I had just ended a serious relationship not too long ago. I really wasn't wanting another one right away. I went to my regular hair salon and my stylist had a new apprentice student. She is dynamite! Drop dead gorgeous. Why do those types flock to hair styling? Anyway, she gave me HER phone number;) and we talked for as long as we could before she had to get back to work.

This never happens to me. She is totally crazy for me and I for her. I know it is just puppy love, but I will take it! All day long!!! I hope the puppy love phase can last for long time. I am drunk with love. I think about her and want her 24/7. I am effortlessly walking on clouds all the time.

Love/relationships really do happen when you least want them or expect them. When you are desperate or trying to force something is usually when it is hardest. Go figure. I read about people not concentrating during sex :eek:, that must be challenging.

Do you fall hard? Are you a hopeless romantic? I am. :rolleyes:

Oh I tend to fall too fast . . . I am guessing you are wanting the truth.

riff.raff, you sound like a person who needs a LOT of stimuation. Let me guess: you like high risk activities, events? look, you are feeling INFATUATION with this girl! how old are you anyway? you sound and act of someone very young(early 20s), I'm late 30s so I can say this! :)

All I can say is have fun(if you are this young). It will not last. But enjoy the ride. Just don't end up like me, late 30s, lonley, frustrated and single!

I agree, live, love, get you high stimulation out of the way before you settle down, marry and produce little riff.raffs...

nice, ArmitageSharks! funny stuff! :)

Errr word of warning from a guy with salt in his beard....the need for high stimulation doesn't go away when the girlfriends biological clock goes ding-a-ling......and I'm being DEADLY SERIOUS....sorry guys but you've got ADD...IT DOESN'T GO AWAY....

Thats ADD's MOST SERIOUS ISSUE....your partner will expect you "settle down", as she's seem others do. Unless she is VERY mature forgiving kind and strong she will not understand why you cannot change like all her friends guys did and fulfill the role of caring and dutiful dad and hold down that job "for the sake of the kids".

Then chatting to the girl in the tight top who;s cutting your hair'll be a REALLY dangerous thing to do in more ways than one!



kilt

LOL at name armitagesharks...those must be the scary things I heard on the other end of the great white telephone.

My chick ROX! Playin' it for all it's worth! :rolleyes:

I wish I could TELL YOU EVERYTHING! But I am a gentlemen. Let's just say I am a happy camper. I keep telling her that I do not want a full blown relationship and that I am still recovering, but I don't think she is really hearing me.

I feel like I am leading her on because I am doing all of the things I have done in the past- spoiling her, wine and dine, etc. etc. So I am COMPULSIVE.

Where is the line between "normalcy" and "compulsive" when your head is fogged with puppy love. This is the best I have felt about myself and about life in a very long time. I know it will be over at some point, but I have quite a catch on my hands. Not fair to rebound on somebody as special as this.

DEAR ABBY,

....................:D

Kilted Scotsman,

Thanks for sharing your post. I totally identify with what you said. It does seem that those of us with ADD are in search of high stimulation even in our relationships. It's frustrating to me that this will never go away. So how do you deal with it??

(Women initially think I'm a nice, sweet, 'normal' guy with lots of diverse interests. Then they get to know the real me and realize that I "march to the beat of a different drummer" and can't deal with it themselves on an emotional level. And then I get rejected by them because they can't quite figure me out or they're unable to put me into their box. This pattern has been driving me crazy!)

ahhh, you are young. Good luck, buddy! probably a surfer as well? haha!!

Brakna,

try not to worrry so much about relationships with woman. You sound a lot like me a few years back. It will eat you up...overanalyzing stuff, situations, etc....read some of Kittled Scotsman messages, he has some good ideas, experience and observations on why ADDers struggle so much with relationshps, not only with the opposite sex, but with people in general. For some ADDers, relationship difficulty is a lot more of an issue than with other's. I know it is for me.

Yeah I'd definitely say, calm down homes. Haha, I know you're enjoying the rush but it's only gonna hurt that much more when it comes crashing down. Sorry don't wanna be a downer here, but I'm just being honest. Just take a step back and think every now and then that it IS infatuation you're dealing with here.

But it seems you do realize this isn't the real thing so I'd say just enjoy it while it lasts.