Hello,
I am twenty four years old in college and working. One thing about myself is I love being a single adult because I have people to share my life with and I love the extra quiet time for myself whenever I please. Also I love being single because I have more time to accomplish goals that I want to. If anybody else likes it write me thanks

You've got my vote on this poll, I wasn't single at 24 but I am 27 and I am and I love it, I am happier and more content and it is due to the alone time.

Yeah...I'm with ya'll on this one...I like being single

so many thoughts come into my head from just this SINGLE sentence!

I have pretty much always been in a relationship and when I wasn't I wanted to be in one. Hindsight is 20/20, but I wish I would have played the field more in my 20's. Now, the idea of being single sounds fan fn tastic! However, it may just be a flight of fancy and I am better off keeping my mouth shut and staying put.

But if the opportunity ever arose, I think I would be COOL with it!!! VERY COOL! :cool:

THAT MEANS IT'S NOT GONNA HAPPEN! :rolleyes: Such is life.

I guess I will get in on this one... When I was in my twenties I loved being single, I wasn't really understood by anyone anyway and I could just go do what I wanted without always explaining myself. Don't you hate that as an Adder? Always having to explain yourself?!? It gets old quick and nobody, except an Adder really understands anyway. Everyone just thought I was arogant and selfish. Heck, I was, but that kept them away and that was okay.

HOWEVER, after you get out of your 20's and you notice how fast life is going by, especially for us dreamers, things change and we start to value companionship. And yet it is very difficult to find a companion who will understand your traits and ups and downs, it is really not easy. I didn't meet the right person until I was 34. I love her so much and she appreciates me. That's wonderful, but even so, I still love to have my 'alone' time, time to just let my mind go and let it to its thing.

That's something many don't realize while fighting the good ADD ADHD fight. Sometimes, we need time to just let our minds 'be' and not as controlled as we try to keep it. Call it meditation or whatever, but I know that when I give my mind its 'free' time, I have more success and feel better. Remember how we did this as a kid before we started school?

Oh and I was diagnosed at the age of 37, so I was that way without even knowing why :)

Have fun and best wishes,

Bryan

Hello,
I am twenty four years old in college and working. One thing about myself is I love being a single adult because I have people to share my life with and I love the extra quiet time for myself whenever I please. Also I love being single because I have more time to accomplish goals that I want to. If anybody else likes it write me thanks
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Hello,
I am twenty four years old in college and working. One thing about myself is I love being a single adult because I have people to share my life with and I love the extra quiet time for myself whenever I please. Also I love being single because I have more time to accomplish goals that I want to. If anybody else likes it write me thanks

truth be told. I am spending rather a bit of effort recently to try stay single.

Truthfully, NO I never liked it. I was always kinda lonely, only child till 11, childhood friends moved away and it was hard as a hyperactive, distracted, socially inattentive girl to make very close friends. Luckily I was an attractive girl and a tomboy, so guys liked me and were my only companionship for a long time.

I loved having one special guy because he would try to understand me and liked being around me. No friends (except 1) ever did that for me. Being single just meant being friends with guys whose girlfriends didn't like me. I was single for a while in my late teens and early 20's, i was depressed & shopped too much.

Luckily i've been married to an awesome guy since 04', he is my best friend as well as my husband.
It probably sounds sad, and in a way it is. But I have accepted that single life for me personally is a lonely hell-hole.:(

i did for a long time till i met my boyfriend he changed my thoughts on this subject

I enjoy being single very much. I suppose that's because I have so much going on that a relationship almost seems like an inconvenience to me. Plus, I have never met anyone who has been even remotely close to changing my mind.

why would anyone LOVE having shingles? this post is nonsensical!

I went through a stage where I really wanted a boyfriend.
Now though I am quite content with being single. Recent events have changed my mind.

I am newly single, and I LOVE it. :D

I go through stages where I don't mind being single and other times I do wish for companionship and so on.

At the moment single life is probably the best for me due to my current nomadic lifestyle but with that said I'd probably change my mind if the right person came along!

