View Full Version : There has to be a better way


Nucking_Futs
02-16-04, 02:40 AM
OK first off basic history. I have suffered many form's of abuse as a child and young adult; verbal, mental, physical and sexual. At the age of 16 thing's became overwhelming so I tried to end thing's for myself. With the help of a therapist I was able to identify my trigger's and find way's to either avoid them all together or to at least be able to deal with the fallout when one was set off. I have not had to use this survival skill in years, so I find myself struggling right now to find my balance again.

Yesterday, my son tipped a cart over on my daughter while I was holding and trying to feed the baby. This man behind me stated "that if I couldn't handle my children perhaps I should give them to someone else who could". Unfortunatly, the stress my kid's had put me under that day left me totally defenseless and a number of my trigger's were set off. I did not realize it until later that night when I tried to sleep and nightmares and flashbacks started haunting me day and night.

My trigger's are easy to identify; but, avoiding them all together is impossible as most my symptom's have to do with big men, anger, yelling, loud noise's, invasion of space, the smell of alcohol, storms and shoes.

Right now I can't seem to get thing's under control and am feeling very weak and afraid all the time, I keep flinching from my husband and kid's, I just cannot tolerate being touched right now. My memory is down to nile and I cannot keep up with anything going on around me, I can't sleep or eat. I'm between therapist's right now and have had to shut thing's down in my mind for a little while which leaves me extremely stupid, slow and apologetic (it's like I'm driven to say I'm sorry at the beginning and end of every sentence).

I'm wondering is there maybe a temp. med I could take until I get my emotion's back under control or any other helpful ideas would be much appreciated. Like I said I have not had trouble like this in year's and have forgotten my stress eleviating skills.

Thanks,
Cherity

Draga
02-16-04, 03:06 AM
Futs In this thread that I wrote I asked about PTSD Meds:
http://www.addforums.com/forums/showthread.php?s=&threadid=3902 BIG gave me a whole list of medications hun, and if I remember correctly so did Tara.. and I also included about how I handle PTSD myself I hope this helps sweetie!

Nucking_Futs
02-16-04, 03:13 AM
Some of these med's I have been on Prozac I was on when I was 16 and I'm thinking it didn't really help. Lithium made me so tired and disassociated with my life,,,I didn't feel anything at all on that med which was in a way a blessing; but, it's an ugly feeling too. I cannot describe it.

waywardclam
02-16-04, 03:51 AM
Oh Futs... :( :( :(

I know nothing of the meds you are asking about. All I can do is offer you my support and a totally inappropriate attempt to make you smile.

Please don't snap or pop. You can crackle if you want to.

Draga
02-16-04, 05:26 PM
Prozac and Lithium is not your only option Futsy! There are other medications out there.

Nucking_Futs
02-17-04, 01:27 AM
Today I feel a little better,,, Doug stayed home and took care of Garrett so I could try and rest-I have found I have less nightmares if I sleep during the day. And I can feel my defense's starting to kick in again, sometimes it just takes longer than other's. And I did speak to the family physician and he believes the reason I cannot respond properly to my trigger's is because I'm on the wrong depression med or too high a dose. So, we are going to cut back and then DC and see how I go from there. And if needed we will try another; but, post pardom usually doesn't last that long (I think) so I am hopeful.

Mel I would never attempt to hurt myself again. I think about all the wonderful experiances I would have missed had I succeeded at 16 and I KNOW FOR A FACT it is NOT the answer.

WC thank you for the chuckle and for taking time away from your writing to try and make me feel better it is greatly appreciated even if at the time I did not show appreciation.

Hugs you two much love and gratitude,
Cherity

apcpapergirl
02-17-04, 09:17 AM
Futs,
I pray that you find the right medication for yourself.
You are always in my thoughts & prayers.
Thank you for being you.
Love ya!

Vickie

Nucking_Futs
02-17-04, 09:31 AM
I will I'm sure; but, truthfully I am hoping I don't need it. I'm going back to work soon and I think that will make all the difference, I was NOT made to be a stay at home mom that takes a special kind of woman and it definatly isn't me. lol

biker
02-17-04, 09:56 AM
Futs,
I do not have an answer for you. Just know that your in my thoughts and prayers.
Jim

Nucking_Futs
02-17-04, 10:14 AM
And thank you guy's for all your support and thoughtfulness it means the world to me. You are all the very best humanity has to offer. Hugs

apcpapergirl
02-18-04, 07:54 PM
Thank YOU futs, for all of your support.
Love ya,
Vickie