for ADD/ADHD.

Well, please bear w/ me as I have a hard time getting my thoughts organized and expressed. So if my thoughts are not orderly expressed sorry in advance.

I met my DH freshman year in college, and that summer he was diagnosed w/ ADHD. My brilliant hubby, Mr. 155 IQ, w/ a .3 GPA pre meds and graduated w/ a 3.8 post.

Anywhoo we got married and we have 4 daughters. Our oldest has just been diagnosed w/ ADHD after previously being treated for depression and axniety, the doctors came to the diagnosis that its was in fact ADHD.

Now everyone says, oh, just like daddy BUT no she's not, she's just like ME. She is my mini me in all ways, except she is extroverted and I'm introverted. I kept thinking to myself, how can this be. I have struggled w/ depression and anxiety(that was my diag.) for 10 years, being medicated for it and it never helped, just sedated me. Now I'm thinking maybe they were wrong. Do I have ADD/ADHD?

I have all the same issues as my daughter. Could this be why I never get better? I went researching adult symptoms and guess what, I hit everyone of them on the mark. So I'm going to goto a doc to get evaluated.

I am the most disorganized person I know. Short term memory, what now?
I avoid interacting w/ people because I have a hard time getting my thoughts to come out right. I don't look people in the eyes when I talk to them, I noticed this when they started seeing that my daughter does this. I have to look for every word and I look off and into space looking for them. Oh and will want to say a word and a completely different word comes out of my mouth.

I had to avoid public speaking in school at all costs, even if it meant sacrificing grades because my brain can't hold onto and express my ideas properly. I freeze up completely.

Oh and if I'm having a conversation w/ someone I zone out completely or the words coming out of their mouths begin to sound like the adults in the Peanuts cartoons...WA WA WAWA WA sort of echoing in the head.

there tons and tons more, all consistent w/ adhd.

Anyhoo, I wanted to introduce myself and I will be lurking.

Welcome to the forums Skattered.

Your symptoms, your daughter's recent diagnosis and your treatment resistant depression/anxiety all indicate that you should get your evaluation. Treatment resistant depression and anxiety in women is a very common occurrence for those of us diagnosed as adults. I myself took SSRI's for eight years before being properly diagnosed. I think the average is about 10 years.

Were you offered or was it suggested that you get an evaluation when your daugher was diagnosed? (I know she was an adult so you probably weren't involved) I wish that docs, the APA, behavioral health networks and/or IPA's would get w/ the program and add something to their practice guidelines recommending evaluations for parents of newly diagnosed children. This and some sort of guideline for patients w/ multiple office visists for treatment resistant depression. So many of us slip through the cracks.

Welcome to ADDF skattered

Welcome to the forums Skattered.

Your symptoms, your daughter's recent diagnosis and your treatment resistant depression/anxiety all indicate that you should get your evaluation. Treatment resistant depression and anxiety in women is a very common occurrence for those of us diagnosed as adults. I myself took SSRI's for eight years before being properly diagnosed. I think the average is about 10 years.

Were you offered or was it suggested that you get an evaluation when your daugher was diagnosed? (I know she was an adult so you probably weren't involved) I wish that docs, the APA, behavioral health networks and/or IPA's would get w/ the program and add something to their practice guidelines recommending evaluations for parents of newly diagnosed children. This and some sort of guideline for patients w/ multiple office visists for treatment resistant depression. So many of us slip through the cracks.

My daughter is 9, I'm 31. It is my idea to be evaluated. I think w/ 2 parents w/ add is the reason my dd has such severe issues.

My hubby just got back from Em's appt and she has been switched from Straterra to Adderall. Em had an allergic reaction to the Straterra just like the Zoloft(Awful experience). He asked the doc for me about an adult evaluation and now I have phone # and a plan.

Fortunately my husband is now able to function w/o his Dexadrine(probably because his job has been a life long obbsession and he enjoys it soooooo much). He was lucky, diagnosed w/ ADHD at age 18 he was ableto actaully study and get to where he is happy and enjoying his career. It makes me sad to think that if I had gotten the RIGHT help at such a critical point I would have actaully been a Vet. But unable to focus and get things done and succeeded w/ my dreams. Now I'm a housewife and scared of the idea of a job and all that's involved w/ having a career. I missed my chance. But I won't let that happen to my 4 girls. I'm fortunate to be aware of these issues, unlike my parents who just never thought of it.

Welcome to ADDF skatteredThanks!

Love your bunners!!!

I have a new zealand.

My daughter is 9, I'm 31Where did I get the idea that your daughter was an adult? Sorry.

You sound a lot like me. Going back to work terrifies me. What will I do? I think a lot of people mourn what they could've been had they been diagnosed sooner, myself included.

Being a SAHM is one of the worst jobs for a woman w/ ADHD. In your quest for information (you'll likely dive in and not come up for air for awhile http://addforums.com/forums/images/smilies/wink.gif) check out Sari Solden's Women w/ Attention Deficit Disorder and Driven to Distraction (or Delivered From Distraction), if you don't already have it, is a good one too.