I have a similiar thread in the Women with ADD thread and figured I'd ask ADD men the same question but about them.

I said women because it seems to me that I almost never get to know men without ADD for any length of time. Occasionally I have had teachers or bosses that were male who gave me soem trouble for my ADD symptoms... but very few people know me well enough to know I am ADD, and of those, very few give me "flack"...

The most "flack" I tend to get is from my wife, for ways that my symptoms drive her nuts in our relationship. :D

I ma in the same boat as wayward. I think all of you are more than well aware of that. :D

My wife and I drive each other crazy. We're both ADD, but it manifests itself in different ways, like she is forever making lists, but I, if I ever made one, would lose it. She is forever late, but I am punctual. She is more outgoing than I am, which means she gabs at social functions, while I am wondering where my kids disappeared to. Etc., etc.

Originally posted by Stranger
...while I am wondering where my kids disappeared to...

Eek! Been there and done that! My wife has literally walked into the house where I am, and I am on the computer, or watching TV, or even doing chores, and said "Where's the boy?" at which point I look dumbly at her because I honestly don't know...

Go directly to Doghouse -- Do not pass Go - Do not collect $200!

Both kids are ADD as well, so they can impulsively take off for parts unknown very easily. My son, in fact, used to disappear when he was three and roam the neighborhood with a pack of dogs (think Mowgli the wolf-boy!). But the real problem is the wife--she can go somewhere, come back 2 hours late, and explain that she stopped to see somebody, etc. I quit cooking supper when nobody would show up to eat it.

I said women because my symptoms when I am around men are viewed very differently. I am considered quick-witted and gregarious around men (you know the smart- a** of the group). Women, however, immediately want to 'nuture' me and point out my hyperactivity as if their is something wrong with me.

MM

When my wife (non-ADD) divorced me, she let me know that : 'a very high percentage of people with ADD get divorced'.
Quite a comforting thought to end a marriage with!

Runner, that's awful! I'm sure we all know who it feels to be given up on by other people in our lives (teachers/relatives/parents/friends) whom we have let down on one too many occasions. But to have the same reaction from the most precious one of all, that must be hell.

I have a very patient wife, and I know that sometimes her patience is pushed to the limit. Doesn't help that 2/5 of our kids also have ADD. Sometimes, when she has had enough she just has to get out on her own for a while (usually all day). And every day I wonder if she'll get fed up and go look for a better life.

But the most flak I get is actually second hand; my wife telling me what her mother has said about me. My wife actually has a great sense of humour and doesn't put much stock into what her mother says; makes light of it instead. The comments usually revolve around me not finishing things around the house, being anti-social, being autistic (she really thought that I was - it'd freak her out when I'd just stand in the middle of the lounge room staring blankly while she was calling my name..), my spur-of-the-moment purchases... and so on.

It goes on and on. She's learnt quite a lot about ADD because of me and her grand kids, but she still just doesn't 'get it'. I forget to put the rubbish out 2 weeks in a row (my wife, bless her, has declared this to be my responsibility and quite firmly refuses to make up for the weeks I miss) but my mother-in-law is still totally mystified. She constantly advises my wife to turn up the nagging to make me do things.

It's probably more fair to say "Wives" than women. :-) I actually get along very well with most women. I've only gotten "flack" from the ones I've lived with. My mother, and my Ex-wife being the main exceptions. Different kinds of flack there. Didn't have to do with ADD. On the home front growing up, it was always my father who gave me the flack. With my ex-wife, I was in the military, quite in my element, and I was pretty much the one holding things together in the household while she was drinking up the grocery money and indulging a drug habbit unbeknownst to me. I got flack when I found out about the drug habbit, and her boyfriend. OOPSIE!

My ADD made it presense known once again, with all the negative symptoms, in a big way when I got promoted, about a year after my current marriage began. I very definitely catch flack from my present wife, who would very much like to know what the heck happened?! She doesn't buy ADD. SIGH!

for me it is a woman

Add sixty minutes and most of the rest of the free press to this list.... Doesn't anyone care about the TRUTH anymore?!

I agree; the most flack I get is from women: Mom, 2 sisters, some women I have worked with. But the most royal *****ing out comes from my wife. She feels like she has to remind me about trash day 14 times, doesn't understand the trouble I have balancing my stupid checkbook; but then constantly relies on my creativity to help her with Sunday School projects or things for Cub Scouts. The one person I need some understanding from is my worst critic.