Ok, so yesterday was my birthday. I had a really good day UNTIL my boyfriend told me that he didn't get me anything because at my age you don't get presents and cake. I was angry at him and didn't talk to him all night. Me, him and a bunch of friends ended up going to the club and I really didn't have any fun because I was brooding over it all night.

Today we talked about it and it turns out that it just wasn't something that he did in his family. He did buy me lunch and did buy my drinks at the club, but I was kinda ****ed that I didn't get an actual present. I keep telling myself it's about the thought, but I kinda get the feeling that I was just mad because I didn't get my way.

I'm just curious what you guys think... Was this just another ADD temper flare or was I right to be angry?

Well, our backgrounds and family customs and ways of doing things kind of sets up our expectations, so you were both following patterns that have been established in each of your families ways of doing things, which, when they are quite different, can and do set us up for unmet expectations (you) and then the other party which had no idea (your partner). Which means, you had an unmet expectation that is dissapointing, rightfully so. This is the fun part about blending personalities while dating, is being able to find out about these things and work around them, communicate and comprimise and change to help meet the other persons' needs.

No present for your birthday? Don't be hard on yourself. I think you are justified in being angry. He could have told you about his family tradition before your birthday. Was it the first birthday you two have spent together? Not get a girl a present??? that's just rude!

No present for your birthday? Don't be hard on yourself. I think you are justified in being angry. He could have told you about his family tradition before your birthday. Was it the first birthday you two have spent together? Not get a girl a present??? that's just rude!

Heh... well first of all I'm not a girl. :)

And I do agree. I've asked him what he wants for his birthday and he didn't say "Oh, you don't have to get me anything." He just shrugged his shoulders and went on.

But yes, it is the first birthday since we've been together.

Your not a girl?!? :confused: Well, heck, I still say you should have gotten a present! :D

Let's see what happens at Christmas! You guys did discuss Christmas right? If not, better get started. I hate it when I am empty handed at Christmas... lol