View Full Version : I feel inhibited...


absane
11-30-07, 09:40 AM
I posted all of this, nearly word for word, in another subforum. However, it's something I am wondering about and I feel that I will get a better response here than I would where I posted it (medications subforum).



I got Strattera only 7 weeks ago and I've been on a stimulant (Concerta) for only 3 weeks, my first stimulant since I was 6. I was on it because I never did my homework, got very frustrated when I tried to do my homework, got in lots of trouble, talked way too much (and very fast), I was always the teacher's pet (at the time I thought it meant we were friends :rolleyes: ), could not pay attention to people talking to me, ect..

That was all when I was "a kid." Now I'm 23 and I feel a bit inhibited both socially and mentally... like I'm not supposed to be who I want to be and who I know I am. When I am 100% comfortable in a situation, I'm exactly how I used to be as a child that "had" ADHD (I was never diagnosed, but the Dr. at the time mentioned it... and a diagnosed ADHD female I used to work with 3 years ago said I am). Especially as of late I've find myself, in effort to "conform" to society, emotionally detaching myself from situations so that I can be less "discombobulated" (word a former boss used to describe me because I'd have a million things going and I forget to finish every single one of them.. while at the same time I'm running around like I'm on speed). After all, if I feel neutral about most things (even if I should care), then I'm not running around going "OMG so little time... OH MAN... forgot my keys... wait, got to finish this... GAHH... what was I just about to do?!?" Instead, I've pretty much forced myself to think "well, I got to get this done and if I miss class, then oh well." It's got to the point that I won't even attempt to get some homework done because I've forced myself to treat missed assignments like it's no big deal and it's not the end of the world. It's reduced a lot of anxiety in my life, but at the same time it makes me less ambitious.

Sometimes I feel like I'm ready to explode and tell everyone to "f off" so that I can go back to being how I used to be. But at the same time, it's almost like I forgot how to "let go" and be more comfortable with myself. I have never, by any means, been a free spirit. I've always felt constrained to some degree (as we all have) but it used to be under controll. Now it takes great effort to remove myself from a small group of people because I feel like if they notice I am leaving, I'll be interrogated.

Any ideas or suggestions would be appreciated.

Veighen
11-30-07, 12:44 PM
I think I can understand some of what you said...

I live in a situation where I am currently FORCED to be someone I'm not. I have to hide my hyperactivity when it arises, quiet my crazy little on the spot songs I normally do, basically not laugh....not show any REAL emotion.. even if I am having the worse day of my life.. I have to suck it up and put on a front.

I HATE IT!

I want to be MYSELF, and, I cant... I'm not allowed. The people I live with could never accept or understand me.

I feel constant criticism...pressure to be better and not make mistakes.

The anxiety that this places on me as well as outside influences (work, school etc...etc...) can be overwhelming and has made so miserable at times that I am now trying a new approach much like you.

By downplaying things.. or IGNORING them completely.

It doesnt help. This is your life dont let other people live it for you...or determine how you should live.

There are many kinds of people in this world.. some accept you..and most dont. Just look for the ones that dont have their heads shoved so far up their own :eek: !

I'm looking.

If you're not happy, whats the point?

I know I am not happy, and, wondering...whats the point.

Bryanh30
12-02-07, 05:22 AM
To some degree we must all conform. It sucks, but in order to get by either we must conform or live on the street. Over time that becomes a slow burning anger within us. Why is it so hard, why must I do this or do that and why can't I just do it. Look at that guy or girl how well she can just do what she needs to do and move on. It is upsetting and telling someone that you have ADD or ADHD just gives you a cold look as if you are asking them to feel sorry for you. It's not going to change any time soon. You have to find your own way. Find the things you are good at and make those your first tasks.

We are all frustrated, you are not alone.

~Bryan
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