Do people put you down easy?

When someone says something like...

"you are useless"
"you cant do anything correct"
"you are a waste of space"
"is that the best you can do?"

and so on....

When people say stuff like this to me, I get depressed, and I feel like a bad person, and someone who is just a waste of space. And it makes my ADD symptoms worse.

I am also trying to figure out the big difference between ADD and depression?

Fraz

i feel ya i have the same issues on that to

I'm like that on my "down" days too. Adhd has its happy hyper days and its bad days. I try not to talk to people on those days because nothing good ever comes out of it and they will ask me why im depressed and everything else will just make me more depressed..

I don't allow it to effect me, if people think those types of things then it is their problem.

I have that as well. I can be touched in both negative and positive ways really easy.

yep me too. I thought I was just being sensitive :) Was most apparent back when I was at school - I was the class scapegoat for bullying :/

From what I've been hearing lately about Scotland, the attitude there seems quite abusive. You are aware that such comments as,

"you are useless"
"you cant do anything correct"
"you are a waste of space"
"is that the best you can do?"

are destructive, right? I mean - no WONDER you feel depressed after someone says something like that to you. Any NORMAL person WOULD!! BUT - it's really the person SAYING such things who's the "bad person" - NOT YOU!! Saying such things to someone is ABUSIVE!

If this continues to happen to you, do you know ANY PEOPLE who are nurturing and supportive that you can find refuge from these abusive people??? I hope so. You really must or these jerks will wear you down and crush your spirit!! (Please let me know if you're without any love and support. It's ESSENTIAL that you have some!)

Love,
Sue

From what I've been hearing lately about Scotland, the attitude there seems quite abusive.

I really don't think it's about geography and culture... we have plenty of jerks here in the USA, so I wouldn't blame Scotland. Of course I'm a bit prejudiced, having Scots and Irish blood.

Oh... maybe you meant the soccer fans!!! (JK)

Personally I don't listen to people like that (referring to the original post). Anybody who would say that kind of stuff has some serious insecurities. Besides, I have enough stress from all my self-criticism! ):

"you are useless"
"you cant do anything correct"
"you are a waste of space"
"is that the best you can do?"

and so on....

That's verbal abuse.

Not to mention incredibly rude.

Why would anyone want to be around a person who
thinks it's perfectly ok to be so rude and abusive?

It would make me wonder if that's the way they were
talked to when they were growing up. Maybe those
people just don't know any better, in which case they
should spend some serious time talking with a shrink
about why they need to put other people down in
order to feel good about themselves.

I wouldn't waste my time with people that act like
that. If this is coming from someone you have to
be around for some reason or another, I think I'd
try to "kill them with kindness." Meaning, be extra
nice to them and treat the poor b*stards with all
the love you can stand to give them. Could be
that's what they're missing in life. You know,
someone to show them how to be nice no matter
what.

It would be interesting to see how they react to
being treated with kindness no matter how nasty
they are.

But no way would I let them continue to talk to
me that way. Speak up and insist on being
talked to with the same respect they want from
you. No long winded explanations, just simply
insist on proper manners and respect.

I know that seems impossible right now, but
the more you speak up for yourself - the easier
it gets. And consider this: if you don't speak up
for yourself, who will?

And, you are anything but those things. You are very bright, extremely sensitive, highly reflective, genuine, great mischievous sense of humour...

You need to find a way to feel better about yourself. Sue's right, you need to surround yourself with love and support. You can always PM me.

As to your other question: while ADD and depression can co-exist, one of the reasons depression occurs in ADDers is due to untreated ADD, which reminds me, have you gone to see your doctor? Stubborn! Add stubborn to the list. :)

And, you are anything but those things. You are very bright, extremely sensitive, highly reflective, genuine, great mischievous sense of humour...

You need to find a way to feel better about yourself. Sue's right, you need to surround yourself with love and support. You can always PM me.

As to your other question: while ADD and depression can co-exist, one of the reasons depression occurs in ADDers is due to untreated ADD, which reminds me, have you gone to see your doctor? Stubborn! Add stubborn to the list. :)

I seen my doctor once about ADD, and he told me to arrange an appointment with my psycologist.........and I never got round to arranging anything....

Now I live in a different city, with a full time job, and I dont think I have the time to make an appointment with my psycologist..... i think I left things too long. :(

It makes me so sad to think of how many other people's "goodness" is so lost in translation. It describes my interactions with others completely.

"If people truly love you/care/are worth spending energy on THEY DO NOT SAY THESE MEAN THINGS."

It is a mantra I constantly batter to adhere to. It is hard to tolerate only respect from other people.

Go and see a phychologist if you think you need to see one. You're not any of the things those idiots are saying, but if you're feeling depressed you're very vunerable to the things people do and say. (Even if they are gits.)

If anyone gives you cr@p, just tell them that your a ninja!...they will back off....unless they know kung-fu, then they might not, so carry around ninja stars, just in case.

Listion fraz, there are SEVEN! diffrent kinds of intelligence, and most people think that "shutting up, and doing what your told in the most optimal form" is the most prime form of intelligence...heh, don't beleive it!

re: #1

You need to get away from people who talk to you that way. It's verbal abuse. Ofcourse it makes you feel like crud. :(