I don't know if I should react to this or not. I want to, because I know we are going to go through this again and again before the semester is over. But then again I CAN just do what I seem to be good at by doing NOTHING and 'letting it go'. I'm so sick of being the doormat for insensitive jack@sses, I'm worn thin. But I do admit that I'm far too sensitive, even though I've toughened up all I can without becoming an unfeeling juggernaut like so many other people I know.

I had my first art history exam today, which took place in a slide library where I could be alone, in quiet, with all the time that I needed to take this test and write 3 essays (I could NEVER write those limited to 10 min. per topic). Hence the extended, out of class test.

The prof left me at 10 AM to let me do my thing.. he came back just as I was finishing, with another student in tow, at 12:00 on the dot and said (in his best Carl Haus voice),

"Oh my god, are you STILL here? Don't you have better things to be doing?"

his tone of voice was far from friendly, joking, or even casual. He was a snob, who apparently thinks I like taking extented tests so I can sit and make spit bubbles for amusment.

I only stuttered that I am a slow writer, and left quickly. To answer his question, I think I should have said, "Yes I do, like taking this exam I just worked so hard on and wiping my butt with it, you moron!"

I wish you did say that. I found myself in similar situations when I was in college. I had a sheet saying that all verbal teachings needed to be in writing for me. So I had one teacher who gave me an outline A. Steel
1. Strength
2. Advantages

Which of course didn't teach me all that much. Thank goodness he was following a book. In another class, the teacher would change instructions verbally but I wouldn't notice for I was hyperfocused on what I was drafting. Then I would get a C for not paying attention. Grrrr!!

Some professors think they are funny. But their humor is hard to understand. Like we need that pressure too.

Small minded people always try to obstruct great minded ones... :mad:

Well by now ya'll know I would have pointed out his ignorance of course with a smile as I am a lady you know. Mine would have sounded more like this..."Well, nice to see you too you ignorant, sactimonious, self rightous, bigoted, neo natzi pig.":)

Or, in your most bitingly sarcastic tone, you could say, "No, I was just hoping to enjoy the pleasure of your company just a teeny bit longer!" :p

I know it's annoying as hell, but try not to let him get to you. No mature, mentally healthy person would have made such an asstastic remark to you. Can you say Narcissist? ;)

Originally posted by krisp
asstastic

What a great, and thoroughly appropriate, word. I am going to use that word today. :D

I know this is well past the incident, but you could be a champ and educate the educator by remaining the lady you are while explaining to him how it is with ADD students, and why ADA protects us. Maybe you could make it possible for the next person to have smoother passage in the next test, and help yourself, too.

Or maybe not. He doesn't sound open-minded, but you know him better than we do.

:D You guys are great. LOL Futs, he DOES shave his head (though I'm sure there isn't much there to shave anyway!).

I don't know how all of you picked up that up about him from that isolated comment; but I think he may be a narccicist, he IS close minded (he lectures straight from the book.. the book I hate), he seems bigoted (maybe not racially.. but he apparently is deaf considering that I told him why I need extended time), sanctimonioius and self rightous. How do you do it???!

Asstastic- great word

I will only wait and see if a good opportunity comes along (maybe for the next exam) to explain to him in a kind, but v e r y s l o w voice WHY the extra time is important for me to do what I can possibly do on the fly. It's just a semester; I'll make sure I never take anymore of his contrived lecture courses! Whenever I try to confront people about rude comments after the fact; it never goes well, I don't know how to deal with situations like that aside form NOT. I will do my best to make it easier for his next AD/HD, LD students. But he has to have half a brain for it.. I think it's full of cobwebs and grandiose Art History chit chat (I love the subject; hate some peoples approach to it)


All day I've been remembering a quote (not word for word) from an artist, Alice Neil... 'I had the worst nightmare once; I dreamt I was an art historian!!'

Thanks

lmao you have a good head on your shoulders. Sometimes showing no reaction is the best reaction. But, no matter how he treats you or what he says he can't stop you from THINKING it.
Hugs to you Subtle I could take a lesson or two in keeping my mouth shut from you. But, if you do tell him off eventually please oooo please give me the details.*big smile

Heh, dealing with uncooperative insensitive people is what I do best... :-) Must be 15 years of being in the Navy with the less than politically correct humor and dog eat dog politics. Of course, that's probably a big contributor to me being a head case too, but you can't have your cake and eat it too! Why that would be like... like... dessert! ;-)

Times like these are when being a tad sensitive and defensive, quick to anger, and having a real problem with editing a very practiced tongue, can be a real advantage. At least when it comes to wiping the self satisified smirk off the face of someone who needs a reality check like people in hell need ice water.

