of the eyes, without actually rolling the eyes. I think it's kind of funny.
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