I do get enough male attention but 95% of the time it's from those I wouldn't have anything to do with in the romantic sense for various reasons and I always follow my gut instinct when it comes to relationships...the only time I recently went against my better judgement was when I dated my ex Wayne, I knew I should never ever have gone there but I did and while I was really hurt at how things turned out more than anyone's really aware but I'm so grateful he's out of my life now because if he was still in my life I wouldn't be doing what I want now.

So yes being single has it's advantages as well as it's disadvantages and right now I'm happy.

Selena:)

yeah after being married twice (both disastrous) I cherish being single and doing what I want even if it means I may end up alone and bored and horny for awhile ...

being married is a scary unnatural trap IMHO .
just say no !

I'm not sure if I 'love' being single per se. Some days I really wish I had someone special in my life. And I wonder all the time about my future family.

But I can't gather enough motivation to tackle the world of dating. And watching divorces and difficult marriages around me makes me less inclined to want to be married.

It's funny, I was just thinking about this today. I just figure that this area, relationships, is one area I refuse to comprimse on. I'm not looking for perfection, but I know what I want.

nice post! I stuggle with this fairly often as a 38 year old male. I have never been married and have no kids. I just haven't had much luck with females. I have had quite a few girlfriends, etc., but nobody that has really rocked my world to want to settle down with. Maybe I'm a real life Seinfeld episode, I don't know. I'm always finding faults. Sometimes I want a serious relationship and other times I'm happy to be single and "free". Just like most things in life, there are pluses and minuses.

I think for the most part I'm happier being single. I'm not sure if I ever want to get married. I'm now 36 and friends and family are wondering why I'm not interested in settling down yet. However none of them know about how my ADD has affected my past dating relationships. I'm not sure if I ever want to tell them.

I guess I will get in on this one... When I was in my twenties I loved being single, I wasn't really understood by anyone anyway and I could just go do what I wanted without always explaining myself. Don't you hate that as an Adder? Always having to explain yourself?!? It gets old quick and nobody, except an Adder really understands anyway. Everyone just thought I was arogant and selfish. Heck, I was, but that kept them away and that was okay.

HOWEVER, after you get out of your 20's and you notice how fast life is going by, especially for us dreamers, things change and we start to value companionship. And yet it is very difficult to find a companion who will understand your traits and ups and downs, it is really not easy. I didn't meet the right person until I was 34. I love her so much and she appreciates me. That's wonderful, but even so, I still love to have my 'alone' time, time to just let my mind go and let it to its thing.

That's something many don't realize while fighting the good ADD ADHD fight. Sometimes, we need time to just let our minds 'be' and not as controlled as we try to keep it. Call it meditation or whatever, but I know that when I give my mind its 'free' time, I have more success and feel better. Remember how we did this as a kid before we started school?

Oh and I was diagnosed at the age of 37, so I was that way without even knowing why :)

Have fun and best wishes,

Bryan]

So true! I was diagnosed at 30, a year ago. I spent most of my 20's relatively single, which was ok, but I became chronically lonely and started having issues because of it. I met a girl a few years ago and we're engaged and co-habitating, but she's very co-dependent and I don't really have any "alone" time. So, it's been a very difficult adjustment for me. Currently we do not have any days off together so on my 2 days I tend to go to the extreme and play online games feverishly all day. It sounds juvenile I know, but it's really just a condensed session of letting my brain and self go. It's quite unhealthy I must admit. Need that alone time, but not too much, and not too infrequently ;)

Personally, I abhor being single. But that's probably because I rely on a relationship to provide me much of my entertainment. Since I'm shy, I could on a relationship to "get me out there." Which is too bad for me, because I'm currently single.

divorce/family lawyers are EXPENSIVE to retain ...

just say NO to marriage... trust me ... just have a live-in significant other or whatever ...

no need to legally bind yourself to someone ... they'll just leave eventually and/or cheat and want to take half of everything ...

:(

I WANT TO LIVE AGAIN! enuff said. :rolleyes:;):)

so many thoughts come into my head from just this SINGLE sentence!