Needless to say, this little skill, if you can call it that has not always been a blessing in the military (However, I managed to stay out of trouble for the simple reason that truth is truth and if you are right AND indispensible you can get away with a little bit of justified annoyance).

I wouldn't even have tried to be clever. I would have gone out of my way to embarrass him just as he was obviously going out of his way to embarrass you. I would have been direct and addressed the reason for me taking the test in the manner I was, and then addressed his tone, how I felt about it, and how the school administration might feel about it. I might point out that I would have expected an educator to be better versed in these policies, being they are a part of his job description, questioned his competence as an educator, being that he seems so unfamiliar with them and gone on to wonder out loud how you would expect such an educated man to be more well read, and less apparently biggoted (and I would say the word biggoted nice and loud with emphasis on every syllable). What a jerk!

My neighbors in South carolina used to walk their dog, on a leash, into my yard and let it take a dump there. My kids play there and I didn't appreciate this. So, I asked them very nicely not to do this. They denied it was their animal when I had watched them do this repeatedly. Naturally, I pointed out I had witnessed the event. I didn't appreciate being lied to so I told them after the third time I had spoken to them I would file a complaint with the housing office (this occured in military housing). They continued doing this. Now I outrank the guy, and his wife for that matter (both were military), but they didn't know that and I didn't want to go there, we were not, after all, at work. So, to housing I went. THREE TIMES. They did nothing either.

Well, I had my fill. One morning I watched that dog look for the perfect place on my lawn to drop it's processed waste one too many times for me. I called in to work, told my senior chief I had some personal business to take care of and would be in late and set to work. I went out with latex gloves and picked up every little dog poop in my yard and lovingly placed it in the offending neighbor's mail box. It was their property and in my view I was just returning it, right? Anyway, it pretty well filled up the mail box.

They came knocking at my door that afternoon. It was the husband. He was very agitated for some reason... I told him he had a mail slot in his door too and he was lucky I hadn't decided to use that instead.

You know what? They never let that dog near my yard again. :-)

Originally posted by E-boy
... wiping the self satisified smirk off the face of someone who needs a reality check like people in hell need ice water.

Great line, and great story! Maybe you could hire yourself out as a "consultant" for people who are having problems with their neighbors... ;)

E- boy I'm wondering what you charge for a consultation. lol

I wish I had the presence of mind to do as you would E-boy. That is a gift that I envy; but I am glad that you have it. ... maybe I would have even embarrased myself to find that he just has a weird sense of humor if I confronted him... but he doesn't come off that way. I am absolutely certain now that he is just a highly educated and practiced snob; and his doctorate makes a better decoration for his wall than anything else. I hope a student like you will come along and put him in his place and for the event to be witnessed by an entire class.

However.. keep in mind that by the end of the semester I get to fill out an evaluation form for him! These are taken very seriously by the university, and are even the basis for prof's wages, raises, and how many classes they can teach. If nothing else; I will make full mention of this there. He must be an idiot to have forgotten this.. or he assumes that as a student with a "disability" :rolleyes: that he can say anything he likes and I won't understand. But I will give him the rest of the semester, and the other exams, to somehow redeem himself. I hope he does

Great story E-boy! They deserved every pile; especially for lying. :D too bad you didn't use the door slot!

Futs; I'll give you whatever head I have on my shoulders to borrow you're assertive temper. I have a bad temper too, but it only comes out in the safety of my home for some reason. :confused: I think he deserved a serving of my family's signature scream dish a la mode. I know that if this happened to my mother he would have run away with his tail between his legs praying for a swift and painless death. I wish I had her mouth sometimes! If this had happened to my father he would have recieved a scortching letter (with a copy also sent to the dean of the department) that would render him the size of dust mote. Ironically, I am their timid offspring.

Thanks to all for support on this one-liner, especially for the chance to get it out, and for assuring me that I was not being oversensitive- at least in this case. I'll leave this thread for now; unless he makes a repeat of his first offense.

subtle: see, the real problem with you professor is, he is teaching an art history class, instead of what he really wanted to do: a world-renown artist (a legend in his own mind). So, the next best thing is to be what he thinks artists are like - snobbish, churlish, better than the run of the mill academic.... pity him. In his mind he is great, at least. And next time, let 'im have it, no holding back (the education part, i mean....)

You hit it right on the snout, pembroke. The academic life is very harsh and hard on the ego ... and people who don't become emotionally mature in time can become pretty hard to tolerate by the time they graduate. When your entire sense of self-worth is based upon your intellectual prowess, and you secretly doubt yourself, you have to spend your life being arrogant and defensive, lest someone else figure out that you're really a fraud.

That's my well-reasoned, totally objective analysis, anyway. LOL! :D