Nucking_Futs
02-13-04, 12:44 AM
;) It's me again.
Here is my dilemma. My son has a little buddy who comes over to play on Wednesday's before church. My rules are pretty lax, if your hungry there are two drawers in the frig with snacks; if your thirsty the bottom shelf is yours and I don't care how big your mess as long as you pick it up before you go. Yes, you guessed it my house is kid central lol.
Jason's mother came to get him after work and found that he was in the frig and that there were toy's everywere, the couch flipped and blankets over the top of it--boy's and their forts. She instantly freaked and started yelling at him to pick up and to get out of our food. Then apologized over and over for her son's rudeness. After trying many times to reassure her that he was not in any way violating house rules (which yes will change as they get older) I could not convince her that I was in no way offended.
Today I get an apology letter from Jason and I feel so guilty. I know Kim is doing her best to raise a polite and well mannered child on her own. But, she has watched my children in return (yes they do follow the rules in others ppl's houses they understand that not every home has the same rules). Both my kid's are ADHD basically hell on wheels them two are. Broken toy's? I got em. Tears in my furniture? I got em. Color crayon marks on my wall? I got them too.
My question is how do I get her to understand that I was not offended by her son's behaviour? I find him absolutly delightful and will she see me as a corrupter?
And please by all means if you find yourself at my door. Kick your shoes off, grab a drink and take a load off.
Here is my dilemma. My son has a little buddy who comes over to play on Wednesday's before church. My rules are pretty lax, if your hungry there are two drawers in the frig with snacks; if your thirsty the bottom shelf is yours and I don't care how big your mess as long as you pick it up before you go. Yes, you guessed it my house is kid central lol.
Jason's mother came to get him after work and found that he was in the frig and that there were toy's everywere, the couch flipped and blankets over the top of it--boy's and their forts. She instantly freaked and started yelling at him to pick up and to get out of our food. Then apologized over and over for her son's rudeness. After trying many times to reassure her that he was not in any way violating house rules (which yes will change as they get older) I could not convince her that I was in no way offended.
Today I get an apology letter from Jason and I feel so guilty. I know Kim is doing her best to raise a polite and well mannered child on her own. But, she has watched my children in return (yes they do follow the rules in others ppl's houses they understand that not every home has the same rules). Both my kid's are ADHD basically hell on wheels them two are. Broken toy's? I got em. Tears in my furniture? I got em. Color crayon marks on my wall? I got them too.
My question is how do I get her to understand that I was not offended by her son's behaviour? I find him absolutly delightful and will she see me as a corrupter?
And please by all means if you find yourself at my door. Kick your shoes off, grab a drink and take a load off.