I want to share an amazing poem with those of you, who like me have struggled in their past relationships with others. It really spoke to me.

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"Love After Love" by Derek Walcott
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</TD></TR><TR><TD><TABLE cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 width="100%" border=0><TBODY><TR><TD vAlign=top width=20> </TD><TD vAlign=top GoZRP="1" MnY3A="14">The time will come
when, with elation
you will greet yourself arriving
at your own door, in your own mirror
and each will smile at the other's welcome,

and say, sit here. Eat.
You will love again the stranger who was your self.
Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart
to itself, to the stranger who has loved you

all your life, whom you ignored
for another, who knows you by heart.
Take down the love letters from the bookshelf,

the photographs, the desperate notes,
peel your own image from the mirror.
Sit. Feast on your life.</TD></TR></TBODY></TABLE>
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very nice.

cant love anyone until you love yourself....

that and good communication....


Write that down.