I was diagnosed in August of last year. Was on 20mg Adderol which seems to work a little but really just took the edge off. December 21st resigned from my job and in April am leaving for an one year Navy deployment. String together some orders, get a degree in my specialty and become a defense 'ho.

I suspect I need a more detailed diagnosis. Cannot stand structured social situations. Never know what to say and don't pick up social que's at all. Always saying the wrong thing or something not related in no way to the current conversation. Finding myself thinking "Will you shut the **** up please!"

Need lots of different stimulus at the same time. That is why the military is such a good fit. My previous job was coding and I swear hate does not come even close to the way I felt everyday.

Was married for 16 years. Got married for the wrong, wrong, worng reasons. Yes it was a disaster. Thank God there are no kids.

Cannot maintain friendships. It just seems to suck the life out of me to go through the useless chit-chat and BS to do it. I just cannot put the energy into maintaining that social framework.

Very fixated on everything having a "point". What is the results of this? Why am I doing this? What will this lead to? Options? Other methods, etc.

I cannot date at all. I cannot even relate to females. I get infatuated than lose interest. Even if I don't all the game playing and coded communications just kill me. MOTHER****** WILL YOU SAY WHAT IS IN YOUR FREAKING MIND???? I know what the point of it is but i cannot participate. After its past the initial infatuation it's over. Every time. I have pretty much given up. But, women are always drawn to me like moths to a flame.

Patience. HUH????

However, I am the best at giving advice to people. People are always seeking me out for answers to the "deeper questions". Our interaction has a "point".

Am alone but not lonely. I hear people all the time complain they have to go home to an empty home, apartment, condo but every time I walk through the door of my apartment its YESSSSS!!! I feel my pulse go down, tension leave.

Got the daydreaming thing going down pat.

I'm multiracial (European (several countries) Jamaican, American Indian (Sioux). People are always expecting me to like certain things or look at events in a certain manner and when I don't they get angry. Black's expect me to have black taste's and views (I don't) and when I don't their mad, white's see black and when my tastes become known (I like rock for instance) they don't know what to do. Essentially I just tell them to kiss my ***.

DO NOT TOUCH ME!!! I AM NOT YOUR FRICKEN PLAY TOY OR SQUEEZE BOX.

Most sarcastic person you have ever met.

All done.

Most sarcastic person you have ever met.


You obviously are NOT from my family - sarcasm happens to be our specialty.

We not only dish it our we take it pretty well - people at first do not know how to take us because we are soo blunt - even the NTer are blunt because well they have to be or no one will "get it" - being NTer is also an abnormal condition in our family a majority are various forms of ADDers. Most find it to be far more comfortable after they get used to it - we don't do mind games - don't have the attention span nor are we intersted in obtaining one.


white's see black and when my tastes become known (I like rock for instance) they don't know what to do

Play it if they got it - that is what I would do any way. . . I happen to like rock my self.

I do not understand some thing here - you mean ethnicity has thing one to do with musical taste????

I learn new stuff every day. Does this mean Caucasians can not like the blues, soul or rap? Wow I didn't realize this but then again I normally have my head up my *** any way - The view is better up there when in some social circles. . . .


DO NOT TOUCH ME!!! I AM NOT YOUR FRICKEN PLAY TOY OR SQUEEZE BOX.


Reminds me of Pink's Respect song "back up boy I ain't your toy or you piece of **"



MOTHER****** WILL YOU SAY WHAT IS IN YOUR FREAKING MIND????

Go for a more hyper impulsive ADDer type female and this shall be no problem - you will know what is on her mind weather you want to or not. . . dating the wrong type perhaps?



I get infatuated than lose interest.

Yea I can be like that with men which is why I used to casually date but I did not exclusively date one man - well until right before I got married any way - and I was honest about it - did I mention I wasn't normal but I am female - that is what my birth certificate says and my hubby tends to agree.




