Who's husband, or boyriend, son or ladies play call of duty 4?

I'm only taking a guess here, but is this question leading up to a "how do you deal with too much video game use w/spouse or significant other"?

Well you guessed right.My husband plays for like 12 hours no lie he is so consumed.

I can relate. We currently have a PS2, Game Boy, Supper NES, Sega Geneses, N64, Game Cube, untold games for all, and he wants a X-box, and my son is trying to convince us to get a Wii. :rolleyes:

With the kids we set daily time limits. With hubby I just let it slid until something really has to get done and then I nag him about it.

what would you do if that is all your husband did and it took 7 times to ask a question before you got an answer?I just surf the net and let him be it is getting lonley now.

what would you do if that is all your husband did and it took 7 times to ask a question before you got an answer?I just surf the net and let him be it is getting lonley now.




Disconnect and remove from the immediate vicinity the offending machine{s} until a reasonable discussion could take place. . .

I became consumed with an online thing in Jan. of 2006. It wasn't until this past July that I came to my senses. Well, my mother threatening to help my husband get full custody of the kids if I didn't get help.

It was THAT bad. It started innocently, but wound up consuming my entire day, literally. 12 plus hours, neglecting everything else in my life, including my kids.

Someone needs to get in his face and give him a good what for. Even if that means throwing the damn thing out the window (which my mother threatened to do to my computer if I ever got online to that site again..).

Addiction can take many forms. Even the form of a seemingly innocent video game. 12 hours is a pretty good indicator he's addicted. If you don't know what to do, don't hesitate to speak to your own doctor about what you should do. Maybe a close friend of his, someone he'd listen to.

The only thing that worked for me was my mother calling me on my lies, and basically holding up a mirror to show me what I'd really become. She didn't tiptoe around the issue, she didn't try to be nice either. She got nasty because that's what it took. Within a month I realized I had ADD, got treatment and I've been a completely different person from then on.

what would you do if that is all your husband did and it took 7 times to ask a question before you got an answer?I just surf the net and let him be it is getting lonley now.

I would venture to guess that I was the same way that your husband is. My wife left me on November 4th of this year. I'm devastated and dealing with it the best that I can. (which means, not very well... I've cried every day since she left) I would give anything in the world for her to come home, or even want to get help, but she says that she isn't in love with me anymore and doesn't want to try anymore. She says that her feelings have changed and there isn't anything I can do about it now, no matter what I do. I only hope that she feels differently later.

Is your husband on medication or anything? I ask because I was completely unaware of how much time I was really spending playing video games, I was unaware of what it was doing to my family. I wasn't medicated at the time and it's damned near ruined my life. (For the record, I haven't so much as touched a game controller since she left on Nov 4th, and I have no intention of picking one up ever again. I hyperfocus on it too much and it's cost me everything.)

My suggestion would be to sit him down and talk to him about it when there's no distraction. Sit him down at the kitchen table or whatever and let him know how you feel and what is really happening to your relationship because of it. If my wife had done that just once, I wouldn't be where I am today. Maybe he will hear you if you tell him what how you feel about his video game habit. Make sure that he knows that it's serious. Don't give up on him, I'm sure he doesn't intend to make you feel lonely or neglected. At least for me, it breaks my heart that I made my wife feel that way. I'm not sure I'll ever forgive myself for this if I can't get her to come home.

-Wil

Talk to him. If you don't tell him how you feel, he'll never know. No one can read minds after all.

its funny that you mention this game specifically. my friends and i just spent almost a full day (18hrs) straight playing that game. and im pretty sure that we are going to the same today. video games can be very addicting, espcially with people like my friends and i that just dont have a practical reasoning to know when enough is enough.

Wow, I need to get this game.

*smacks forehead*... lol man oh man

Wow, I need to get this game.

I have the ADHD problem with videogames. I lose interest pretty soon. Specially online games. I start getting pretty good and I'm sure I could be a top ranker but I lose interest and never connect again. The only games that have my attention for long times are games with good (VERY GOOD and SERIOUS) storyline and great and never ending fun (Devil May Cry, Smash Melee, ALL THE FINAL FANTASIES, Metal Gear Solids) and some random games like Killer7 (love it; crazy randomness) and mech games like armored core.

I play video games randomly. I will become totally addicted for like a month or 2 maybe then stop playing for months. I like to play online games and they can be fun but I don't like being committed to playing a certain amount of time. MY hubby plays WOW and he will get on and play for like 8 hours straight. I can't do that.

I play video games randomly. I will become totally addicted for like a month or 2 maybe then stop playing for months.

Yeah, I do the same thing. I'm all or nothing with everything I do, including video games. I just spent almost 2 whole days replaying an Xbox game, then lost interest halfway through and haven't touched it for days. :p

i love my games....then my mom watched the intervention episode and then i became a 'video game addict' lol

mine is day of defeat:source. I love it because it's multi-player online, first person shooter, but I mostly love it because I can't get SUCKED into it like fantasy games, collecting items, earning cash, buying equipment, leveling my characters. Been there done that! With day of defeat I can log on, shoot a bunch of fools and log off. No saved game, no quests.

On my days off I play WAY too much, but I don't play when my finace' is around, even though I would if I could. It definitely becomes an escape and in the end is unhealthy.

my boyfriend can play wow he pays $ 15 a month to play online with other is a waste or money i think all day i find it useless i used to play lots and lots of video games but i don't care for it much now like he does i can play teken and marvel vs capcom on the arcade and rush but nothing else i don't own any system any more is irritating waiting to talk or hangout with boyfriend when hes on the video games always but im planing to buy WII AND WII SPORTS SOON that be one addiction soon

Marytza: Wii is awesome. my entire family plays it and we all love it, right down to my five year old.

renew: how's it going with husband?

Marytza: Wii is awesome. my entire family plays it and we all love it, right down to my five year old.

renew: how's it going with husband?
ya cant wait to own it

*Dreaded Mod Note*
Can we please try to keep this on topic. If you'd like to discuss games, game systems, and what is the best/worst please take it to a new thread in Chit-Chat. Thank you. :)

Can we please try to keep this on topic

I shall second that motion . . . .

The topic being

Problems with spouses who play video games so much it is effecting our relationship with them. . .. some how talking about which ones you want to own is a conflict in interest" {IMHO}

I think TV can have the same effect some times - that is how I gained an on-line life - Gary watched soo much TV it was boring I couldn't talk to him there was no together time it was him watching TV and then going to bed. I tried complaining but to no avail - so I got on the computer one night - rummaged around found this place then he began complaining abut how long I am on the computer - one day I removed both machines from the living room and placed them in a storage unit - so we could talk about the issue. Once his TV was gone he noticed how much time he spent in front of it - he still watches TV but if I need to talk he is willing to turn the thing off and listen - we also make plans to do thing together some times and have nights where the TV and computer stay off . . . oh and he also quit complaining about how much time I spend on-line. . . . some times I do not think ADDers realize how much time some thing consumes until it is like gone . . . .