right now im at a time of life where im recovering from a bunch of mistakes in my life, a lot of which involved distancing myself from old friends, and I'm dealing with the unfortunate reprecusions and judgements being made against me.

Whenever I think back, I can't help but feel justified in everything I did... but there are still some questions I have regarding the intelligence of those decisions, wether or not I was "insane" to make those decisions or fully competant, wether or not some of those decisions were "aloof", etc.

OVERALL, I am ALMOST fully at peace with my decisions, and that has helped me get through this time with remarkable ease...

Would you go back an examine your decisions piece by piece and fully reflect on what you did? I actually have maybe three times over the last three months and always come back feeling good about myself, but I'm constantly being badgered about it and I can't help but suddenly want to look back again and see if I missed something.

On the other hand, I'm feeling more and more I should just let it be... be at peace with what happened, whatever that may be... and let people judge me however.

Well, you can ruminate forever, and end up watching your behind so you are not watching where you are going. Whatever you do in the past cannot be undone, if you learned from things, and move forward, both from positive and negative events in your life either way you only have to live with yourself in the end. You have to justify to no one but yourself, really.

So yeah, your last great sentence! :p

I echo Frazzle's sentiments on this and I've made some stupid stupid mistakes as a young one in the past but there comes a time where you have to move on and accept that you've made mistakes and learn from them, no one is perfect and if people judge you for past mistakes then they're the one's with the problem NOT you!!....in other words GET OVER IT what's done is done my friend.

Selena

thanks for the comments, you've reinforced what i already feel inside :)

Yay, Random! :-)

That's terrific Random.

Selena:)

I actually have maybe three times over the last three months and always come back feeling good about myself, I'm constantly being badgered about it and I can't help but suddenly want to look back again and see if I missed something.

If you have tried to look at your decisions from different perspectives during different times and you are at peace with your decisions then you have no problems with your decisions apparently some one else does and it is they who have the problems you are under no obligation to take on other people's problems.