Finding myself thinking "Will you shut the **** up please!"


I move I find very few people can walk and talk - may be worth it to find some thing to do while they are talking - even if they have mastered walking and talking the conversation is usually more bearable if I am in motion.




Cannot stand structured social situations

You ahead of me here what is a structured social situation?



Essentially I just tell them to kiss my ***.


I am a what you see is what you get type person - if that is a problem then please see above quoted line -

I haven't a clue if any one else here can relate but I can - cool post

Please forgive my ignorance but - what is an "NTer"?

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I believe it means, "normal person'.

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cameron is correct. . . . NT short for neurotypical

Finding myself thinking "Will you shut the **** up please!"



For real though.

I sat through a conversation today about the relative merits of sitting vs. not sitting: "I don't feel like sitting down," said person 1; "Ooh, I like sitting," said person 2, etc.

I don't get it. I will never, EVER be able to carry on a conversation like that. I just wouldn't know what to do if it was directed at me. I know I complain about how I wish I played better with others.. but is this the social interaction I'm supposed to get better at?? What I've been missing all this time, when I wasn't listening to people?? For ****'s sake.

Very fixated on everything having a "point". What is the results of this? Why am I doing this? What will this lead to? Options? Other methods, etc.



I am also very much like this. destroys all my dating relationships. Just cannot stand to be in the grey area...I need to know exactly where I stand, where things are going, what the end result is going to be (don't want to waste my time). Even with friends, can't stand someone saying "yeah, maybe we can get together this weekend..." NO! tell me yes or no, where, when, and what we'll be doing. Same at work, but I'm lucky because the "point" of each project is very well defined.

For real though.

I sat through a conversation today about the relative merits of sitting vs. not sitting: "I don't feel like sitting down," said person 1; "Ooh, I like sitting," said person 2, etc.

I don't get it. I will never, EVER be able to carry on a conversation like that. I just wouldn't know what to do if it was directed at me. I know I complain about how I wish I played better with others.. but is this the social interaction I'm supposed to get better at?? What I've been missing all this time, when I wasn't listening to people?? For ****'s sake.


I can soo relate . . . .


To think we are the ones with a "dysfunction" - not being able to tolerate that clap trap makes me "abnormal" okay {what ever}

Meadd823

What I mean is that when most people see me they assume, based on my appearance, I like a certain kind of music. When they find out otherwise its "ohhhh....". In my head I'm thinking "F*** You". They assume. They assume they know me. They assume they know my tastes. They assume since I'm this I must like that. when I say "structured social situation" I mean any occasion you have to put the mask in place. Bars, dinners with coworkers, etc. Problem is I do not have a mask. Will not play that. If you get a chance read Shakespear's play Coriolanus. Coriolanus was a Roman ADDer. Sample verse "You common cry of curs who's breath I hate, who reek 'o the rotten fens, whose loves I prize as the carcasses of unburied men that do corrupt my air...."

Problem is I do not have a mask.

Oh neither do I . . . I didn't know these things were supposed to be structured - even if I did I doubt it would have done much good I try to be considerate and if that ain't good enough **** it any way.






What I mean is that when most people see me they assume, based on my appearance

Oh okay I see the problem with my understanding - I was born with a lack of ability to form preconceived notions - I can not even comprehend the idea of having expectations of how people should or should not be when I meet them. People are going to be how they are not matter what I think they should be so why bother with should be and just accept people as they are. . . I will have to warn you though I am considered strange.

I will have to warn you though I am considered strange.

That I can accept and deal with. The preconcieved notions of others is BS.

I agree with you there and I am sorry you are on the receiving end.

I have to remind myself that other people's preconceived notions are a reflection of who they are and it doesn't really have any thing to do with who I am - after all they had the stigma in their brains before I ever came along. . . it allows me to be a little more tolerant of this type of ignorance.

AHahahaaaaa....