I have pretty much always been in a relationship and when I wasn't I wanted to be in one. Hindsight is 20/20, but I wish I would have played the field more in my 20's. Now, the idea of being single sounds fan fn tastic! However, it may just be a flight of fancy and I am better off keeping my mouth shut and staying put.

But if the opportunity ever arose, I think I would be COOL with it!!! VERY COOL! :cool:

THAT MEANS IT'S NOT GONNA HAPPEN! :rolleyes: Such is life.

Whoa... that sounds like me talkin! At least for the next couple of hours!

Have a drink on me, C.O.D., I salute you AD/HD!

If Im having a bad day I don't want to communicate and I definitly don't want ot get out in public for hours or have to talk with someone with long periods of time. Doesn't go over very well when you cancel a date on the same day and aren't interested in talking about it or anything.

no... I was miserable when I was single. Maybe some day I'll explain in detail.

Mary, what!? that is a odd message to throw out there. Just FYI. Why even post this?

Better being single than wishing you were. In all other cases, marriage is great. :cool:

Just FYI. Why even post this?


The member you are addressing gave an opinion related to the topic so the post in with in the guidelines -

Agreeing with the popular view isn't required

I appreaciate the effort however I can handle the moderating.

Thanks

divorce/family lawyers are EXPENSIVE to retain ...

just say NO to marriage... trust me ... just have a live-in significant other or whatever ...

no need to legally bind yourself to someone ... they'll just leave eventually and/or cheat and want to take half of everything ...

:(
Just make sure you do not live in a common law state like Calif, Louisiana or Pto Rico (which has common law statutes).

28 and chronically single. I'd like a girlfriend but I rarely go out other than work and happy hour afterwards... don't really care.

I'm going to Hong Kong next week... try that with three kids and a wife!

I'm going to Hong Kong next week... try that with three kids and a wife!

Just don't come back with a kid & a wife-significant other! :rolleyes:

It's been so long since I have been single I can't remember if I liked it or not!!!

I think it'd be good to have a bit of both worlds.......there were some pretty tough times when i was single, and some equally tough times when I was married.

In my perfect life I'd have about 6 months doing the single life somewhere , then return home to a partner/wife/Significant Other for the rest of the year. That way when singledom got lonely I'd be thinking...hang in there kid there's only x weeks till you're back home, and when the going got claustrophobic at home I'd think the same about heading off.

Maybe guys who work away 3-4 weeks on 3 weeks off have it about right. Long enough for the partner to learn how to change a plug and not too long that you forget what she looks like!

Unfortunately mentioning this as ones preferred lifestyle doesn't go down too well...

Her ....."your SUPPOSED to like living with me.."

...unless.....

Him.... "I'll be making £100,000/year tax free"

Her ...."That's all right then"

So make sure you make pots of cash and then you'll find you can have your cake and eat it.


kilted cynic

I enjoy being single while I can. I'm sure the right girl will come along eventually (I've give a couple possibilities a chance, but they weren't worth it). But until that happens, I'm in no hurry to surrender all the advantages of having my own schedule making ability and other freedoms for a relationship that just isn't worth it. I love being 22.

no... I was miserable when I was single. Maybe some day I'll explain in detail.

It seems like a lot of people are not happy without a relationship. I'm just the opposite.

I like my alone time too much to want to share it :)

haha to each their own!

The oldest of five, I was still at home when I married at 19, brought up three children, was divorced after 20 years married, and never had another serious relationship. Been on my own now since 1990. My oldest grandson came to live with me 3 years ago. I have been single and celibate for almost twenty years and happier than I have ever been in my whole life. Not ecstatic just comfortable with my own company. I’m the oldest now. My siblings and I all have children and our children have children. Being Scottish I feel like the head of our clan, and a lovely supportive clan it is too. I might have had a tough start in life but I’m going out happy.

Well I am only 17.

But I dont really like/dislike being single. I just try my best to adjust to the way things are at that present time.

If I am in a relationship. I adjust so I can feel comfortable being in one.

And when I am not, I adjust so I dont get that lonely feeling, and that feeling that i'm not wanted.

Everybody's wanted by someone else anyway. :)