would you still be that girls friend and talk to her and let her say hey hottie lover and hottie and cutie stuff like that and my boyfriend gets up tight when i ask him stop talking to her i dont like her it bugs me would he be doing it to bug me or make me jelouse or do you think she does it to make me jeolouse and i bet he screwed her to still wanna talk to her as much as he does and talks about her so much?

and another red flag flies high.

Seriously, from what I've read of your recent posts, you might do well to move on. Whatever the reason, you two are not cutting the mustard together.

I just saw the rest of your posts under relationships forum. In individual cases, these issues wouldn't likely be a big deal. Grouped together between the same two people... not a good thing. I'm sorry to say my honest feeling about this is he's not exactly in this relationship with the same motive as you. Keep in mind, I'm only going by the information you have presented here for us to read, you're looking for advice and I'm being honest. I honestly can't tell you to hang in there, it'll be ok because I don't believe that.

hes just inn mature never dated ever and i have no clue how to talk to him about this

I had the same insecurities you did in my last relationship. It's amazing the thing lasted for almost 4 years. So he talks to her....big deal. chillax sweetie...when you've got proof they're messing around that's when you just leave him high n dry.would you still be that girls friend and talk to her and let her say hey hottie lover and hottie and cutie stuff like that and my boyfriend gets up tight when i ask him stop talking to her i dont like her it bugs me would he be doing it to bug me or make me jelouse or do you think she does it to make me jeolouse and i bet he screwed her to still wanna talk to her as much as he does and talks about her so much?

I second the 'chillax.'

Delores is right about leaving the relationship once you see the red flags, but honestly it just sounds like you're both getting used to being in a relationship and feeling insecure. It's a bumpy road. Try to understand people need space and validation (harmless flirting counts) and their own identity apart from their partner's.

Fwiw, I think you two sound lovely. I hope you can separate the personal insecurities from the real relationship problems.

ur right we are new in a relationship bumpy roadsI second the 'chillax.'

Delores is right about leaving the relationship once you see the red flags, but honestly it just sounds like you're both getting used to being in a relationship and feeling insecure. It's a bumpy road. Try to understand people need space and validation (harmless flirting counts) and their own identity apart from their partner's.

Fwiw, I think you two sound lovely. I hope you can separate the personal insecurities from the real relationship problems.

It'll iron itself out Marytza and whatever happens will happen! for now just enjoy yourselves.

Selena

You could try to talk to your boyfriend instead of panicking on an internet forum. You posted 1000+ ? topics about this. Why do you need other people, who you dont even know to tell you what you should do or whats the "normal" thing to do. Just take a break from the internet and look in yourself for the answer.

This is not meant to be a flame or something, I onestly dont think you make the situation any better by obsessing about it on a forum.

hes just inn mature never dated ever and i have no clue how to talk to him about this

yeah, you know those "inn mature" guys...

yes i know few of themyeah, you know those "inn mature" guys...

Stop having sex with him for a while and see if he hangs around.

Or even better - talk to him about it. if he doesn't care that it bothers you then is he even worth it?

good luck