This made me laugh simply because i too have felt your frustration, we may be from different walks of life, but amazingly enough a mental disorder sure does make strangers come together for a common gripe.

my profile is labeled "newbie".. which is fitting considering i am newly diagnosed.

not surprisingly...

i am very much ADHD and got a wopping 60 MG of adderall right away to seal the stamp on my on going struggle for why am I this way??

so now i am going to mimick you by rattling off all my wonderful self actualizations.

i have a strong need for people that leaves me quite bored and dissapointed when i get to see how unfullfilling people truly are. I tend to "hyperfocus"...(a new additon to my vocab..) on people who peak my interest... they once ive mastered their every detail, i find another host like a parasite seeking to feed off the stimulation that one has to give. leaving my prey battered, broke, and confused onto what the **** just happened.

i tend to have a low level of empathy unless i am directly involved in the experience worth feeling. over the years i would get so wrapped up in the circumstances and the emotions that came with it i would mistake it for feeling. such as puppy love never quite reaches the "love" stage... it is all a matter of getting your "fix" that your brain hungers for.

through my undiagnosed years i spent most of my energy running from myself and seeking stimulation. i adopted friends that were more ****ed in the head than i was... dated a plethora of screwed up men which consisted of me looking for any guy who was only interested in a physical relationship so that i wouldnt have to commit and it gave me the internal turmoil that i desired. eventually destroying my self worth that contributed to my downward spiral of self destructive behavior. which came naturally to me after being singled out a deviant in school and never making the grade.

but, we adjust, we persevere, in reality, we COMPENSATED for our handicaps. see the lesson to anyone reading this, if nothing else, We Are All ****ed in the head... what makes life worth living, is how we deal with it.

so, i became an event planner, thats a shocker... mutli-tasking is my friend... Moved to california and abused substances all in the effort to feel some kind of connection between me and the world around me.

"I WAS IN A GLASS BOX OF EMOTION!!" hahahaaaa... no really i was... everything i did was indirectly an attempt to deal with my so called "disorder."

Im artist, creative, outgoing, smart, pretty, young.... i tend to say inappropriate things that people think is alluring... people are drawn to me because they sense it comes from my confidence... but it doesnt... i can look like a beautiful swan one minute then fall on my face like a clumsy bear with no rhyme or reason... the inconsistancy would drive someone insane...

us ADHD woman are said to have an ability to "think outside the box"... or "get the big picture"... but how can someone so interesting and somehow inspiring be so dumb as to blurt out stupid comments, wear slippers to a wedding, count incorrect change, and not be able to even comprehend the idea of balancing a checkbook?

alfred einstein is suspected to have ADD... that is a mascot i would like to adopt... i settled for pig pen.

To someone with ADHD... they adopt a motto though,

STIMULUS IS MY FRIEND!

im often looked at at kooky, weird, and defiant. I too found authority hard to handle. i felt i was always above the rules.. they were for the stupid people i would think.

if it didnt have some sort of logical reason for said rule, such as order, safety, or moral standings, they did not apply to me.

which is interesting to me you being in the navy... they are cocked full of pointless tasks and bull**** authority.

i find it extremely difficult to fit into society. i cant even park my car in the exact spot you tell me to. everything is always better with a little twist right?

all my life i have been told that i dont listen, whether it be attention problems, defiant behaviors, or neurological synapses exploding into a sparkling display of dancing endorphines mixed with serotonin with a dash of dopamines laced with some mixed amphetimine salts and we've got ourselves a party in our brain....


so... class? what have we learned about little miss "why ask why?"

I'll tell you...

Better living through Chemistry....

Step 1: Get MEDS.

Step 2: Realize that this is a part of who you are... good and bad. and love

it all.

Step 3: **** People... if they dont have it, they wont understand.

Step 4: Find people who like you... ADHD and all. Throw a book at them
about ADD and ADHD and see if it sticks... if not... oh well.

Step 5: Lighten up... Life isn't over yet....

and im spent....