I'm sure this has probobly been subject matter here before but I just feel the need to mention how innocence and niavity can be a part of ADD/ADHD and can really get us in trouble. One thing that is most important is to learn to protect yourself emotionally as well as physically.

Most of my life, and I guess even now, I've worn my heart on my sleeve. The wrong kind of person can see this and easily take advantage and then disgard you like a piece of yesterdays trash. Part of my ADD/NVLD is being very sensitive, emotional and vulnerable. I can also be very gullable. Knowing this about myself I am constantly on guard. It can be exhausting but very worth it. There are wicked people that play on sensitive and emotional people and they are to be avoided at all costs.

Throughout my life I have learned to look for these kinds of people. I have been hurt badly and fooled by them. When I was around 28 I got lucky and got together with a guy I've known most of my life. He's an understanding, honest and kind husband and father. I pray for everyone here that they may find someone that will be as understanding and loving.

It is true that no matter who you marry and have children with that you may pass on the genes. I am now dealing with my own child that has ADD. No meds so far and she is doing well in school with support and help. I will support her every step of the way until I take my last breath on this earth. Her childhood and adulthood will be different then mine :) Dee

Sadly this is indeed true... and many other forum members have discovered it to their sadness and pain... :(

Part of me wants to believe that it's because ADD people are naturally so much better than others. :D

But I do have a couple of theories. 1. ADD people DO tend to be more sensitive / empathetic to other people who have troubles, seeing as we have a lot of our own, and 2. ADD people don't have as many social skills, so where a "norm" would notice someone who was being a social "predator", we won't necessarily pick it up until we have been taken advantage of already... :(

I agree with you wayward and am hoping I can spare my daughter from some of the pain I went through by warning her about certain types of people and what to look for.

Thankfully, where I work I really don't have to deal with people that try to take advantage of me but I do deal with the backstabbing type that complain about everybody else and complain if they have to do any extra work besides their own. Sometimes I get really bothered by it and try take myself out of the conversation. It took me so long to learn people but I think I'm pretty good at it now and I know when I need to exit at situation. I just wish people were kinder toward each other. It's sad some people have to be so negative. I admit I have my days but I try to keep my feelings to myself and not make everyone else miserable.

Actually, I used to be quite a negative person and after years of seeing other people put off by my behavior I finally woke up and figured out that positive behavior draws a more positive response. Sorry to go on and on. I guess because of my current situation being partially a social one at work it's on my mind. Sometimes I just think to darn much about things. Have a peaceful evening and thanks for the reply. Dee