at a girl and then after a few minutes they do it again?

The problem is, that he still stares at other girls sometimes (I don't mean glancing in that general direction either, but actual gazing), and sometimes I feel like he will actually go as far as to put down these girls so that I won't be hurt. I honestly feel like he does it to throw me off balance sometimes. Because of this, I just can't trust him. I always feel like he's looking over my shoulder for something (someone) better. Sometimes I don't feel like I will ever be adequate because of how he acts in this manner. Have I been settled for? Is this a personal insecurity issue or are these legitimate concerns?

I have to say Marytza, lately all your posts have been about a trouble within your relationship with this guy. Maybe instead of analyzing this particular issue, you should reevaluate the whole relationship.

Doesn't sound like a good match. :(

is not trouble is just concerns

these are concerns that are about 2 threads away from trouble.

ya ic

I look, You look....people look at other people. To me it's a natural thing....I wouldn't worry about him looking. He can look all he wants...just don't touch it. I agree with delores on this...if you've already have so many concerns/issues...what is the point? I'm not trying to sound mean or anything I'm just trying to understand what the good side might be.

i just be cheated on before and played that i dont like when things like this happends

Sometimes the cheaters are the ones that are NOT obvious. Those are the ones to be careful about...;)

My husband and I both 'admire' anything beautiful, unique or interesting. He might stare if something catches his attention, but I'm just as likely to do the same. I'll admit that I might point out a beautiful woman before he's even seen her.

I'm not jealous or insecure. He isn't either. We've been married almost 16 years (I'm 37)...so I do have a bit of experience with it.

I guess it all depends on what he's 'really' doing versus what you're 'perceiving' he's doing. Maybe you're making more out of it than it really is, or maybe your concerns are legit. As a poster above me said, I don't know if this is really a valid concern as much as the the quality of your relationship is. I only say that based on the last few threads you've started. No offense intended, sugar. ((hug))

The problem is, that he still stares at other girls sometimes (I don't mean glancing in that general direction either, but actual gazing), and sometimes I feel like he will actually go as far as to put down these girls so that I won't be hurt. I honestly feel like he does it to throw me off balance sometimes. Because of this, I just can't trust him. I always feel like he's looking over my shoulder for something (someone) better. Sometimes I don't feel like I will ever be adequate because of how he acts in this manner. Have I been settled for? Is this a personal insecurity issue or are these legitimate concerns?

That's more than just a concern, it's a deal breaker. *bold/color mine*

He is being socially inappropriate.

He sounds insensitive, for starters.

Like, what about your and your feelings?

Better not to have a boyfriend than have one who is disrespectful and insensitive to your basic feelings.

Let go of this guy and his relationship problems.

Blah.

For myself, I don't 'need a relationship'. Given that, I won't tolerate that crap.

[Let them chase me.]

If you can stop accepting any old guy who comes along, your rel'ps will improve.

~Emma (tired of jerks)